Why You Should Enjoy Being a Single Over 40
Are you a single over 40 scouring online dating sites on a daily basis to search for your soul mate? You know… the one who’ll scoop you up and save you from your lonely, miserable life. The one who’ll shower you with gifts, tell you that you’re the one, and take you far, far away from this pathetic old life of yours.
In all seriousness, please don’t play the victim card. Being a single over 40 doesn’t have to equal spending every Friday night glued to your sofa, watching Hugh Grant comedies and sniffling over multiple trays of ho-ho’s. In fact, being single is fun. And if you learn to enjoy singledom for what it is, you’re more likely to meet and attract potential mates.
Meeting worthy candidates of the opposite sex is tough as it is, and you’ll only make it harder on yourself by moaning about your single status and obsessing over marriage. Now, this is not to say that you should quit your search for Mr. or Ms. Right; it’s just a matter of learning how to enjoy your life so that you attract higher quality singles and most importantly, have fun!
Being partnered up isn’t the key to happiness, contrary to what our romance-obsessed culture tells us. The images of happy couples, marriage, and having thousands of babies are idealized, but let’s face it: as a single, you’re in an enviable position. You have freedom! Sneaky users of websites like Ashley Madison would pay you at least a year’s worth of membership dues to be in your shoes.
Achieve Inner Peace as a Single Over 40
When you learn to accept your single status and enjoy your time alone, you’ll start to feel at peace with yourself. And when you achieve a sense of self-acceptance, you won’t measure your self-worth based on whether or not you have a mate. You’ll learn to prize your solitary moments, the variety of friendships you have, your career, and the other perks of living la vida single.
If you take a quick look around on online dating websites and browse profiles of singles over 40, you’ll undoubtedly find that many of the folks in your age range seem desperate for some kind – any kind – of connection. Do you find that desperation attractive? Probably not, right? More likely than not, you feel repelled by it, and if you give off vibes that you’re lonely and desperate, you’re going to turn off potential mates, too.
So, learn to love yourself, have fun on your own, and cultivate your interests. Take up hobbies, play sports, take singing lessons, or learn how to cook. Just do something besides wait till the love of your life comes to sweep you off your feet.
You’re not tied down to someone, so you could take on that adventurous job that requires lots of business travel without anybody for permission. Or you can sell your urban apartment and set off to the countryside to live in a cottage, like you always dreamed of doing as a child. Not everyone has the privilege of experiencing that kind of freedom, so treasure it.
And eventually, while you’re having a blast, doing all the things in life that you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time for, you’ll catch someone’s eye. That someone could very well end up becoming your future mate. And to be honest, that special someone probably wouldn’t have felt so attracted to you if you weren’t enjoying yourself and living life to the fullest. After all, who wants to marry a lonely, grumpy single over 40 sans interests? No one… not even another lonely, grumpy single!
So, the point of this article is this: I encourage you to lead the life you’ve always dreamed of living, no matter how old you are. Don’t waste these precious years wishing that you were somebody else or that somebody was by your side. Take control of your life and do the things that you love. Post photos of yourself on your online dating profile that picture you laughing, having fun, and being YOU. Talk about your interests and passions. Don’t seek companionship just to fit in or fill a void. Sure, you want love, but not to make your life complete; your life is complete as it is. You want love because you know that it will enhance what you already have.
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