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im not skinny but im not fat i have some junk in the trunk yes and i am very toned in my legs but there pretty big. i just dont get why the normal cute guys pick an ugly skinny or pettite girl over me and i m extreamly confedent and pretty i know that for a fact but when i get shot down even when i play realy hard to get it makes me wonder anyways thanks for letting me know why exactly they pick skinny girls over normal girls now i know

This article made me laugh!

I’m over 40, no hair on my head, single (divorced), but I don’t have a belly and I don’t have any desire to date women under 30. I’ve pulled a lot of women, in a wide variety of ages, shapes, sizes, and heights, and still continue to pull them. With all the options available to me, I am attracted to tall, thin women like a magnet. It has very little to do with societal value, and almost everything to do with sex – easy physical access to the goods down below, as well as ease of maneuverability. Plus, if she breaks a heel and sprains her ankle, well, I can just pick her up and carry her.

I’m with the guy who posted above me….I’m a guy in my mid 30′s and at this point in the game, it’s all about the sex. I was never a “looker” when I was in my younger years, so rapidly making up for lost time with all the 30 year old women who are desperate to land a boyfriend so they won’t be alone for the rest of their lives.

When hot young 20 year olds become hot not-so-young 40 year olds, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. As long as you got line on your fishing pole, you’re sure to land yourself a keeper.

reese you are fricken pathetic quit whinning that shitty guys don’t like you calling skinny petite girls ugly is not going to make you any prettier because you probally ugly and just plain annoying and just jealous because they are prettier than you.i bet your one of those ugly people who thinks thier hot but their not i’m slim 5’4 127pounds and people tell me i look good and i have a healthy bmi 21.8. and plus normal in this county is actually a bit chubby so how much do you weigh?

Great article. I agree with most of the points and as a guy I do find it harder to land skinny chicks. I’m dating a fattie right now and it’s depressing me on multiple levels, but ironically not because of sex. I think women are losing incentive to keep fit because with the obesity epidemic 1 in 4 women are obese in America so guys are stuck with it.

i totally agree with this article…it is a little ridiculous though. i don’t understand where any guy gets of thinking he has the right to have a “hot chick”
if you don’t have the body of an abercrombie model….then why should i have to?

as for RAF: that is the most disgusting thing i have ever heard. how dare you ever call your girlfriend a fattie. you deserve to get slapped by every person in the world right now for being an absolute pig.

I am 40 and single, I am not going bald and I don’t have a beer belly. The reason I like thin women is because they kick as and fat chicks gross me out.

try again with your logic the only thing you got right is I am 40 and single. I will die single before I hang with a fat pig. The biggest reason I am single is because women think it is ok to be a fat pig. Most guys think with there dick and over look it, I wont.

Some guys find skinny girls nauseating. (anorexic) a little weight wont hurt a girl. But alot is as nauseating as anorexic girls.

well all guys have different taste just like women do. some guys like big women others like them skinny.I personally think women need to get in shape to be HEALTHY, to have confidence , to give them more options…(like how not to settle with men like tim, our 40yr old douchebag up a couple of comments above me)LOL i mean your old and most likely jeffrey dahmer disgusting look alike. I work out alot to a point were i have reached a very toned body and i am good looking and i love turning done guys like tim

Well, most of the things posted in the article have truth to them. Who doesn’t want a woman who resembles a model or a pornstar? And most woman wouldn’t mind a guy who looks like Brad Pit or George Clooney.
Realistically though, we should mostly concentrate on whether we find our partner attractive. I have been with heavier women and I have to say that I was attracted to them in many ways. Not just because they were heavy or slim. Attraction depends on many factors, you have to take all of them into account, not just the person’s weight.

Also, look at yourself closely before demanding that your girl/guy look a certain way. The fish is most times only as good as the bait.

I am confused by this article. One minute it sounds like its against plus size women and in another paragraph it sounds like they are cheering them on to be who they are. SO which is it? I agree with some people here who say ” you like what you like.” I don’t feel its right to judge people based on appearance, what gives you the right to call some one a pig? or a fattie? whatever you throw out to the universe you get back 10 fold. Imagine what others maybe saying about you. You don’t know what struggles people may be going through, and everyone has their demons that cause them to be who they are. Skinny or Fat, Tall or Short difference is what makes this world unique. We need individuality to make this soceity work. Skinny may be in this Century, it could be OUT the next. Skinny does not automatically make you hot, there are plenty of “HOT” people that dont have personality, skills, and education. You need those things to survive in life. Vanity can only get you so far. I feel sorry for those of you who are narrow minded and can’t see beyond body parts and sex. It really shows your maturity level. Living life with an open heart and an open mind could be bring you so much more in life and You never know what your missing, so don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.

Well I am a bigger lady and I have no problem getting dates with successful, good looking mature men. Opening doors for me, taking me out, holding my hand and kissing me in public, taking me to hang out with their friends, taking me shopping. Being proposed to 3 times by such men. I believe a woman can be good looking, no matter what her size, as long as she has confidence in herself and I believe men are attracted to this.

Yes guys can be shallow pigs, but women are just as shallow. Girls will refuse to date a guy if he shorter than her when she is wearing high heals, has lost hair, dosn’t make atleast x amount of dollars, etc.

It’s easier for you women to get inshape than for me to grow taller.

You men who commented on this totally gross me out! No wonder most of you are 40 and still single… you have no respect for women! Men like to eat am I right? Well so do women, so what gives you the right to call women fatties and pigs… can we say superbowl parties…. Women like to eat just as much as men… sad thing is that women have to starve themselves just for you stupid men! Life is not all about sex! And let me say this… if you get a skinny girl pregnant… well she aint gonna be so skinny anymore!!!!!!!!!!

Larger women may be normal but normal is not good. Two thirds US population is over weight by medical standards. One third is obese. This shortens life and causes many medical problems and increases risk for many diseases. Not to mention low self esteem. Our children are becoming obese because they mimick their parents habits. Stop the denial people and get in shape. I would not date a large women (not talking about a few extra pounds), a smoker, drug user, or an alcoholic – all are choices.

I have to agree with Mike. In fact, there is a lady in New Jersey who weighs 600lbs and she is attempting to put on another 400lbs in 2 years.

Her reason: She wants to be the worlds fattest female.

Her name is Donna Simpson. Google “600lb lady” if you want to read more about her.

reese fat ugly w****s like you dervseve to die your worthless and pathtic so go **** yourslef people say i’m pretty but your not men are so ugly

(edited for language – K)

this is why America won’t change. I hope more Americans like me are still waiting for ppl to understand that obesity is not a good thing and deserves to be frowned upon. Healthy skinny girls are beautiful even without any help from media or porn. They simply don’t have to see the doctor as much and actually looks good to the eye.

I have to say that men who just look at women for there bodies are disgusting! When I met my husband, I was a size 2 and I am 5’10′ and a former model. However, I have PCOS and Thyroid disease which have both put weight on me(now a size 12) and make it nearly impossible to lose weight. My husband is still very much in love with me and my body! I am fortunate to have found somebody who is going to love me no matter what my body looks like because it would suck to have to try to find love in a world where men demand for women to look a certain way instead of accepting who they are and falling in love with their personalities.

asian women is GODS answer for what american women have become

im 20 artical is true but it gets deeper than that simply put any relationship starts with attraction then moves on to attitude and personality. and i told my fiancee to gain weight.

Who wrote this crap? I hope you don’t write more. You really suck. Also, I’m a man….but your writeup is sad. Like an obese virgin with no sense…

As a tall, thin, FIT woman I am completely disgusted by this article (and most of the lame comments). Obviously the author relates to number 8 on this ridiculous list… 40 something, balding, probably a little thick around the middle and trying to pick up on girls that could be his daughters. Pathetic. As a 20 something woman, trust me, those thin younger women DON’T want you to hit on them at the club and try to grind on their leg. They probably think it’s funny that you’re even trying.

Obese people is a major modern problem. This list is good, but leaves a lot out as well. Consider the psychological impact of fat girls teasing the thin guys, ignoring them, and so forth. Also, it’s a lot of work to gain muscle, while most women are putting forth zero effort to stay slim. If you are in your ideal weight range, then it shows that you at least care. Now, there’s nothing shallow about what the psyche desires. If a skinny girl is what it’s going to take to get me to orgasm…..why in the fuck would I go after a fat woman? That would be insanity, and any professional in the psychological realm would deem that as unhealthy.

Why do people only talk about extremes anymore?
Is it so hard to NOT focus on either the waif whose only thing that goes into her body is diet pepsi (because the ‘fatty’ soda is not acceptable) and cigarette smoke, with all of her rib-cage-showing-behind-her-none-existant-cleavage grossness, or some disgusting, fat, pale, lifeless blob, with jowls hanging off of every limb, and a lost piece of fried chicken somewhere between the east and southeast wing of her stomach?
God forbid that someone be IN BETWEEN?
That someone just be a healthy weight, and have a healthy relationship with food?

You are part of the cancer that is killing society.
I hope you choke on something

SAGE

I like skinny/petite women because there very feminine and vulnerable looking, and it feels good to be there man and protecter.

lmfao

well yes… men do look for the young fertile women to bear their children… cause the main function of a man is to fuck everything, you have to. in the past half of your kids die before adulthood. and women look for a man who can provide (ie good job, organization skills, whatever you think you need to raise your kids etc….), and of course has to be good looking.. she doesnt want fugly children. and viceversa a man doesnt want an ugly girl for the same reason right?

btw, what kind of fat we talking about? the only fat i can say is unacceptable is the 400 pound-wears clothes that dont fit-dines at kfc-rides a scooter everywhere. of course thats just my opinion though, if a person (woman or man, dont forget there are obese men too) looks like that, well fat and ugly pretty much come hand in hand (unless you are blessed with cute features or pull off using alot of makeup) then why does he/she deserve a hot spouse? you dont see and obese man walking around with a babe for a wife, do you? i think more often than not, the women is larger, sometimes ALOT larger than her husband! ive seen it!

dont come on here all pouty because you refuse to date a fat chick… theres plenty of fish in the sea, instead of flaming about fat chicks you could be going out.. it doesnt take much to get a date unless you are a real douchebag, and thats a pretty big fail in life. you could go speed dating, find girls on the internet for gods sake (father is 46 and has had 3 rl girlfriends that he met on the internet).. or hell go to church LOL. women who are that faithful are usually virgins until marriage, and dont care about this sort of stuff. well, at least in my religious experience (LOL).

if you dont give a shit about your appearance or attitude, and you end up looking like hell, then you dont deserve someone who does care about themselves. it takes work to find the right one, and dont cry when you just dont want to work for it.

Try living in the south. Almost everyone has a belly hanging over their pants. News flash. All men are shallow. If we can’t see ourselves having sex with a woman then we are not interested no matter the personality. It’s in our DNA the same way women go after ‘providers.’ Just because someone is single over 40 doesn’t mean there’s some major problem. Contract marriage is just a tradition based (supposedly) on Bronze Age myths anyway. Besides. most married people settle anyway. I know lots of married guys and almost all of them would cheat in a heartbeat. Yeah, we men are dogs.

What this article leaves out is a HUGE in between. People aren’t only skinny or fat.
I myself am twenty four, 5’8 and 145 pounds, perfectly healthy. I don’t consider myself fat OR skinny, but I’m fine. I have dated guys who have been with skinny girls and say that (in the sex department) a little more can bet better. Why not? Ever seen Christina Hendricks on Mad Men? It may just be the 1960′s, but that’s what men loved, and many still do. Men may not be automatically attracted to “fat” girls or “skinny” girls, or maybe they are. But overall, it’s thin, curvy, beautiful, and smart that win the most.
And for those forty something bald guys in this thread who just hunt for sex, GROW UP. Try meeting a girl for her personality, getting into a real relationship, and be nice to her. You’ll have better sex with somebody you love then some stranger anyday, and you’ll be happier too.

As a teenage girl…It’s because of guys like Tim that more of us are becoming anorexic. We had learned the word emaciated in class…and my teacher asked a girl to use it in a sentence. Her sentence was ” I wish I could be more emaciated.” Is that what you want us to think about ourselves? I for one knew the word beforehand, and was horrified by her response…and after showing her a picture of what it looked like…more girls promptly agreed and wished they were “emaciated” as well. Later on that year…an overweight girl committed suicide. In her note to a friend it basically had said she will live and die alone anyway, so why wait. Sure being obese is unhealthy but putting them down and isolating them from society isn’t going to fix it.

Men atracted to thin women ARE NOT SHALLOW infact quit the oposite We as a human race are programed thew millions of years or evelution to SUVIVE as a speicies and one of our BIOLOGICAL instinks programed ( hard wierd) into our system is to seack out the trong healthy and CAPABLE OF TAKING CARE OF THEMSELFS women I Depp in the subconcious of EVERY MAN lies a trigger that Whe seen a fat of overweight chik He sees … She cant take care of herself Shes iresponcable there for HOW CAN SHE TAKE CARE OF HIM AND HIS OFFSPRING she will raise them to be fat and die young etc This is a hard core iron clad FACT and i geretee and FAT chik will be looking at a strong healthy guy who can bring back the kill to feed her children before she notises mr tubby and MONEY wow why dont we acuse women off beeing shllow because of MONEY well Its the same She is progrmmed to pic a man who can help her and her children survive and be strong as a species like humanity demands This is not made up this is read from studies YEARS OF IT in humanity and human mentality

One final thing as for allyou ANGERY obease women who are about to typ hate replies YES im dyslexic just like alber eistien was So relax ok Im here to help not hate

How about just love a woman no matter what her size? Some women go between being fat and skinny- my hubby sticks with me- I was fat after pregnancy, now I’m skinny again. He didn’t get grossed out he loved me when I had more and now that I have less. I always felt sexy around him. All this stuff disappears when you focus on love, not image.

Fuck this bullshit! None of this is true. Some guys just like skinny girls b/c that is there type. I like skinny girls but I also like any other type of girl also. I dated a girl who was 180 pds and she was just as beautiful as any other chick. Skinny girls have just as much self esteem issues as bigger girls. I am 6’1, 130 pds I am very skinny, I like skinny girls because we have that in common. Skinny people get made fun of just like fat people do. They say we dont eat, or that we make ourselves puke, or some other idiotic shit. Some people’s matabilism is just higher than others and thats why they are skinny. I know people who are skinny like me and wish they could gain weight but can’t. I am one of those people. So when it comes to porn and magazines and stuff like that, it has nothing to do with the way guys look at girls. Maybe with some guys thats just what they like or like a skinny girls b/c he might have that in common with her.

I have to say, I’m a 38 y/o female and my last two BFs were 8-9 years younger than me, I’m finding men in their 50-60′s to be quite attractive now, I haven’t seen one naked yet but mentally, they are starting to attract me… But being a 20 year old back in the day, I or none of my young friends were into men in their 30′s or older.

Young chicks want hot young guys too.. Don’t fool yourself guys. There’s so many young men vying for young women, what makes you think you look better than younger men? Come on now get real.

btw My post was for the men posting comments… But I believe that men are attracted to thin women because when boys start noticing girls ( hell, or boys for that matter, both sexes apply here ) they are usually in their preteens or teenage years, they are hardwired to like thin, young women. Huge Hefner says that he’s changed because he’s gotten older but the women he’s attracted to still stay the same.

And let’s be honest here, ALL straight women like those hot young guys too. Men are not any more sexually functional or think about sex more than women do. We just express it differently and for very good reasons.

I think what disturbed me the most about this whole thread is that so many people seem to believe that somehow overweight women are less than human, that they deserve to be ridiculed and belittled because of a weight problem! I feel like I’m on a grade school playground. Is obesity a problem? Yes. Should people lose weight and get healthy? Yes. Will making them feel worthless and insecure kick-start their motivation to do so? Not likely. What people don’t understand about obesity is that it’s not always completely in their control. Most of the time, these people definitely made mistakes to get them to their respective size, but once you get there, it’s a much more difficult feat to get rid of that much weight naturally than most of you who posted could ever do yourselves. As a psychologist, the only advice I can give to the people who posted these ridiculous comments is to try a little self-reflection and solve you’re own problems before you condemn someone else for their personal struggles.

Ladies, we need to stop crying about this and look at reality. Men are 99% VISUAL creatures. Sure they’ll take a woman with a great personality, but only if she also has a great look.

I’m 23 years old and I’m in love with an extremely good looking man who is 44 years old. He only likes thin girls and has let me know that he is attracted to me, but he won’t commit unless I lose weight. I don’t blame him , so I’m losing the weight.

This is life.

I agree with the majority of the men here,there is no reason why a woman should be over weight. Back in the 17th century women worked just as hard as the men,and were healthy and not over weight like the women are now. I allowed my self after my 5th child to just not work out and I’m paying for it now in the gym! Your not happy with yourself as a women when your over weight. I’m a women so I know first hand. I always was a size 6 and then to let my self go to a 15 is just SICK!!! Anyway I really liked this website. The truth hurts!

You can either marry a skinny girl and watch her get bigger, or you can marry a big girl and watch her get bigger. I’ll take the former over the latter, thank you.

You didn’t actually ANSWER the question with this article. For example, WHY do all the magazines and pornos feature skinny women. WHY do men not want to see excess fat? Men don’t think skinny women are attractive because they’re in all the magazines, its the other way around. The only thing you’ve done is list consequences of men being attracted to skinny women, not reasons.

i prefer plump girls.what i mean by plump is a bit of fat but not to much.im not attracted to skinny or fat girls.any woman between size 12-18 is my type and that’s what i go for.

Im a young man i’ll say that, but i understand this whole thing. It isn’t all about looks like this article mostly implies. There are so many different reasons why you could be attracted to someone. Like if the person is caring, they like things that you like and the list goes on and on. Oh yeah ive been reading alot of these other comments and alot of these (grown men) are so sexist to women in general, and it makes me really mad. because im about 3 times younger, but im much old when it comes to my mind set.

Sad but true:
- Clothes look better on tall, skinny women.
- Fat women get made fun of because fat is ugly.
- Skinny women get made fun of too because fat women always want to get even.
- Some men date fat women because they like fat women.
- Other men date fat women because they cannot find a skinny girlfriend.
- Men don’t date skinny women because they cannot find a fat girlfriend.
- Fat men are ugly too.

Missed one really big reason. I don’t go for fat girls for a very real reason. Everyone of them, without exception, has one of two major issues.

1. They are completely undisciplined in their physical life. I’m not talking about people who have a bit larger form. Some girls tend to be wider, and I don’t mind that. I mean the fat girls. The ones who clearly can’t say no to the all you can eat buffet, or the candy bar. If it’s there, they eat it. If it’s not there, they find it and eat it. If you are seriously overweight, it’s because you can’t control yourself. If you can’t control yourself in something so simple as managing your weight, which society has an overpresent pressure on, then how are you going to manage any other part of your life?

2. On the heels of the first, they have major emotional problems. Go on any dating site and read the tag lines that they put. “No liars!” “My heart has been broken too many times!” “I just want a real man” fill in the blank. They are angry, and they are a ball of drama going somewhere to happen. These girls aren’t necessarily overweight because they can’t control their eating by itself. They are overweight because they have serious emotional issues which lead to either A) hormonal issues, or B) comfrot eating.

Not trying to be mean to all the larger girls out there, but it’s only fair that they know. If you want a guy to go for you, stop whining about guys not liking you because your fat, and do something about it. Maybe you won’t be the skinny supermodel, that’s fine. Most guys are very content to be with a girl who isn’t super skinny, contrary to popular opinion. But they do want a girl that shows some degree of self-management.

like a few of the women who commented on here i also find alot of these comments 2 b just plain rude. bigger girls have just as much rite as smaller girls to be happy. god made every last one of us, big, small, tall, short. i my self am a bigger girl, i’ve been struggling with my weight my entire life (from birth). i was always the “fat” friend in my cliques in school, but i have had my share of both skinny an bigger bf’s. many of you who commented bashing “fat” girls act like we dont try to lose the weight. i myself weighed 255 an am now down to 210, my fiancee doesnt want me to lose anymore bc he likes my body, (then and now). big girls are jus as beautiful as the small ones. im happy with who i am an how i look. (an yes i know im probably going to get some responses from some douchebag or some hoebag bashing me bc i am a big girl stating my oppinion). an to you i say this, im not bashing skinny women in any way or saying they are ugly bc thats not true, im simply saying big girls need love too.

I have found it hard to know where to start. I am fascinated by Americas obsession with weight, everywhere we look people are either too bg (biggest loser) or too small ( any runway). I believe this is an epidemic. Having a young daughter I’d hope to instill first and foremost a core or self esteem about WHO she is not what she looks like. There are people who have much bigger (no pun intended) problems than weight. Once a human being begins to appreciate life and all its blessing/curses trivial discussions for skinny vs. Fat will be seen as sad. But who am I to preach, I too have found myself stumbling upon this site and like any others felt a deep need to comment. I wish I had stumbled upon something of importance and substance, world hunger or genocide. It isn’t as simple as it seems, this skinny vs. fat debate, it isn’t as shallow as it appears. A healthy person begins with a healthy spirit and mind, a strong stable psyche if you will. Eating disorders come in many shapes and forms, a females esteem is a fragile thing even when is it strong and established. I would dare to end with this, men are NOT the problem, not even close. When a women knows who she is and what she can accomplish (skinny or fat) one opinion may sting but it will not scar.

Ok I have nothing against fat chicks heck I probably even do one. for fun as long as she takes care of her self and is not to nasty looking. but as far as marrying them it just not my thing, I’m sure they are many wonderful guys out there that want that sort of thing just not me.

They have to know that it is an issue. I’m thinking that if these folks currently hvn’t addressed this, they could in the close future. Facebook has accomplished with with the Fan webpages.

I loved this article.. it is completely lost on most who commented it, apparently… but it is so honest. Our society has completely reduced romance and it sucks. I’m 43, 5’7″ and tone/tan, I have plenty of confidence. Porn, strip clubs the predominance of female prostitutes vs. males and the fact that the male prostitutes serve gay men, not women are all really sad realities. We are way too fat in this country, but you know what makes me sick to my stomach? I walk in the mornings with my ipod.. miles and it really relaxes my mind and keeps me fit, but I have been approached repeatedly by married guys who want to pay for sex. I’m not looking for it, it just happens. It’s really really really depressing. All these guys that are married, have the fatty women I guess, who aren’t sexy to them. Its sad all the way around.. sad for me that I’m assumed to be a prostitute, or easy cuz I’m out walking and sad for the women at home who think they have a gem. I would totally love a fat man, a bald man or a shorter man… I just want a good man. They vanished two generations ago.

One more thing to alabama shrink… people who got themselves there can get themselves back from obesity… they gotta turn off the tv .. tv is only sucking the life from you. instead of television with constant ads with beautiful women who make fatties feel insecure and constant food ads which make them say “f it.. i’m havin that..” get up off your ass and go walk, listen to music and dance… stretch out on the floor. I was 180 lbs at one point and my very awesome husband began cheating on me. who the hell can blame him, honestly. i completely changed my lifestyle, took up rollerblading and haven’t had cable in 8 years. turn off the negative influences.. be alone for a while, figure out what you need to do to own your life and get beautiful.

if you REALLY want to lose all faith in humanity, try spending the first 20 or so years of your life as a very fat girl. and then drop about 100 pounds and become a very skinny girl. the difference in the way people will treat you will absolutely disgust you.

Article and comments are very interesting…a learning experience indeed. I’ve been on a dating site since April and boy have I had an education! The men are so shallow. They are in their 40s, balding, with a huge beer belly that looks like they are about to give birth to twins and then they will say that they want a woman that looks like a supermodel. Big double standard!! I had to straighten a few of them out by letting them know that their expectations were totally unrealistic and that this was the reason for their frustration in finding someone “good”….lol. I am not “skinny” but not huge either and I work out a lot. Some of the guys that want the skinny women have never seen the inside of a gym and have a permanent imprint of their bodies on their couches. What makes you think that those skinny woman would want a shiftless, beer guzzling, potato chip eating, bald, arrogant man like you?? Please spare me!

Also, I agree with Vi because I’ve been there and there were guys that didn’t look at me when I was heavy and then treated me different because I had lost weight. I am still the same person inside that I was back then. So when this happens I don’t give them the time of day because now they are unworthy of me.

Men are visual and fat women are not, generally, attractive sexually to most men. If the relationship is more than sex, there are other factors that are equally important– character, attitude, values, etc.

So this is what our community is? Disgusting balding men who think they have a right to be disgusted with big women? What about women being disgusted with 40 year old pervs who still watch porn because they can’t get any. You all make it seem like being big is such a wrong thing. I understand that obesity is bad but what if the womans a little overweight? Does that mean she’ll still get frowned upon? I’m 15 years old reading this and I feel as if I have to go kill myself because you people are saying that no one would love me. I agree that obesity is a bad habit in America but does a little weight really bug you out? I mean as long as you’re getting a place to rest your dick in you should be okay right? I’m just saying shouldn’t it be less about the beauty outside and more about the pulchritude inside? The heart of the woman and the way her mind works other than how many bones you can get out of a woman until you’re moving to the next one. And you should applaud the heavy weight woman because I’m pretty sure she knows how to feed herself and could feed you. I’m not saying a small woman couldn’t do that but I’m just saying big girls need love too. We are all beautiful in our own way and I don’t really appreciate feeling like a “FATTY” because I’d rather eat a Twinkie than shove two fingers down my throw after every bite to please people. If you’d rather be attracted to me when I’m small than when I am thick and lovely then I wouldn’t want you any way because you’re obviously too superficial for my liking. The article isn’t as depressing as the COMMENTS some of you are putting down bigger women. I have alot of skinny boys wanting to bone me just as much as skinny chicks getting offers (but thank god I’m saving myself for a guy to actually LOVE me). For all you people putting down a big woman by not wanting to marry her or anything how about you GET TO KNOW HER. I’m pretty sure she might have more heart in her left DOUBLE D BRA then a skinny chick who only thinks about the carrot she ate and how it will affect her later. And to reiterate myself, again I am a 15 year old who thinks that this article is unfair.And yes, I am on the thick side but I’m not that big either.

It seems too is the meaning if the term “skinny” as it bandied about in a very non specific way. My girlfriend is Japanese and is sooooooo skinny. No eating disorders, no conscious effort to be thin, and in fact she feels self-conscious about being so slight. Though I find her size appealing, many guys would find her too thin. Big fat Americans, whether male or female, have commented on these naturally tiny women as skinny-bitch, or being anorexic in some type of jealous retaliation for what they are not because their enormity is more pronounced contrasted to somebody like my girl. Size in the United States takes on a different urgency than in most other countries. Big in the US is really big. Age often naturally brings on a bit more girth and flabbiness among both sexes of most races, so a bigger person in Korea (for ex.), looks like an average American. I recall traveling in Europe and looking for my terminal for the return flight to the US, and without looking at the gate number, I knew from the girth of the majority of those waiting, which was the “American” flight.

What I am getting at is that big people in our big country speak about this as though the rejection of obesity is the sign of shallowness, but in reality with the sizes we are talking about esp. here, we are looking freakish sizes in some cases. I don’t believe it is as conscious as we sometimes portray or would like to think. For me, I just never look twice at a huge woman and it is not conscious and I do not think myself a rock star or chasing fantasies of dating models. Not being large IS normal from a biological standpoint and many sizes and shapes can fall within that rather wide range of possibilities and preferences.

It’s always about the person inside. Around my way i find all girls of all types of sizes the same.. their all into material things, worried about the physical appearance. I’m not totally anti-dating a thick woman but i’m anti dating a woman who doesn’t take care of herself and feeds herself crap because she’s brainwashed to keep herself that way. same with thin girls. except alot work hard at keeping their body curvy, we shouldn’t fault them for that. I’m prolly always going to look for a thin girl.. most likely from (110-140) and ima keep it that way. But im also looking for the right human being! One that is focused on life, not the material things.. one who is commited to family and is easy to talk to! that’s me

Men on here are fooling themselves. Women are just as visual and prefer a hot bodied spankytoy any day over the average schmoe – and cheat just as much as men do. I’m 40, extremely physically fit and my husband is a fat, gelatinous mass who has let himself go because he doesn’t feel he has to try anymore – you know, since he “got” me and all. Luckily, I have enough going for me on the side to stay sane and so that the kids won’t have to suffer until I can unload the dead weight once they leave the nest. All my girlfriends – gorgeous and thin with overweight fatties and all are looking to escape. Some already have. Who want’s a fat pig sweating all over you when something better is out there waiting. The grass is ALWAYS greener ladies…and we don’t have to take a pill to get going.

This is the worst advice ever. “Guys who go for skinny chicks will wind up old and alone?” How you figure? Men like skinny women, simple as that. It’s not cultural, it’s not a trophy thing. A woman’s #1 asset for getting a guy is looks. Because that’s what guys mostly care about. It doesn’t matter how cool you are, if we’re not attracted to you – you’re nothing to us.

So, if you’re fat – stop eating! And don’t tell me that “well duur I don’t eat anyway.” There’s no fat people in Ethiopia, you know why? ‘Cause they really don’t eat. But your fat entitled American ass sneaks snacks all day long, then lies about it. That’s why you go to bed crying and alone.

Once you take control and empower yourself to STOP STUFFING YOUR MOUTH, and you start losing weight – you will be amazed at the improvement in your life. AH-MAZED.

So stop snacking, don’t eat anything sweet, salty or processed – and miss a few meals a week. You’ll feel bad at first, really hungry, and then your body will adjust. You’ll get used to eating less. You’ll be better-looking and you WILL find that guy who will love you @ 120lbs. You won’t find him @ 180.

You people telling bigger people to just stop eating so much, it’s not so simple as that. I eat breakfast and lunch. I refuse snacks and barely touch dinner. I go once a week to both a gym and a pool, and many times I walk to work. In high school, which I only graduated a couple of months before, I was in ROTC, which wore out even the most in shape students every Friday with Physical Training. I feel guilty every time I eat, even if it’s just a package of crackers, because even after all that, all the effort of trying to lose the weight, I’m still 180. Yes, I have considered anorexia. I’ve considered extreme diets. I eat when I’m with friends most of the time because they expect me to. I don’t eat when I’m at home, I turn down everything offered to me. The next step of not eating is not to eat any meals at all. I go to sleep hungry because I hope that if my body isn’t storing nutrients as I sleep, I’ll lose more weight. It simply won’t come off.

Why don’t some of you assholes think a little more before you judge? You people are why I was teased relentlessly through elementary school, called fatass by kids younger than me! Shunned by people that were my friends when I was five years old and still thin when I hit seven and started getting chubby, couldn’t run as fast, couldn’t play as well as the other kids. You people ruined my childhood. So what did I do to ease my suffering, back then? I ate. Chocolate made me feel good. But then I felt bad for eating. So I just try not to eat snacks. You people have made me wish I was dead, because I felt like I was the most hideous thing on the planet. Not just men, women do it to! The looks I get from skinny women sometimes make me want to cry. When several of the popular girls at my school started actually talking to me and even asked what’s wrong when I was upset, I was so taken off guard I just said I was fine, because they were the very people that tormented me my whole life.

Men? They never change. I was the girl guys would joke about dating, because the thought of dating someone my size was hilarious to them. My third boyfriend broke up with me because he was in love with my best friend, whose size is I kid you not less than zero, without dieting or anorexia. All the time I feel like the fat friend that everyone laughs at. Why don’t you men go through that and see how you feel about it! Assholes.

I think this whole thing is ridiculous.. People like what they like, for whatever reasons they like them. It’s an personal preference or opinion. And it’s one you should keep to yourself if you are going to hurt other people. Personally, I like very slight men. But I would never call a larger man ‘disgusting’ just based on his looks. I don’t understand why people go out of their way to hurt others. And why a lot of you seem so keen to jump on the bandwagon and do the same. Fight for yourself, not your size. It’s not a war of fat Vs thin. You don’t like fuller-figures? Sweet, don’t sleep with them. You don’t like bones? That’s alright too. No big deal. But does this argument really mean so much to you that you would seemingly try to make other people feel terrible about themselves? Are you really that passionate about it that you would lash out and make someone you don’t know re-evaluate their bodies? For you? Someone they don’t even know?

I was anorexic at seventeen after a childhood of never actually being overweight, but always at the brink. I do think bones are very beautiful and I find it very difficult to look at myself with my ‘healthy’ weight and find peace in that. People did talk to me a lot more and I got a lot more sex when I was on the lower side of normal weight. But when I was underweight, I got people looking at me in disgust as they might do an overweight person. It is so unnecessary.

Have an opinion on it, but don’t claim to have the ‘right’ one.. It’s an opinion.

I am a 28 y/o stripper with an awesome body 105lbs extremly lean and fit and have perfect tits 34 c and a nice ass. I get told on a constant basis that I look like a mix between Megan Fox/Lindsey Lohan .Unfortunatly my boyfriend watches porn with anorexic ugly chicks with no tits and no ass,these women look like little boys what the hell is the attraction?He says he likes the muscle but I saw no muscle only ribs and -a cups.It makes me feel like I am not his “type” even though he says he is extremly attracted to me.My question is this he spends more time wacking it to these anorexic little boy lookalikes then giving me some,is it time to leave before he leaves me for one of these chicks?

all the men that use the whole “we are programmed this way” is a bunch of bull. it basically is a form of degrading themselves. are you saying you have not evolved from a caveman? the most prominent example of evolution is of course physical attributes, but in this day and age..it is mostly because of our contributions to society; our intelligence and skills. all based on survival.

of course “fit” women would fit the survival of the fittest bill. but i do have to point something out… there is a such thing as “skinny fat”. oh yes.. the girl who starves herself and is flabby but has nothing on her because she is “starving”. then there are bigger girls who are strong as hell and they tend to never get sick, and are maybe slightly overweight by a few pounds. i am sure you are aware of people like this..
so you talk about being programmed to find the fittest, but buuuuut… you men sure jump to the “visual” aspects as the #1 thing you look for when pertaining to this. skinny doesn’t necessarily mean “fit”.

i am very confused.

if it’s because you want control over a woman.. well you better step back and take a look at your worth and wonder why you would want to control or be more dominant than anybody. we are all equal…and if you can’t see past a few extra pounds, you are seriously unevolved and will be paired with people of the same calibre.

i am in no means talking crap about skinny women either. some can’t help it. but truth be told, the ones who show it off that i know are usually the ones that have disorders and are starving for attention. it comes across as confidence because they are desperate. so good luck with those women and having a relationship.

health should always be first, i agree. but for alot of the men who posted here.. they would rather the girl fit their list, than be healthy.

At the risk of sounding self-absorbed and conceited, I’ve had a considerable about of women in my brief sexual “career.” I’ve had women of all shapes, sizes, ethnicities, ect. In my experience (I believe a lot of men would agree with this), skinnier women tend to have tighter “tubes” so to speak. Myth? Perhaps. Point being, extenuating circumstances aside, with skinnier women the sex is better for a multitude of reasons – this being one of them.

Also I would like to add in the fact that all woman (and men) tend to fill out more the older they get. A nicely shaped, petite, young lady would become a voluptuous older woman, whereas an already thick young lady would become even thicker and thus not conform to the idealized perception of beauty we have in this country. Skinny girls make better prospects.

I’m 23, slim, and very toned, educated, and am always complimented by guys and told I’m hot lookin. But I don’t like to get too full of myself because things can change in a blink of an eye and your looks can be gone. I’m looking for a REAL man that treats me well, helps me to grow as a person. None of the morons commenting would ever have a chance with me.

What the fu*ck!~!!! ok you men who think that girls who are skinny can give you more. yea what the fuck ever they just want you for your damn money and the occasional fling or two bigger girls have more to offer and will give it to you all the time. no fu*cking joke

This post basically makes men look like 100% unevolved monkeys that only desire to have sex with anything they can get their hands on. I’ll politely disagree.

I’m 20 years old, the first time I had sex I was 18 years old. I’ve dated the same girl for nearly 3 years now, she’s wonderful -inside, but currently not out.

When we first met, she exercised daily (jogs, yoga, etc.) and at 5 foot 3 she weighed 110 lbs -and boy did she look fit. Her body is what first attracted me, yes, that is how we work on a cellular level; But it was her mind that captivated me, and still to this day I love her.

I do not love the lack of respect she is showing to her own body however.

In the past year she has put on 80lbs, making her weigh more than I do. I myself am 6 foot 1, 185 lbs and work every other day at maintaining my body weight and staying in shape. She being much shorter than I and now weighing more than I… Simply put, we don’t have sex often anymore.

I can’t help it, she’s still the same person -but face it, I can’t have intercourse with her mind, I’m stuck with what she’s turned her body into, and it just doesn’t do it for me anymore.

She looks unhealthy, she acts unhealthy (always tired no matter how much sleep she gets, naps all the time, eats twice as much as I do but does is 1% as active as I am, etc.), I just can’t bring myself to get around by the jiggling fat I see whenever she takes a step; Or the way my hands sink several inches into her sides if I grab her by the hips, or the way her butt sags around my fingers when I pick her up etc.

I like a woman to have a certain level of respect for her own body, being obese is not only unattractive, it is also life-threateningly unhealthy.

You only have one body, why would you treat it like a trash compactor?

If you can’t respect your own body, how can you expect men to? Obesity is recognized instinctively as a bad thing, people cringe when they see a giant oompa-loompa lumbering through the grocery store.

It’s unhealthy, it’s not going to help you win any guys over. Fact.

So why do you keep eating a tub of ice cream every time you watch a movie?

Seriously..

I have always been naturally thin, and for most of my adult life I have been picked on for being too skinny ! Even by a couple of guys who had thick girls. Including guys who were skinnyy would sometimes put me down, and I found out their ex was a fatty. Funny thing is most of my friends are not thin and their always complaining about their weight but they don’t workout or eat healthy. I support them and never comment on their weight. Yet they still feel its okay to call me a stick. And make rude comments such as a real women have curves, which of course hurts me a lot. I’m very petite and small boned. I’m 35-24-35 at 5’3. I consider myself curvy enough. I workout a couple times a week to keep toned so I don’t get lanky. Guys hit on me 5x more then they hit on my friends. And when we go out they stare at me not them. Sometimes I even get commented on just when walking by. And yet I still feel ugly and skinny. Iv tried taking pills that help to gain weight, over eating, drinking extra calorie drinks. It was crazy! I just gave up and am learning to accept my self. Iv even herd people say kim kard got engaged early because she’s got the curves. I’m mean but she lasted 2 months and heidi klum lasted a life time. I was always nice to big people but now I just wanna say F off! Stop over eating! Get of your ass and start moving! Stop putting me down and saying how you love your curves! Cause if you really did you wouldn’t be putting skinny girls down and you would be complaining. You want a good man who works hard to keep you, like my man then work for it! Otherwise don’t complain if you get stuck with someone rude and fat who doesn’t try.

Technology and culture change quickly, evolution is a slow process. We are programmed to be attracted to healthy mates, healthy in terms of 20,000 years of evolution, not the standards of the last 50 years. Our bodies and minds were designed for the Stone Age when extreme physical exertion and starvation were common. That’s why we aren’t lusting over grandma and grandpa, children, the diseased, the anorexic or unfit no mater how great their personalities are. They are less likely to produce healthy children that survive into adulthood in an age not blessed with the wonders of modern medicine.

It’s only been in the last few decades that food is cheap and plentiful and our bodies and minds haven’t had time to adjust. We tone and groom ourselves to fit the profile of a healthy primitive to “trick” Mother Nature. We dress and show behaviors that advertise our best evolutionary traits (health, childbearing ability, intelligence, etc.) and conceal our flaws (height, weight, etc). That’s why cosmetics and high heels work-they make you look healthier to a potential mate.

You can’t fight evolution, if you want to get along; you’ve got to go along.

Evolutionary psychology is based on the hypothesis that, just like hearts, lungs, livers, kidneys, and immune systems, cognition has functional structure that has a genetic basis, and therefore has evolved by natural selection. Like other organs and tissues, this functional structure should be universally shared amongst a species, and should solve important problems of survival and reproduction.

Sexual selection provides organisms with adaptations related to mating. For male mammals, which have a relatively fast reproduction rate, sexual selection leads to adaptations that help them compete for females. For female mammals, with a relatively slow reproduction rate, sexual selection leads to choosiness, which helps females select higher quality mates.

BTW This also explains why you’re more afraid of snakes and spiders than guns, even though guns kill more people in the modern age. The “Chemistry” we feel for each other developed between 1.8 to 1.5 million years ago to 12,000 years ago. That sense that you know that your partner is cheating on you that you can’t explain also developed during that period. It’s also why you crave television. It’s why men enjoy breasts because breast development is a sign of health, youth and fertility in a prospective mate. We like cheeseburgers and pizza because fat was a rare and vital nutrient in the prehistoric period. It’s all evolution.

Ew, I’m 19 and actually (unfortunately) go to community college and those men who you claim are “the man” are seriously gross. Creeper status. Believe it or not, women are deeper than men and we look for what’s within. When we see a dude running around trying to score with “hot chicks” we see it as repulsive (except those of us with daddy issues).

“YoungWoman” who posted at 23 dating a 44 yo: you might want to re-consider this guy. I am in my mid-40′s and can tell you that any guy dating a woman young enough to be his daughter has serious maturity problems. He is clearly superficial if he’s asking you to lose weight so he’ll be attractive. If you marry him, you will be 39 (still pretty young) and he will be 60! Don’t be silly. Lose weight if that’s healthy, but find a guy who actually loves you, not an image of who you might become. Love is about self-giving, not about getting a “hot skinny chick”. Really, reconsider the guy. Best wishes for a happy life and eternity!

I’m only five feet two in. tall and am slightly curvy. meaning a small waist, curved hips..just a little.. not like battleshipss..and not flat chested…not fat..not skinny..supposedly a good weight for height according to those charts, but always wanted to be tall and skinny..I can’t control my height and don’t like starvation diets..I have more than my share of interested guys though…so I would say there are many who will be attracted to you if you are not stick thin…It’s funny because while I always tell my tall willowy friends I’m jealous, some of them tell me they wish they had my curves…go figure..maybe just being polite but I’ve heard it alot…Also, I have many female friends who love skinny guys..Not me…I like a guy with more bulk..nice big shoulders, chest…don’t like the dainty looking ones some of my friends love…so I do think that preferences vary …Not everyone likes painfully thin girls..or tall slim men.. There’s somebody for everybody unless you’re out of shape and flabby…get to the gym, tighten up that tush….and go out and strut your stuff.. ! Maybe it’s just me, but there’s something intoxicating about a beautiful smile with straight white teeth and a killer sense of humour…sometimes can trump a not so perfect face/body for me..and not bragging because I’m never satisfied with my looks, but have always been complimented by friends of both sexes as being very pretty. even though I’m not a stick….so don’t despair. I have a super handsome brother with a body like a greek god..girls fall all over him…and the one he is absolutely batshit crazy for is NOT skinny..quite curvy, very sexy , lots of confidence and he has dated a few skinny girls too..but the fuller one is his top pick. they are both early thirties..Look your best and be confidant …

At 17 I was nearly 5ft11 and 105 pounds after three years of anorexia and bulimia.The reason I developed an eating disorder was that it was a result of being teased the majority of my childhood for being overweight.I spent months in hospital due to starving myself and quite honestly It wasnt until I got pregnant with my first child a few years later that I really tried to get well.Now at age 37 after 3 kids and years of taking anti anxiety meds ( which promote weight gain fyi)I recently cut back on medication and Swim three or four hours a week.Im not doing this for any reason other than my health. If people dont like how I look- and I am “bigger”by societies standards-then quite frankly,they can go piss up a rope!.I was no happier at 105 pounds and it was just as detrimental to my health as being 200 plus.I still laugh when men think they deserve a supermodel .If a guy is that superficial and has no personality he dosent deserve ANY woman,big or small!!

The man who claimed to be depressed for having a “fattie” for a girlfriend needs to realise he is not doing her a favour by dating her. Be a human being and break up with the woman if he hates her weight that much. So women are getting bigger and men cannot deal with it? News flash! Not all women need to be screwed by a man to feel good about themselves. Not dating and the celibacy are valid choices for women.

As a larger woman, it is easier in a lot of ways to no longer want male attention. Even if I was 50 pounds lighter, I would still have the same issues if I was dating: Am I pretty/skinny/sexy enough? I had less self-esteem as a skinnier woman and felt I was still not good enough or the “cellulite” I thought i had on my tights still made me less than. The lady, who is the thinner stripper, said what a lot of women feel. This woman is probably every man’s ideal being a pretty stripper yet her mate still is seeking out an ideal that does not include her.

Being a larger woman has been liberating. I do not have to only order a salad when I go out to try to prove to the Male Arrogant Eye that I will never become obese. I can enjoy who I am as a person without worrying about the idiocy that comes from dating and relationships. For the first time in my life, I love myself. I have been without a date or a mate for 2 years. I doubt I would ever even date again. It is the adage of how women can be larger and happy when they are not trying to impress a man.

Thin ladies, remember that life brings on unexpected changes. Bodies change due to age or health. Traumatic experiences can bring on weight gain. Love yourself before you give yourself to any man. Sex before marriage….those relationships often end even for the loveliest looking of women and the ladies will have tons of emotional baggage regardless of her body type.