He/she makes a good point. GET OVER IT !!!

Here’s a little food for thought:

Q: What is the opposite of Love? (hint: It’s not hate).

A: Indifference.

If it is really and truly eating you up so bad, and you want to “get revenge”, the best “revenge” is simply indifference. Stop talking to them, stop acknowledging their existence and that action in and of itself will cut the most. I would not advice “getting revenge” but if for some reason it’s eating you up so bad that you are online looking for what to do…..simply ignore them. They do not exist in your life anymore. You are better than they are and in a few short weeks/months you will be dating someone better than the last person who dumped you.

Yea most men probably look at a lot of porn, and many go to strip clubs, but most don’t do it while out on a date.
There is some song that goes like “i want a lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed”

dunno,
me

“1. Your looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.”

My response: OK. I’ve never dated online before but if I had I’d probably agree with this.

“2. Talking on the cell-phone”

My Response: Probably one of the most annoying possible things that someone could do. Unless you’re not interested in the guy don’t do it… because it’s a huge hint that you are not interested.

“3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate.”

On a date my eyes don’t wander. I’m there because I want to get to know YOU better. If you are dating guys who can’t keep their eyes off of every girl they see don’t make the assumption that all men are perverts like that. Anyway, I would be very turned off if I went on a date with someone who displayed a bit too much of their skin. Turned off from the date mind you. When you show up like that I just get the hint you are looking for a one-night stand and not a serious relationship.

“5. Pull my finger…(farting)”
Hahaha, hopefully I never have to experience this.

“6. I’m feelin’ it, you facial expressions and body language show otherwise, but deep down inside, you really are. AKA: MIXED MESSAGES”

Alright, this is a huge one. It could be because i’ve dated some real divas but sometimes the mixed messaging is just ridiculous. And it’s not about my lack of guts either. I’m a very impulsive and confident person and if I get rejected from one angle i’ll come again soon from another but if i’m constantly getting shut down… I’ll give up.

“7. I just wasn’t feeling it”
I guess this means you don’t like you’re date. I’m a very honest and respectful person and in cases like these i’m upfront and I let her know that i’m not interested. Sure, it hurts. But rip it off like a bandaid. I don’t agree with this reason. You need to realize that your dates have lives too. It’s not just you. Don’t be selfish, and don’t have them waste their time waiting for a call when you never will.

“8. Red Flags”
This is a bit weird I think. I don’t LOOK for red flags… I just enjoy my date. Also, if you begin the date without any trust can you really expect it to go anywhere? I open every relationship with full respect, total trust, and complete honesty.

“9. Rule of 3″
This is probably the stupidest rule i’ve ever heard. And who talks about how many people they’ve slept while you’re still dating? That’s way soon for me and I tend to stay away from that area in general.

“10. There was a good football game on t.v. the next day and we plain forgot.”

O.K. I am a HUGE football fan. But this is selfish and shows your lack of interest in your date. If you didn’t like her enough to even remember to call her because of a football game – unless it’s the SUPERBOWL or your team’s PLAYOFF GAME (in which case, why the hell did you have a date the night before?) it is completely disrespectful to not call.

That’s my input.

In reality, all men have to do is realize that women and men perfectly balance each other out in most cases, it’s our society (ruled by power-hungry men) who has thrown us out of balance. Thanks, guys.

His tips show me that these women aren’t interested in him, if this is his list. If she’s on her phone for a while, she couldn’t care less about the date. If she farts in front of you on a first date, that’s some serious “holy crap how can I get the message across?” kind of thing. Has that actually happened to you? I find it unlikely.

Also, Mike D, you don’t make much sense and seem like you’re incapable of much thought. Stop being such an asshat and just be nice. Communicate clearly with women, be a good person, don’t be a wanker, and be fair. Quit making it such a power struggle.

My advise is simple: If a girl doesnt call after the first date, so what? U know the answer of the riddle already, she is just into you, so suck up on it and move on because you are a man for a reason,so no need to whinge that the woman is being nit picky, even if they are, just let them be, its their loss for a guy as borderline good looking as you.

Same for the ladies, if your first date doesnt call you why you would be piss off and call them back and tell us guys, like Seeker of Truth are whining about, that “out of respect and maturity someone should at least give the other person a courtesy call and just say your not interested period.We should treat people like the way we wish to be treated”, this is also double standard for the ladies towards the man then, referring to Moi Ha Ha’s opinion about double standardizing.

I guess just like guys, ladies, dont pretend to be so innocent and stupid that you dont know why the guys doesnt call you and NEED to hear that with your very own ear, that they are NOT INTERESTED in you. Just ignore this tiny little thing of so called “dating ethics” and move on.

But if you still insist about the guys doing the call for you, then as per double standardizing rule, if u need a guy to call after the first date to say they are interested/not interested in you, then do the same to for the guys then, call them even tho u are not interested in him, to say that word to him. Dont wait or expected to be called by guys all the time, afterall, girls and guys are equal arent we? so it would be good to share responsibility sometimes.

Cheers!

As for the “rule of 3,” does this mean that I should start lying to my partners/dates so they assume the truth rather than think the truth is a lie?

- K

Nobody is perfect and men play just as many games as women do. I think the geographical area that you live in plays a part in it as well. I am located in LA and more often than not I tend to wind up dating guys that are fakes and flakes.
Cali tends to attract the best and the beautiful and for some reason if you are a female and even a slight deviation from that norm…chances are it is somewhat challenging to land a guy (in certain circumstances).

I don’t attract losers per se….just guys that are fly-by-night.

I have a few girlfriends in the Midwest and (generally speaking) guys out there tend to fare a little better in that department.

I want someone who can be a friend, lover and a companion..and can share the same interest as myself,non-smoker and drinker and has a sense of humor.. Trust is a big issue and it is not given , it is earned.

1. Your looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.

Same applies to men.. Clipped catalog photos of men and women..Do you think if they really looked that hot that they would even be online? NO…But most men fall for it..
Come on we all know there are risk you take especially when online dating..
One requirement of mine is having a web cam so I can see who I am realling talking to.. As far as you know you could be talking to the same sex.. Laughs*

3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate
Lets see…I dress neat and proper but when I go out on a date with a guy I am , he is looking at the chick with a short skirt and low cut blouse? Come on…

7. I just wasn’t feeling it
Most guys may not call back but what they dont understand is all a girl wants is for him to be man enough to call her at least back and tell her he is just not interested..That should be common courtesy from both sexes.No excuses….

8. Red Flags
Your wrong on 8 and 9….In my recent years of dating I can remember a few men which had professed there love for me..I slept with them and then later on down the road he dumps you for someone else , so that makes someone bad and flagged?…….
I am in my late 40s now and engaged and for you to calculate and make judgement on how many guys or girls someone has slept with in the past is wrong sorry.

Last but not least Mike…I hope that one day you realize that everyone is not perfect in this world we live in. people make mistakes but out of respect and maturity someone should at least give the other person a courtesy call and just say your not interested period.We should treat people like the way we wish to be treated .

You know the saying:
I would rather be hurt by the truth then by a lie any day..
THATS MY RULE