About a year ago I wrote an article about how/why women sometimes don’t call guys back after the first date. I would like to take that one step further and examine the reasons why women don’t call, period. Not calling after the first date is bad enough….but at least you have some indication as to why she didn’t call you back. You spent a few hours with her while out on your date and can go back to my original post and intelligently figure out why she didn’t call. Bad breath? Treated your waiter rudely? No chemistry? There could be any number of reasons, since after all she has been silently making mental notes about you from the minute you guys first met for your date.
What about those times when you get a girls number and call her and she never calls back? This type of situation has more to do with the short period of time you spent talking to her and getting her number. In other words, your game. These types of situations are much harder to figure out why she wasn’t interested (or gave you the same phone number that the last 3 girls gave you: 555-1212) because of the short period of time that you spent talking to her. I am going off the assumption that you are spending anywhere from 5 minutes to less than an hour in your conversation with this new girl.
The aim for this article is to take a look at the first impressions a female gets from a guy she just met and examine the reasons as to why she declined to continue communication further. There are thousands of situations in real life that you could encounter a female. For this article, I’m going to pretend you are in line at a local store….be it the video store, CVS, bank, wherever. You are standing in a semi long line and there is a cute female right in front of you. So cute, that you feel the need to talk to her in an attempt to get her number. A good portion of the men out there don’t have the balls to at least try to talk to a female in that situation, so consider yourself 2 steps ahead of the game if you have made the decision to give it a shot and talk to her:
1. Lack of physical attraction
This one is a no-brainer. Simply put, you really had nothing to say to her that caught (and held) her interest and your physical looks aren’t attractive enough to her in order for her to overlook the fact that you are yet another horny guy looking to score some tail. Best advice: Join a gym, brush your teeth, buy better clothes….do something that compliments your looks.
2. Cute as a puppy, dumb as a rock
On the other side of the token, we have guys that could probably put someone like Brad Pitt to shame in the looks department…..but they tend to lack the cranial capacity to carry on an intelligent conversation. Guys like this generally don’t have a hard time picking up women. Sooner or later they will encounter a girl that is superficial enough to overlook the fact that he considers “Hop on Pop” a literary classic.
3. Creepy looking pervert guy
When women are out in public, they tend to have their defenses turned on. Especially if they are attractive. They are so used to guys staring at them that they tend to ignore it with a thinly veiled sense of hostility. If you find yourself staring at a female while in line, and she notices you….and doesn’t smile….there’s a good chance that she has already judged you as some creepy guy. Best thing to do is not make eye contact (don’t even think of giving her body the once-over with your eyes) and treat her like you would treat any other female that you weren’t attracted to. That way when you do open your mouth to speak, you have a clean slate.
4. Desperate Dan
Guys that are desperate REEK of desperation whether they know it or not. Subconsciously they are so desperate that their actions mirror their thoughts without them realizing it at all. Women are highly sensitive creatures and can smell desperation a mile away. Believe me when I tell you, it is a total turnoff. If on the day you are in line about to talk to a girl….ask yourself “am I feeling desperate today?” If so, save yourself some heartbreak and look the other way.
5. Can’t close the deal
So you finally found the balls to approach a female out in public. You got her attention and the first words that come out of your mouth are: “Sooo, I see you like the Tampax brand of tampons.” (The song “Shot Down in Flames” by AC/DC is going through my head right now…)
You need to step up your game in these types of situations. “What in the hell can I say to break the ice with a cute girl who is in line in front of me at the local drugstore buying tampons?” Good question. I can’t give you a right or wrong answer. This all depends on who you are as a person. Let your personality do the talking and if it clicks, you got yourself a phone number. If I were a guy in the same exact situation, I would think twice about talking to girl in line at a drugstore buying tampons. She might be a bit embarrassed in the first place (because you are talking to her while she is holding a box of tampons). If you absolutely have to talk to her, try your best to ignore what she is holding in her hands and instead make a comment like:
“Man these cashiers are sure slow today” or something that effect. Observational humor is probably your only recourse in a situation like this.
There are many more reasons why she didn’t give you her number. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she isn’t into men…..maybe she just had a bad day and doesn’t want to deal with guys talking to her. My only advice to you guys is to play the numbers game and sooner or later you will meet the right female. Just don’t take it too personally when she gives you a dirty look and starts looking around for store security.
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