Top 10 reasons why a guy never calls a girl back after the first date
Wow, I had no idea how much buzz my last dating advice article generated. I was flooded with well over 250 emails, some good, some bad. It seems as if a good majority of the women agreed with more than a few of my pet peeves, and some of the guys as well. Some of the replies broke my article down, point by point. While I appreciate the thoroughness of these types of emails, they really didn’t speak to my particular and “off” sense of humor…
This is why I give you: Mike D.
Mike sent me an email complaining about how “women nowadays are too picky and have unrealistic expectations of the men they are looking for”. His email was long, and at times ranting. For some strange reason his email made me stop and question myself for a minute: “Do I as a female, have unrealistic expectations of the men that I date?”
Do females in this day and age have unrealistic expectations of the men we date as compared to how it was when our parents were dating? My mom once told me that “back in the day”, a “fella” would walk over to a girl in a poodle skirt and ask her out to an ice cream social. Two months later, BAM. Married with 10 kids, a job in the Aerospace industry and a Brady Bunch station wagon…… If some random guy walked up to me in the street and asked me if I “wanted to go get a hot fudge sunday”, I would probably kick him square in the family jewels and call the cops.
What has become of society?
Why have we become a society that places so must distrust in strangers? What happened to the good old days when you knew the names of everyone on your block and society overall seemed like a nicer place to be? I am 30 years old (give or take a year or two….mostly “take”) and old enough to remember part of the 70′s and how things were different back then. Are other 30 year olds out there experiencing the same things I am? What is your take on all of this?
While I pontificate further on the above pontifications, I would like to reprint part of the email (with his permission) that Mike sent to me. He did his own “top 10″ list and dared me to reprint it.
Here ya go Mike:
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….to the girl who made the “top 10 reasons why I won’t call a guy back after the first date” post, I just wanted to say that I think you are being nit picky and unrealistic. There is a reason why women like you can’t get a date….you fly off the handle at the smallest things and wind up going off the deep end for no reason at all. So I was a few minutes late for a date…is that any reason for you to not call me back? Let’s talk about the things that females do that make guys not want to call them back after the first date:
1. Your looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.
If the girl has some sort of weird camera angle in her online dating pictures, guys: turn and run. There is usually a good reason why a girls pictures look like Pablo Picasso arose from the dead, bought a cheap $25 digital camera and decided to experiment with photography. I am not trying to be mean here, it’s just that everyone in life has different preferences in the opposite sex. As cheap and shallow as it may seem, I want to have a fairly good idea of what you look like before we go out. Still think I’m being mean? Look at it this way: If you were in line behind me at the grocery store and we made eye contact and you found yourself not physically attracted to me, would you be inclined to carry on a conversation with me and give me your phone number at the end? It works both ways, sweetheart.
2. Yack yack yack
Is there anything more rude than answering your cell phone and yacking away with your girlfriend while out on a date? I understand if your Aunt Martha fell down a flight of stairs and forget to recharge the batteries in her life-alert bracelet and she just happened to be carrying her new iPhone in her pocket with your number on speed dial….I really do. But when your girlfriend calls you in the middle of our date and you start blabbing away about what you did last night for more than 5 minutes, I find myself slowly reaching into my pocket to fake a phone call from my Uncle John who happened to fall down a flight of stairs with his discharged life-alert bracelet and his new iPhone…
3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate.
I realize you may have certain “assets” on your body. Most women do. And being a guy, I do like eye candy. But if I am looking for a potential relationship out of you….there is nothing that will make me turn tail and run than if you come dressed with your boobs half hanging out in a short miniskirt and flirt with every guy that you see. (prolonged eye contact with other males does indeed constitute “flirting”). I realize that I may have broken the “guy code” here by telling women to cover up, but it is not what it seems. When guys (at least me and my friends) are looking for a potential relationship with a female we are interested in, we want to know (or at least think) that our girl is as pure as the driven snow when she is out in public.
4. Say you, Say me, Say it for always, that’s the way it should be…
If during the course of normal conversation the lyrics to the above Lionel Richie song start popping into my mind, I find myself looking for any excuse to end the date. I am not a male model, but I do realize that some women find me pretty attractive/borderline “good looking”. If while talking to me your eye gaze starts suggesting that I should don a 1980′s JerryCurl and neon Miami Vice overcoat and get down on my knees and start singing you a ballad, I’m outta there man. Read this article and hit “crtl” “f” on your keyboard and enter in “eye contact” to take you to the part of the article that dictates how proper eye contact should happen. Great, now I got that stupid song stuck in my head.
5. Pull my finger…
I am sorry, I realize that ladies do act like ladies most all of the time. But if you accidentally “let one go” and it is audible enough to ring the bell on the church 5 miles away….that just killed it. I realize that accidents do happen, but…..still. You might be able to salvage the date if there is a dog nearby and you deftly try to blame it on the dog. I am a big 3 Stooges fan, so the comedic value just might outweigh the shock value. A perfectly executed “Curly Shuffle” afterwards will result in bonus points.
6. I’m feelin’ it, you facial expressions and body language show otherwise, but deep down inside, you really are.
Guys are not mind readers. When I go out on a first date with a girl, I am a little bit nervous. Even though I can cover it up really well, I am most likely walking on broken eggshells until I find that comfort zone. During the course of the date I try to watch a girl’s facial expressions and body language to get a guage on whether or not I might get rejected if I ask her out on a second date. If I am not getting any perceivable signs that she is interested, chances are I won’t call you back or write you another email. I hate getting rejected and probably most guys do too. I have had more than a few girls call me back after I neglected to call them back after the first date, telling me how big of an “a-hole” I was for “leading them on”. Well if they had shown me some sign (any sign !!) that they were in the least bit interested in me, then I would have. Guys fear rejection too, ladies.
7. I just wasn’t feeling it
I really can’t break this one down any further. I am sure this goes both-ways without saying. If I am “not feeling it”, I will not lead you on, and you will know that it just isn’t happening for me. I would only hope that you have the same courtesy to do that to me instead of leading me on.
8. Red Flags
I am writing this “top 10″ list from the perspective of a guy who is looking for a relationship. If I was looking for anything else, I would probably not be as picky. I look for little “red flags” in women that suggest certain things/traits that I am not looking for. It’s a scientific fact that some women lie. I don’t know why this is, nor do I know the name of the scientist that made this incredible discovery. You will have to trust me on this one. So when I am out on a date, I purposely ask carefully worded questions during the course of normal conversation. If something isn’t adding up, I will slowly but surely zone in on the area that I don’t like, which brings us to reason #9:
9. Rule of 3
I am probably going to get shot by the “man counsel” for giving out this little gem, but a general rule of thumb (intelligent discretion must be applied) is that you take the amount of men that a girl says she has slept with, and multiply it by 3. I realize that there may be other formulas for this one….but my hippie community college professor once told me to stick with the rule of 3. Why am I telling you this? Because when I am looking for a relationship with a girl, I don’t want to know how many men you slept with (but i do). Does this make sense to you ladies? If not, then my work here is done.
We now come to the final (and most important) reason why men never call women back after the first date. This will undoubtably go down in history and will make me untold millions of dollars and I will be featured on Dr. Phil and Jerry Springer.
The last and most important reason why men don’t call women back after the first date:
10. There was a good football game on t.v. the next day and we plain forgot.
To the author/owner of this website, I can only give you one piece of advice here. You need to lower your standards, sweetheart.
To all the women who are wondering why a guy never called them back, I have just one piece of advice: FORGET ABOUT IT. There is a reason (be it good/bad or otherwise) why the guy didn’t call you back. Maybe he didn’t like you, maybe he did like you and is too shy to call you back, maybe he lost his cellphone that had your number on it. Whatever the reason, he isn’t calling you back. Get over it and move on. There are WAY too many proverbial fish in the sea to get all worried and bent out of shape because a guy didn’t call you back. I can’t even begin to count how many women in my life haven’t called me back. It’s just the name of the dating game and the nature of the beast. Cry yourself a river then build a bridge and get over it.
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September 3rd, 2009 at 2:50 pm
First of all I do not think women are picky Mike D, we just know what it is that will make us happy and when it comes to anyones happiness no one should have to settle for less..
I want someone who can be a friend, lover and a companion..and can share the same interest as myself,non-smoker and drinker and has a sense of humor.. Trust is a big issue and it is not given , it is earned.
1. Your looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.
Same applies to men.. Clipped catalog photos of men and women..Do you think if they really looked that hot that they would even be online? NO…But most men fall for it..
Come on we all know there are risk you take especially when online dating..
One requirement of mine is having a web cam so I can see who I am realling talking to.. As far as you know you could be talking to the same sex.. Laughs*
3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate
Lets see…I dress neat and proper but when I go out on a date with a guy I am , he is looking at the chick with a short skirt and low cut blouse? Come on…
7. I just wasn’t feeling it
Most guys may not call back but what they dont understand is all a girl wants is for him to be man enough to call her at least back and tell her he is just not interested..That should be common courtesy from both sexes.No excuses….
8. Red Flags
Your wrong on 8 and 9….In my recent years of dating I can remember a few men which had professed there love for me..I slept with them and then later on down the road he dumps you for someone else , so that makes someone bad and flagged?…….
I am in my late 40s now and engaged and for you to calculate and make judgement on how many guys or girls someone has slept with in the past is wrong sorry.
Last but not least Mike…I hope that one day you realize that everyone is not perfect in this world we live in. people make mistakes but out of respect and maturity someone should at least give the other person a courtesy call and just say your not interested period.We should treat people like the way we wish to be treated .
You know the saying:
I would rather be hurt by the truth then by a lie any day..
THATS MY RULE
September 3rd, 2009 at 3:44 pm
I have to agree with “Seeker of Truth”.
Nobody is perfect and men play just as many games as women do. I think the geographical area that you live in plays a part in it as well. I am located in LA and more often than not I tend to wind up dating guys that are fakes and flakes.
Cali tends to attract the best and the beautiful and for some reason if you are a female and even a slight deviation from that norm…chances are it is somewhat challenging to land a guy (in certain circumstances).
I don’t attract losers per se….just guys that are fly-by-night.
I have a few girlfriends in the Midwest and (generally speaking) guys out there tend to fare a little better in that department.
November 12th, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Hey Mike, are you single???? I LOVED your letter! Hilarious, and dead on in way too many ways :}
November 13th, 2009 at 12:46 am
Hey Beckie, Mike is an acquaintance of mine, yes he is currently single….would you like for me to pass along your contact info?
- K
November 21st, 2009 at 12:47 am
I guess that I would question why if a woman doesn’t want to call because a guy doesn’t meet her expectations, it’s being “nit picky,” but if a man doesn’t call, it’s just “the nature of the beast.” Women are allowed to have standards, as are men. If you think women are too picky for having certain standards, then you shouldn’t maintain standards for yourself. Double standards are not so cool.
As for the “rule of 3,” does this mean that I should start lying to my partners/dates so they assume the truth rather than think the truth is a lie?
December 8th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Yeah, a guy really wants a lady right? You jerks don’t know what the hell you want. You say you want a lady to “cover up” or is really control? You are insecure and don’t want to lose her to another man. If you really wanted a lady, then why do look at soooo much porn and go to strip clubs. Yeah jackass what do you have to say to that?
January 20th, 2010 at 11:54 am
i am supportive for Mike;s article as i am a guy myself, but i would probably correct a bit part of his article with my own idea of being called and calling back after first date, so as to eliminate the problem of double standarding…
My advise is simple: If a girl doesnt call after the first date, so what? U know the answer of the riddle already, she is just into you, so suck up on it and move on because you are a man for a reason,so no need to whinge that the woman is being nit picky, even if they are, just let them be, its their loss for a guy as borderline good looking as you.
Same for the ladies, if your first date doesnt call you why you would be piss off and call them back and tell us guys, like Seeker of Truth are whining about, that “out of respect and maturity someone should at least give the other person a courtesy call and just say your not interested period.We should treat people like the way we wish to be treated”, this is also double standard for the ladies towards the man then, referring to Moi Ha Ha’s opinion about double standardizing.
I guess just like guys, ladies, dont pretend to be so innocent and stupid that you dont know why the guys doesnt call you and NEED to hear that with your very own ear, that they are NOT INTERESTED in you. Just ignore this tiny little thing of so called “dating ethics” and move on.
But if you still insist about the guys doing the call for you, then as per double standardizing rule, if u need a guy to call after the first date to say they are interested/not interested in you, then do the same to for the guys then, call them even tho u are not interested in him, to say that word to him. Dont wait or expected to be called by guys all the time, afterall, girls and guys are equal arent we? so it would be good to share responsibility sometimes.
Cheers!
January 20th, 2010 at 4:49 pm
LOL, I love when men try to break down women’s behavior. They’re usually the same who have a “men vs women” mentality, like we’re all struggling with each other because we can’t possibly get along.
In reality, all men have to do is realize that women and men perfectly balance each other out in most cases, it’s our society (ruled by power-hungry men) who has thrown us out of balance. Thanks, guys.
His tips show me that these women aren’t interested in him, if this is his list. If she’s on her phone for a while, she couldn’t care less about the date. If she farts in front of you on a first date, that’s some serious “holy crap how can I get the message across?” kind of thing. Has that actually happened to you? I find it unlikely.
Also, Mike D, you don’t make much sense and seem like you’re incapable of much thought. Stop being such an asshat and just be nice. Communicate clearly with women, be a good person, don’t be a wanker, and be fair. Quit making it such a power struggle.
January 30th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
A lot of guys are different but these rules surprisingly apply the majority of them I think.
“1. Your looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.”
My response: OK. I’ve never dated online before but if I had I’d probably agree with this.
“2. Talking on the cell-phone”
My Response: Probably one of the most annoying possible things that someone could do. Unless you’re not interested in the guy don’t do it… because it’s a huge hint that you are not interested.
“3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate.”
On a date my eyes don’t wander. I’m there because I want to get to know YOU better. If you are dating guys who can’t keep their eyes off of every girl they see don’t make the assumption that all men are perverts like that. Anyway, I would be very turned off if I went on a date with someone who displayed a bit too much of their skin. Turned off from the date mind you. When you show up like that I just get the hint you are looking for a one-night stand and not a serious relationship.
“5. Pull my finger…(farting)”
Hahaha, hopefully I never have to experience this.
“6. I’m feelin’ it, you facial expressions and body language show otherwise, but deep down inside, you really are. AKA: MIXED MESSAGES”
Alright, this is a huge one. It could be because i’ve dated some real divas but sometimes the mixed messaging is just ridiculous. And it’s not about my lack of guts either. I’m a very impulsive and confident person and if I get rejected from one angle i’ll come again soon from another but if i’m constantly getting shut down… I’ll give up.
“7. I just wasn’t feeling it”
I guess this means you don’t like you’re date. I’m a very honest and respectful person and in cases like these i’m upfront and I let her know that i’m not interested. Sure, it hurts. But rip it off like a bandaid. I don’t agree with this reason. You need to realize that your dates have lives too. It’s not just you. Don’t be selfish, and don’t have them waste their time waiting for a call when you never will.
“8. Red Flags”
This is a bit weird I think. I don’t LOOK for red flags… I just enjoy my date. Also, if you begin the date without any trust can you really expect it to go anywhere? I open every relationship with full respect, total trust, and complete honesty.
“9. Rule of 3″
This is probably the stupidest rule i’ve ever heard. And who talks about how many people they’ve slept while you’re still dating? That’s way soon for me and I tend to stay away from that area in general.
“10. There was a good football game on t.v. the next day and we plain forgot.”
O.K. I am a HUGE football fan. But this is selfish and shows your lack of interest in your date. If you didn’t like her enough to even remember to call her because of a football game – unless it’s the SUPERBOWL or your team’s PLAYOFF GAME (in which case, why the hell did you have a date the night before?) it is completely disrespectful to not call.
That’s my input.
February 10th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
XOXO,
Yea most men probably look at a lot of porn, and many go to strip clubs, but most don’t do it while out on a date.
There is some song that goes like “i want a lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed”
dunno,
me
February 12th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
Disregard all of these comments (except mine), and ask yourselves who in the h*ll has to read an article entitied “10 reasons why I didn’t call you”??? Did it eat you up so badly that you had to research common reasons on the internet? There’s only one answer, he/she’s not that into you, PERIOD. Get over it.
February 12th, 2010 at 12:45 pm
HAHAHAHA like there’s something that did it for him/her, and if you hadn’t committed #1-10, the person would what…be into you still? HA! Get a life!
February 12th, 2010 at 1:34 pm
I lol’d a bit when I read “OHWutev” posts.
He/she makes a good point. GET OVER IT !!!
Here’s a little food for thought:
Q: What is the opposite of Love? (hint: It’s not hate).
A: Indifference.
If it is really and truly eating you up so bad, and you want to “get revenge”, the best “revenge” is simply indifference. Stop talking to them, stop acknowledging their existence and that action in and of itself will cut the most. I would not advice “getting revenge” but if for some reason it’s eating you up so bad that you are online looking for what to do…..simply ignore them. They do not exist in your life anymore. You are better than they are and in a few short weeks/months you will be dating someone better than the last person who dumped you.
March 14th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
yea well u wrote this blog and i think ur a jerk whoever wrote this, u kno thats why theres so many dam single ladies out there and thats just ur opinion not all guys think like that and if they do than hell get a dictionary out and find the word pig thats what yall all are…-THE DAM BATTLEFIELD CAUSE ALL GUYS PLAY GAMES AND THE YOU KNOW WHAT???? NOW ITS OUR TURN PIGS WOMEN PLAY GAMES TOO NOW SO THANKS FOR MAKING LIFE A TAD BIT HARDER like little wayne said women lie men lie and its always going to be like that ,who started it?? MEN why? cause they are LAZY AND STUBORN AND PIGS simply said, so forget off dont even bother saying anything back to me cause i really dont givva ish.
March 15th, 2010 at 10:03 pm
Fo’ shizzle?
March 23rd, 2010 at 5:32 pm
I’d be curious to know Mike’s age–clearly not a mature man and more than a bit in love with himself. When I go out on a date I wear what suits the occasion–dinner, dancing, motorcycle riding, and what matches my personality–I do not dress for a man and I do know what it’s like to be with a man that’s busy looking up skirts and down shirts while in my presence…As for the number of partners rule–frankly I do not care how many partners a man has had–we’ve all had a history of past relationships, and it’s whats ahead that matters. Besides I’m looking for a lover not a priest and who says I’m even thinking of sleeping with YOU? Stating that all women lie is also ridiculous, men don’t embellish the facts? Hide the truth? Withold key information? Pleeese….all men lie, and do it with ease.
March 29th, 2010 at 4:37 am
I read Mike’s article and I am probably sure his top 10 list was of multiple dates he has been on not just one. For me why I wouldn’t call a girl back after the first date whould probably be just lack of chemistry (just wasn’t feeling it). I am not into the one night stands. Hooking up is the easy part its finding a relationship and keeping it going is the hard part. So with that said I will comment on Mike’s red flags. This is big for a guy and I can tell you that I give women a lot of leadway with this. I will list some red flags that I have encountered recently.
1. A woman with kids and not divorced yet but wants a serious relationship. How can you have a serious relationship if you are still married.
2. A woman who knows everything that a relationship needs to work but her longest one has been 7 mo and shes 32. Theres a reason why you can’t keep a guy for more than 7 mo.
3. Throw yourselves at a guy. Saying you want to f me within 5 min is a turnoff to me.
4. The woman who is highly opinionated. Sometimes you have to realize what you say before you say it.
5. The woman who tells her life story after a couple of cocktails.
6. Not saying enough. (too shy). Open up a little and it goes along way.
7. The woman that tells you she is crazy literally within a couple of dates on this one.
8. Low self esteem.
I could go on and my main reason for saying this is because the dating scene has changed alot. I am in my 30s and things are not like they were. I am sure there are many women on here that have encountered the same as me but with men. So basically, I understand why men and women have become pickier. I have. And when you are in your 30s you know what you want and what you are willing to accept. So for all of you who are single out there I wish you luck and for the ones who are in a relationship remember communication, compromise and honesty go along way.
April 10th, 2010 at 6:02 pm
I don’t think women have any problem with men not calling. Women have a problem with men SAYING they’ll call and not calling.
It’s a very simple concept, yet very few men get it. Very few women get it. It’s like people get a kick out of making fake promises. There is no reason for this list of reasons. I don’t really care why men called or didn’t call. I don’t like to waste time thinking about it, I have other sources of entertainment. The only thing I care about is that men do what they say they’ll do.
Considering that men think they’re the most “direct” gender, it’s kind of ironic how few men actually do what they say they’ll do.
Next time, just don’t promise the woman you’ll call. She’ll appreciate it. And there will be no need for this list of reasons/excuses/explanations. Noone cares about these explanations.
April 11th, 2010 at 9:24 pm
I guess I could comment on mikes opinions, however I don’t think I want to, nor do I want to comment on anyone else’s. I didn’t come to this website because someone was not calling me back I happened by it in accident. Anyway I read the whole thing and I came to a conclusion of my own, its my opinion and I think what you all said just says one thing, that the battle of the sexes has not ended and it does not seem to be ending anytime soon earthier.
May 14th, 2010 at 5:02 pm
i so agree with xoxo. tons of boys i meet are (even if they got a gf) looking at porn, staring at other girls bottoms and chests. i also want to ask do u know how worried the girl nomaly gets when she knows that most boys on regular basis there checking out other girls even though their going out with the girl right next to them? or that for no apparent reason the boy might leave her? i’ve been suporting my friends and over half of them are heart broken because they go out with the guy he dont even say hes not interested then bam noraly they found the guy making out with some other girl some where then they are so hurt they cry and cry. i know it worries me to death im gonna lose the one i love. he says he wont leave but some times i just worry. at least i have to say he was brave enough to call me to tell me he wants to continue dating me after the first date. and even if he would have called to say he didnt want to keep dating me i still would have been happy to know that i now the truth and not a lie.
May 14th, 2010 at 5:05 pm
oh and i forgot to add this, IF THE GUY REALLY LIKED THE GIRL THEY WOULDNT FORGET TO CALL CUZ OF A STUPID FOOTBALL GAME!!! im sorry but really a freakin football game is more importen then your girl. wow thats sad that really is.
May 14th, 2010 at 5:11 pm
i all so forgot to say that i also agree with Elaine. not all women lie, i know way to many boys who lie and i dont call boys men because normaly there very imature, and they do lie with ease
May 14th, 2010 at 5:28 pm
oh and one more thing sbout boys and their porn habits. wat would u think about ur girl if she did stuff like that? wouldnt u worry/think that they think ur not good enough for them. i know id feel like that, i mean really if a guy sits there a looks at porn think, guys, the message it would give ur gf.
June 18th, 2010 at 11:46 am
the rule of 3. : why do people want to know with how many the other one slept with. who cares. is best not to know and start fresh..why torture your self. when someone asks me how may guys I have slept with it bothers me and I tell him “do you want me to investigate your past life and make hell of this relationship? and of course He says no right away, because I am sure He has things he does not want to share.. so then I tell him to leave it alone.. Just like Mike said I am curious to know but I rather not know at all..If I ask please be polite and tell me is best not to hurt each other with stupid conversations… all it matters is us and only us, you bring other poeple in it does no look good at all…
Most of the guys just want sex. they get it then they disapear because they don’t want a serious relationship but they do not have the balls to say it..that is what makes women mad. ..not becuase He does not want serious relationship but because He was not man enough to be honest.
June 20th, 2010 at 2:01 pm
Well, I find this very interesting especially the comments. I haven’t been in a long term relationship for about 5 years, it ended badly with a barring order on him!!! Anyway I suddenly found myself 35 years old, my friends all married with babies, not that I want babies. Anyway I went onto a dating site and met a nice local man, we swapped numbers after long emails for about a month and then we chatted many many times and text messages. He was very keen so we arranged a date, he thought I was gorgeous, he was very nervous, actually physically shaking. We got on very well indeed, more that I thought to be honest. Anyway, after the date, we arranged a 2nd date, texts and phone call still going strong, an hour before the date, he cancelled saying he was too tired and would I mind meeting the following night. Then he texts me later on in the night, he is out with mates (he is 31 yrs) and asked could he come round!!!! I said no way. So to end a long story, we ended up arrange 4, 2nd dates which he cancelled. He says he is really keen, doesnt want to get hurt and rush into anything and even questioned my interest in him. He says he is likes me alot but I am finding it impossible to get a 2nd date from this man, so much so I have given up and told him to decide what he wanted as I won’t normally put up with cancelled dates ever!! Is it so hard for him to make an effort or no matter what he says about how much he is keen etc, he is just not that into me????? I will never understand men, perhaps someone can please help?
Chris
June 20th, 2010 at 2:04 pm
My title should be help me understand men!! sorry about the misspelling its late here in England!!!
July 4th, 2010 at 9:08 am
These articles crack me up… only clicked here on a lark BUT after reading some of Mike’s advice and the comments just had to add my 2 cents to the women out there. From my years of experience, and waiting tables/bar all thru school I’ve seen so many dates, both successful & pitiful failures… it’s hilarious.
NO ONE IS GOING TO CALL BACK IF THEY DON’T FEEL “GOOD” AFTER MEETING YOU! If I meet someone that ends up being a complete tard by the appetizer, my only objective from then on is to HAVE FUN… Thus:
* If one of you farts – HAVE FUN WITH IT (ask why the other didn’t follow suit!)
* Showing too much skin/pants too tight? – HAVE FUN WITH IT (make jokes ab it making you too uncomfortable, or horny, or start losing spare change down there…)
* No call back? – HAVE FUN WITH IT! (call them posing as dating journalist w/thanks & some friendly “input” on common errors they made during date)
* Rule of 3 on a 1st date? Mike you’re obviously whore and this is a post for frat/college kids… – BUT if they ask HAVE FUN WITH IT! (act shocked, then get specific. Do they want oral sex? anal? do 3-ways count double? how do orgys figure in? does the shocker while cheerleading count? LOL)
I’m in my 30s now, and want to remind you ladies of one biochemical difference men have from women. This is NO EXCUSE mind you, however ALL college-aged men are still going thru the angst of having hormones so out of control they literally explode due to their backed up sperm w/out regular release. I think porn, constant jerking off, glancing at T&A, belief that some “men only want one thing”, can all be explained by this fact.
If you really are the WISER sex, keep these instincts in mind before you judge some of the a-holes you meet so harshly…
July 15th, 2010 at 10:15 pm
A women should always be truthful about the number of men she has been with… I know I am and always have been… But then I have nothing to be ashamed about.. But i dont understand why a women would “LYE” about how many sex partners she has had… and why a man would multiply her answer by three… ha,, thats harsh.. lol
July 24th, 2010 at 7:16 am
karen you really kno how 2 lie and lie what a joke you cant seek the truth you never tell it
August 25th, 2010 at 10:57 am
I think all the rules and reasons and “red flags” are stupid. Everyone looks for something different in the opposite sex. Be yourself on a date and if the other person is into that.. great. If not, it wasn’t meant to be. Don’t spend your time trying to avoid these reasons and “red flags”. Because then you are not being yourself, and a relationship doesn’t work if one or both people are trying to be something they’re not. Do what makes you happy and find someone who is happy with you like that. Period.
August 27th, 2010 at 12:30 am
I would like to date mike!