I think a lot of women get pissed at me because I don’t act interested, though I really should have been. It’s not that they are interested in me per se, it’s that having someone like me interested in them makes them feel better. I have noticed this desire in women who date inter-racially with a focus on white males (I am not white). So I have come to the conclusion that women who focus on one race, typically have low self esteem probably caused by continual rejection due to crossing racial boundaries or relationship false starts due to inequities in the relationship caused by the overvaluation of her mate’s race. ie, if white males have the pick of many women, then it is easier for them to terminate a relationship since less investment will be required on their part to start a new one.

There is a strong preference across the board for white for many reasons:
1. Most populous
2. Perception of economic security/prosperity/status
3. Media presents as beautiful

The only way out of the problem is to treat people like people and ignore the media and untrain perceptions.

I agree with you. I’m in the same boat. I used to never have a preference, but I think in far too many circles, Black men are still seen as a fetish or taboo. As a result of how I’ve been treated, I must admit that I lean away from White women (except for platonic friendships) and my preference for other groups has increased. I couldn’t be happier. Certain things just aren’t mean to be.

Anyway, this is one-sided.
White men are less likely to date black women?
Uh…how many black women are interested in dating white men?
Not many…or they say they will — but how many will actually go there?
LOL
‘Black women’ (collectively) have a strong preference for black men…and have always been the most reluctant of any group to date interracially. FACT.

Speaking of…
I’m having problems. LOL I want a black men but my matches are all non-black! Now, I date hispanics…but my matches aren’t my physical types.

When I go out to social events/bars (not the hole in the wall types) and talk to women, I have no problem striking up a conversation with a woman of another race (generally speak, White and Hispanic) but when it comes time to close the deal and get her phone number, I have gotten rejected more times than I care to remember.

Funny, but out of all the races, Asian women seem most open to dating a Black man.

On a side note, as far as online dating sites go….I have had the most success in meeting quality women in the past on eHarmony. I put “Black” as my race of choice to date when I was a member of eHarmony and I was getting a lot of good matches (with Black women) on a daily basis. Before eHarmony, I tried a few smaller “black dating” sites and they were just of lowered quality. Both the people and the site that looks like it was just set up to take my money. If you’re looking to date quality black people, I would only recommend eHarmony (if you’re looking for a quality relationship, that is).

While I have no problem getting a date (I’m 28 and “better than average” when it comes to looks), it seems as if the guys that I’m always attracted to aren’t into dating Hispanic women.

I live in Southern California so am not sure if this is a National thing or just around these parts?

“Racism and bias will only be eliminated when members of each of the different races are sexually attracted to one another.”

That made me think.

Can you make me laugh? Laughter is so important to me.

Yeah, and as a white woman (from the free love dove hippy civil rights movement of the 60’s and 70’s – Grandma today…) I think that most of us would like to think that we are less constrained about race today. And I think that we are as a society. However looking for a partner in life is pretty intimate isn’t it? We are still geared to fear to some extent that which we do not know. So, what have you got to loose? Get to know them and see how it goes. Life is short, get out there and experience it.