Buyer beware of this particular scenario from a you meet a guy from online. You finally meet the guy who you have been talking to and texting for a couple of weeks. You decide to finally meet have drinks and it goes really well. Between the two of you there is so much in common the conversations doesn’t end. He asked to see you the next day, and of course your excited and agree. He texts you throughout the day “What are you doing? I can’t wait to see you!”. You see him after work and again same excited conversation. He then asked to see you everyday in that week. You start thinking wow this could be something, he could be a game changer for you.
Suddenly the week after he only see’s you three days of the week. He gets busy with work and doesn’t really have time because of this big project he is working on. You understand but you realize he isn’t texting you as often. Then the next week he doesn’t text or call you at all. You’re confused because you thought you guys really hit it off what happened. If this sounds familiar you have been a victim of the Shiny Penny Syndrome.
Now this is obviously not a clinical term (although it should be). The Shiny Penny Syndrome describes what guys do when they get a new shiny penny. When the first get one all they do is want to play with it. Its new, exciting, and flashy. After a week they get bored and want a new penny. Sorry ladies I wish guys were more complicated than that, but they are not. Not to say this is gender specific but lets face it, typically it is the guys who are more prone to this.
I know that dating sucks and when you finally meet someone who isn’t a douche bag, you can get excited. However, this usually just ends in a little hurt feelings and more reasons to give up. Although there is not a known cure for this syndrome, but there are some steps you can take to avoid this type scenario.
Step 1: Be Busy. Even though you don’t have plans being in a mini relationship in a week is too fast. When you first meet plan on seeing him max twice in a week.
Step 2: Set up other dates. Keep your options open if you’re one who tends to dive into things
Step 3: Whatever you do, do not text first. Ladies until we get equal pay we need to understand that guys like to feel like they are in control. Don’t be the aggressor.
Step 4: Be realistic, you can’t really know someone in a month let alone a week. Realize that before jumping emotionally into something.