Matchmakers in Real Life – Do They Really Work?
Have you ever given thought to using a bonified Matchmaker to help you on your quest to find that special someone?
I haven’t…..until a few days ago.
I’m a serial online dater. Being that I have been a paying member of any given online dating site over the past 10 years, I recently have begun to question how well they work. Or, maybe they just don’t work for me because I’m a bit “different”.
A few days ago I ran into a gal who is starting up a matchmaking service here in LA. They are hosting events and get-to-gethers at some of the local hotspots. Ever wary of someone out to make a quick buck, I checked out her website (still partially under construction….I’m not going to link to it until it is up and running fully) and saw that they were having some success. Basically they host these events at local LA bars and hotspots for singles to meet and greet. They are best described as “informal, where you don’t feel pressured into talking to someone, but at the same time you know exactly why the guys and girls are there“. I’m going to be checking out one of these events in the coming weeks and will report back to you.
The feature that struck me as being most innovative is that the girls who host the party (a team of girls, with one dedicated full time matchmaker) mix and mingle with the guys in the crowd. They then take pictures of the single guys they think “have potential”. With their permission, the guys pictures are posted on their website. Being that their site is brand new and doesn’t attract a lot of traffic the success rate is nothing to brag about. However, there have been several successful matches on the website alone.
Total cost to the guys (and girls): Free
No cover charge (most of the time), no admission fee, no drink minimum. I think this is a growing trend in matchmaking, being that everyone in this day and age (for the most part) has used the online dating sites, either successfully or unsuccessfully. These types of parties cater to those who are either too busy to bother creating an online dating profile, or are just fed up with some of the crappy matches they have been receiving.
The only downfall to these types of events is that you must attend them in person. All fine and dandy for most of us, but there are some of us “serial online daters” who don’t perform so well in social situations, much less are able to pick up on women in real life. However as compared to any other social situation in real life (parties, bars, coffee bars/etc) talking to women and potentially getting their phone numbers should be a lot easier since the women that attend these events are specifically there to meet guys. It takes the guesswork “is she single or looking?” out of the equation and allows for a more relaxed type of atmosphere.
The guys and girls that attend these events are mostly driven from Facebook and other social media sites so you have a really good cross section of the public. Not all guys will be hot studs that get attention from every single chick in the room….much as not all women will be size 2 models.
Have you guys ever given any thought to using a matchmaker (either paid or free) or attending one of the singles events in your area? Did it work out for you?
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May 5th, 2010 at 10:18 am
I attended an event like this here in New York. It seemed to me as if there were a lot of guys there who weren’t up on their social skills. I noticed more than a few guys hanging out at the bar when they should have been mixing and mingling with the women.
The women were a pretty diverse group, with more than a few “hotties” mixed in. The guys that looked like they were having success were the ones who were actively engaging the women in conversation. (duh!)
Usually at bars you have to have a pretty decent intro line in order to capture a girls attention for more than a quick glance, but I noticed that all it took was a quick “Hi, my name is ___” and the conversation was off and running. This was probably due to the fact that the girls were attending the event for the same reason the guys were.