The thing is, if you think you are more attractive to men like me (probably most men) because you have “a great complexion” or some other laughable nonsense you are just trying to fool yourself into feeling as hot as a thin woman without putting in the work it takes.

The thing is, unlike something like hairloss, which really is something no one can help, almost anyone CAN lose weight it’s just a matter of motivation and willpower, something you aren’t going to have if you have convinced yourself your already hot.

Like the Monroe comparison:

“Marilyn Monroe used to be hot and she was ‘bigger’”

Last I checked, she still is hot. Guys liked what was bigger than the norm at the time, because most people were thin at the time. Nowadays, guys like what is thinner than the norm. Why? Not because guys’ tastes have particularly changed, but because the norm has gotten bigger. A lot bigger.

How does a guys attraction work? Why are all guys into the same thing?

Well, attraction is all about personal taste: so long as there are no glaring problems. As long as you don’t have any major problems, it becomes entirely up to the guy’s personal taste.

But see… Obesity is a problem. A big problem. 1 in 3 are obese. Many more than that are overweight.

Pre-80′s (maybe earlier), this problem wasn’t so prevalent. People were thin. Or at least, much thinner. So that whole issue was basically out of the way.

Nowadays? It’s not that guys want unnaturally thin girls, it’s that they just want girls who are not fat. Is that such a bad thing? No, so long as they are not fat-bashing.

I mean really. Look at all this. The point was to keep people from being regularly picked on for being overweight. Now we’re to the point where if you happen to like someone thin, you’re considered shallow.

If guys are nice or shy, we’re expected to “shape up and man up” to conform to her expectations. Yet a girl can keep getting bigger and guys are just expected to totally fall for that? Yeah…that’s not a double standard at all…

No wonder everyone seems to think guys are such jerks. Guy not attractive enough? His fault for being weak. Girl not attractive enough? The guy’s fault for being too shallow to fall head-over-heels for EVERYONE.

Here’s my tip: Keep up and about, walking to classes, keeping high energy. Keep your enthusiasm, and keep things in moderation.

This is a problem we need to work together to solve. But lord knows, we could all stand to focus more on what we can control about ourselves, and what we can’t control in others.

Fat people are gross and lazy. And don’t give me this ‘its genetic’ bullshit. If you burn more calories than you take in YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT. This is a LAW OF PHYSICS.

Muscular > Skinny > Fat.

Amen.

Maybe you white guys should stop being so full of yourselves. Regardless of what YOU prefer? I, and the majority of my friends don’t really want any of you.

Yes, we date you, play dumb, get your # and your money. But to be honest? we prefer black men. Why? they are far more attractive, have larger penises, and more athletic. They aren’t cowards, and though you may call them thugs, they are far better protection/intimidating. (great protection factor if you’re talking about “evolution”. White men have always been intimidated by them.

So yeah, we’ll take your money, and make you think you’re “all that”? but the moment you leave the house…

Men are attracted to thin women, becuase : Thin women are not fat lazy women.
In order to be thin you have to be active. In order to stay thin you have to be healthy.
Sounds like a bunch of Angry Fat Women in here.

I wouldn’t want a guy who only cares about my looks, and I also wouldn’t want a guy who is obese either. But I don’t sit there and say “man, he looks like a fat slob. He must eat everything in site’ no because I simply don’t care, and I find everyone beautiful in their own way no matter skinny or big. I myself used to be 170 lbs and considered myself fat, and I was right. But I did something about it because I was so unhappy with my body. True, there are overweight people who can do everything in the power and just not lose weight. But I do see a lot of really overweight people who say ‘oh I wan’t to lose weight so bad, I don’t even know how I got to the weight’ and then they go and order a super sized meal at McDonald’s. Yes, it is very hard to lose weight. Iv’e struggled to keep to my diet, but I still enjoy a fattening meal every once in a while, so I sometimes think some of them don’t try hard enough. I’m not saying all, just some.
And another thing, why do guys assume girls who are skinny are healthier? All my friends were super skinny, and ate more than I did! plus they never participated in P.E and if they did they would just walk the track instead of running it. There are a lot of skinny girls who have a super fast metabolism, and can basically eat anything and everything they want. It’s just stupid to say that if you are skinnier you are healthier, I used to be bulimic and struggled so hard with my weight loss. But now I am doing it the right way by diet and exercise, and I am doing it for myself not for some guy.
And for that doctor who said skinny girls have ‘tighter tubes’ so the sex is better, well I wouldn’t want a guy whose penis I couldn’t feel. Maybe some guys on here have small dicks, and are making up for it being shallow and wanting a smaller girl. My favorite saying is ‘bigger girls can take a bigger pounding’ these guys must not be afraid to break them, because they most likely have a small wee wee. And I know that some (SOME, not all) skinny chicks are not better in bed, It seems that bigger(not obese or badly overweight. Just normal) are better in bed. With some skinny, hotter gals all they expect to do is lay there and look pretty. Sometimes bigger girls do more, and preform more. I’m one of them, (I read a lot of books even though I am still a virgin I am very open about sex.
I just don’t feel that everyone should base things solely on looks, sure we all are visual and that will be what attracts them at first. But I have seen a lot of hot women, who are not smart and very conceited. I’m just saying to guys, you don’t have to date a bigger woman. I would suggest you become friends with one, because you might find you love their personality and enjoy them. I do believe if you get to know someone, they either become uglier or prettier because of their personality. I dated a guy who was really hot, come to find out he is super shallow and a jerk. He started getting less attractive to me, and I also was really good friends with a guy who wasn’t that good looking but he was super sweet and smart and funny. I started to like him, and his looks started to change in my eyes, I actually saw him to be cute, and handsome.
It’s just wrong to judge people, and if you are shallow and only care about looks instead of the mind also. You will likely end up with an Ex-wife who stole all of your money and ran off with the pool boy.

Side note: I do believe that there’s such a thing as too big and too skinny. If you’re nothing but bones or so big you can’t walk and it’s affecting your health then guess what, you’re not healthy. I personally prefer to be healthy over being a certain weight. We focus far too much on weight rather than health. We need to learn to feed our bodies right and move them more. So if I eat right and exercise, and I don’t become a size 4 or whatever, I think I would be fine as long as I’m healthy.

Bottom line: Focus on your Health. Stop stressing over what everybody thinks and what the media says. Looks only go so far.

As a larger woman, it is easier in a lot of ways to no longer want male attention. Even if I was 50 pounds lighter, I would still have the same issues if I was dating: Am I pretty/skinny/sexy enough? I had less self-esteem as a skinnier woman and felt I was still not good enough or the “cellulite” I thought i had on my tights still made me less than. The lady, who is the thinner stripper, said what a lot of women feel. This woman is probably every man’s ideal being a pretty stripper yet her mate still is seeking out an ideal that does not include her.

Being a larger woman has been liberating. I do not have to only order a salad when I go out to try to prove to the Male Arrogant Eye that I will never become obese. I can enjoy who I am as a person without worrying about the idiocy that comes from dating and relationships. For the first time in my life, I love myself. I have been without a date or a mate for 2 years. I doubt I would ever even date again. It is the adage of how women can be larger and happy when they are not trying to impress a man.

Thin ladies, remember that life brings on unexpected changes. Bodies change due to age or health. Traumatic experiences can bring on weight gain. Love yourself before you give yourself to any man. Sex before marriage….those relationships often end even for the loveliest looking of women and the ladies will have tons of emotional baggage regardless of her body type.

Sexual selection provides organisms with adaptations related to mating. For male mammals, which have a relatively fast reproduction rate, sexual selection leads to adaptations that help them compete for females. For female mammals, with a relatively slow reproduction rate, sexual selection leads to choosiness, which helps females select higher quality mates.

It’s only been in the last few decades that food is cheap and plentiful and our bodies and minds haven’t had time to adjust. We tone and groom ourselves to fit the profile of a healthy primitive to “trick” Mother Nature. We dress and show behaviors that advertise our best evolutionary traits (health, childbearing ability, intelligence, etc.) and conceal our flaws (height, weight, etc). That’s why cosmetics and high heels work-they make you look healthier to a potential mate.

You can’t fight evolution, if you want to get along; you’ve got to go along.

I’m 20 years old, the first time I had sex I was 18 years old. I’ve dated the same girl for nearly 3 years now, she’s wonderful -inside, but currently not out.

When we first met, she exercised daily (jogs, yoga, etc.) and at 5 foot 3 she weighed 110 lbs -and boy did she look fit. Her body is what first attracted me, yes, that is how we work on a cellular level; But it was her mind that captivated me, and still to this day I love her.

I do not love the lack of respect she is showing to her own body however.

In the past year she has put on 80lbs, making her weigh more than I do. I myself am 6 foot 1, 185 lbs and work every other day at maintaining my body weight and staying in shape. She being much shorter than I and now weighing more than I… Simply put, we don’t have sex often anymore.

I can’t help it, she’s still the same person -but face it, I can’t have intercourse with her mind, I’m stuck with what she’s turned her body into, and it just doesn’t do it for me anymore.

She looks unhealthy, she acts unhealthy (always tired no matter how much sleep she gets, naps all the time, eats twice as much as I do but does is 1% as active as I am, etc.), I just can’t bring myself to get around by the jiggling fat I see whenever she takes a step; Or the way my hands sink several inches into her sides if I grab her by the hips, or the way her butt sags around my fingers when I pick her up etc.

I like a woman to have a certain level of respect for her own body, being obese is not only unattractive, it is also life-threateningly unhealthy.

You only have one body, why would you treat it like a trash compactor?

If you can’t respect your own body, how can you expect men to? Obesity is recognized instinctively as a bad thing, people cringe when they see a giant oompa-loompa lumbering through the grocery store.

It’s unhealthy, it’s not going to help you win any guys over. Fact.

So why do you keep eating a tub of ice cream every time you watch a movie?

Seriously..