I’m starting a new series on this site regarding weight loss and exercise. I feel that it is very important for one to have high self esteem prior to entering the dating arena. In this day and age, way too much importance is placed on how people look. Especially women. Far too many people in this day and age are caught up on looks….so much so that the person whom they might be most compatible with would not even get a second look if they aren’t considered “hot”. I have asked relationship and dating advice counselor “Joy” to author a few articles for this site. Her main specialty is helping people get over relationship breakups. As always, check with your Doctor prior to performing any weighloss or exercise routines. In conjunction with exercise, a proper diet is required to lose weight. Some people have had success with the Medifast diet plan. I have compiled a list of medifast coupons that you can use to save money ($50 off, free shipping and a host of other medifast coupon codes).

How to get motivated in order to exercise:

Even with the best intentions, I have found it hard to exercise. Exercise is really not fun for me. But I have learned that I love the feeling that I have after I exercise. The rush of endorphins is wonderful. The feeling of accomplishment is grand. And to top everything off, just knowing that I don’t have to workout any more that day is awesome! So I have decided to use that feeling as my motivation.

I like looking and feeling good. I like being thin. And with my genes, the only way to accomplish that is to watch what I eat and to exercise. Unfortunately, I was not born with a metabolism that no matter what I ate I would stay slim. I have always had to work at it. Fair, no. But at least, I have had lots of good practice over the years of knowing what I have to do to stay at my goal weight. I know if I’m going to splurge on a big meal or a high calorie dessert, I will have to pay with exercise. So back to my new motivation. I am going to use the feeling that I always have after I workout to push me through my dread of working out.

The first time I decided to try it, I had woken up early and had plenty of time before my day got started to pop in an exercise video and get my day off to a good start. I desperately wanted to get on Facebook and play Rollercoaster Kingdom but I decided to practice my new inspiration. I sat on my bed and visualized how I looked and felt after I had a good sweat session. I could almost feel the endorphins rushing in my body and the sense of accomplishment that I always felt when I had finished my exercise. I knew that if I got it out of the way this early that I wouldn’t have to think twice about it later. How great would that be! I would be done. Done with my dreaded exercise and I could have my endorphin rush and pat myself on the back all day long! That was the kick in the pants that I needed.

I got up, popped in my workout DVD and started. I wish I could tell you that I smiled and loved every minute of it. Far from that, believe me. But, like every professional athlete, I kept my eye on the prize. I knew that I would be done soon enough. I knew that I would experience my rush and be extremely proud of myself when I was through. And guess what, I was. I got through and breathed a sigh of relief and knew that I was finished for the day!

What a glorious feeling. To be done and to have the rest of my day to focus on everything else (including, of course, Rollercoaster Kingdom). So I have decided that my experiment worked. I still do not like exercise. But I love the way that I feel afterwards. I love being able to check it off my list of what I need to do. I even get giddy when I am lost in thought and think about what exercise I have to do later and then remember that I am already done. And even though it is probably in my head, I feel a whole new wave of endorphins rush over me and remind me of my accomplishment.

I have learned that I need motivation to exercise. Since I am not one of those people that live to sweat my brains out, I know that I need something to peak my interest. And that, for me, is the feeling of achievement that I get every time I am done. I know that it is a fact of life, in order to stay in shape and to stay healthy, I have to exercise. I have to spend time pushing my body to the limit. It is the ugly truth. But I am willing to reconcile with it, as long as I look good in my jeans and feel good on the inside. Exercise and I will never be good friends but as long as we are playing on the same team, fighting for the same goal, I will continue to invite it in and begrudgingly enjoy its company.

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Even if you don’t plan on signing up for eHarmony, take your time to honestly and accurately fill out the personality profile. After you are finished, you will then be presented with a very detailed analysis of your personality which you can use to see how others view you. Sometimes asking your family and friends to give their honest opinion about you (”Why can’t I find a boyfriend/girlfriend?”) won’t elicit a very honest response.

After you are done reading through your analysis, eHarmony then shows you the members whom you are most compatible with and have the highest chance of success with, all for free.

eHarmony spends tens of thousands of dollars on academic and scientific research every month and incorporates their findings into their personality profile. This isn’t some cheap parlor trick….you are getting the best of the best here, so take advantage of it !

Inside tip: Don’t go out to lunch or dinner 1x this month and purchase the 6 or 12 month subscription for your best chance at success. It’s called “playing the odds”.
True the matches that eHarmony will be bringing you are probably some of the best you have ever experienced in your life, but do you think every single one of them will be your soul mate? Especially if you haven’t dated a long time, I would not advise jumping right into a relationship off the bat. Take some time and let things happen naturally.

Think back to why you are joining eHarmony…..you are looking for QUALITY. Good things take time. You can’t expect to walk into a Karate class and become and expert in just one short month…..why would you expect anything less from your search for the perfect mate?

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Your best chance at success on eHarmony results directly from how much effort you put into it. Like anything else in life, good things take time. eHarmony is responsible for hundreds of marriages every year (and tens of thousands since their beginning) so bide your time. My advice to people who are just starting eharmony (besides taking advantage of the eharmony promotional code) is to take some time to get to know yourself. The best way this can be accomplished is to just get out there and date people. You will learn a lot about who you are, and exactly what you are looking for once you get into the swing of things.

These 6 and 12 month eHarmony subs are without a doubt the best way to join the site. I have received several emails from people asking me “why”. It’s simple, you can’t rush a good thing. eHarmony knows this and as such offers a 6 and 12 month discount on their subscriptions. If you are seriously looking for the love of your life, or a serious relationship, or something in between, you can’t expect to find it in just 1-3 months. It’s like anything else in this world that is worth having….good things take time. You wouldn’t walk into a karate studio and expect to become a black belt in 3 months, would you?

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If you don’t have the time nor energy to embark on the latest diet fad, or (gasp) exercise, one way to quickly lose a few pounds in a couple of days is to go on the Medifast diet. Lately I have been hearing from many different women who are on the “yo yo” diet with Medifast. It works like this: They have an important function or date coming up and need to lose 5-10 pounds quickly. They don’t have the time to exercise and “eating right” is out of the question. They buy 2 weeks worth of Medifast food in advance, then within the first week (generally speaking) they have lost at least 5 pounds, not including water weight gain. I’m not advising anyone to try this diet as I personally have no experience with it….just passing along the latest “fad” to hit the yo-yo dieters out there. If you decide to try this diet, I have found a few medifast coupons that you can use to save money. There is a coupon for free medifast, $50 off and a free shipping coupon as well.

We have all been there. Your Match profile pics look way better than you do when you roll out of bed in the morning. And I know all of my friends’ pictures are taken at a really good angle so that it makes them look at least 10 lbs lighter. But what happens when you are supposed to meet hotguy69 from eHarmony in 7 days and you have 10 lbs to lose. Well, let me tell you girls some tricks from the trade. First, I have to warn you that you cannot lose 10 lbs in just one week and you should not. It is very dangerous to lose more than 1-3 lbs in a week but you can definitely make yourself appear to be 10 lbs lighter with these great tips:

Exercise

Yes, the age old cure for fat, exercise. It will make your muscles pop. Your body needs a few good sweat sessions. During this week, try to get in at least 3-4 aerobic activities each lasting approximately one hour. It can be anything from running to swimming to biking or anything else, as long as you break a sweat. The upside about exercise is that it will make you feel sexier. And look leaner. Exercise is every girl’s best friend and is not a four letter word.

Cut out salt and bad carbohydrates

If you want to look leaner, cut out the things that will make you bloated. These include simple carbohydrates such as bread, potatoes, white rice, pasta and pizza and salty fares. I know these are the good things in life but in order to fit into your cute outfit you need to cut them out this week. Instead, eat complex carbohydrates such as: brown rice, whole wheat bread, fruits, and grilled food. Think about foods you consider healthy and that is what you should be eating.

Drink lots of water and green tea

Water is always the best thing you can put into your body. It is what makes up 70 percent of every human body, anyways. Water also helps you beat the bloat, believe it or not. When you drink water, your body releases stored up liquid that is causing you to be bloated. Try to drink at least 6-8 glasses of water a day. Green tea is another wonderful liquid to be drinking. It has scientifically been proven to help you lose weight. It also has a lot of other wonderful properties that are extremely beneficial to you. So drink up. The recommended amount is 3 cups per day. So cheers to green tea.

Cut out the soda

Soda, even diet soda, has carbonation in it. This causes bloating in the stomach and causes your clothing to not fit. You want to cut out all sodas or carbonated beverages at least a few days before your big date. See above and drink water or green tea instead.

Do not starve yourself

I repeat, do not starve yourself. This is a sure fired way for you to hit McDonalds and Burger King after your date. You will be famished if you do not eat properly the whole week prior to your date. Stick to the basics. Eat lots of fruit, veggies, good proteins (like grilled chicken, fish, tofu, etc.) and complex carbohydrates (see above). You do not need to gain three additional pounds after the date because you went on a huge binge.

Spanx

Drum roll, please, Spanx. If you have not heard of them you are really missing out! These, ladies, are a godsend. You will want to own a pair, or more! Oprah sings their praises. She loves spanx. Spanx are body shaping undergarments designed to give the wearer a slim and shapely appearance. It basically sucks you in, in all of the right places. These and other knockoff brands you can find at any of the major department stores or even Walmart. Just find one that works perfectly under your outfit and voilà you are 10 lbs lighter!! Love it!!

Clothes

This is the cherry on the top. After you have done all of your good work then you finish it off with a great slimming outfit. If you are a pear shape or apple shape, you should probably wear a dress to minimize your hips and butt. I would stay away from pants but if you must then go with a cute pair of bootcut jeans that fit you really well and a long flowing top. Black is always a good color because it is slimming. Big belts also draw attention to your slim waist and away from your bottom half. Dangly earrings are also great because they bring attention to your face. Showing a little bit of cleavage (not too much, you don’t want to look like you are giving the goods away) is always fabulous, too.

So there you have it. Try out these tricks to looking slimmer and see how it goes. The more time you have the better. But no stress, life is too short. Good luck with your date and remember that you are there to have a great time with a hot guy and there is no time to worry about the last few pounds you need to drop. Believe me, he is not thinking about that at all.

Bonus tip: Do not try this without consulting your doctor first…..but back in high school, when the guys on the wrestling team wanted to lose a few pounds very quickly in order to meet their target weight for the upcoming match….I remember seeing them dressing up in layers of hoodie hooded sweatshirts and about 3-4 pairs of sweatpants. They then went for a jog or did some other strenuous physical activity. Again, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR FIRST IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT DOING THIS.

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Last week I was at a local pub with one of my buddies. He met a girl and they seemed to hit it off really well. After a few hours I left (by myself) and figured he would call the next day telling me about how he scored with this pretty hot chick. About 2am, I get a phone call from him telling me that he wasn’t able to close the deal.

I kinda shook my head as I was certain that he was going to (at the very least) get this girls number. My buddy is not a shy guy and he has no problem striking up conversations with beautiful women. So much so, that I try to take a few lessons from him when we are out drinking together. In short: his social skills are about 10x that of any normal guy out there.

Being that my day job is coaching guys and girls on how to succeed in dating, I decided to research this a bit further. Turns out this little issue affects more guys that I knew about. They go out at night and meet a cute girl, chat her up for the entire night and aren’t able to close the deal. I was always under the impression that it should be the other way around…..how TO talk to a girl….once you have her attention, the rest just falls into place. So let’s take a minute here and go back to basics.

Availability

Sometimes guys make themselves too available to the women they are talking to. They agree on everything she says, and really don’t challenge her mentally. It’s not that the guys aren’t smart, but rather they let their defenses down for a minute thinking that this girl represents home base (and an easy score). Once you have a girls attention at a bar and find yourself talking to her for more than a few minutes, take a few to analyze the situation. What are you guys talking about exactly? Business? Pleasure? Her great Aunt Mary whose cats just had kittens? If you notice her starting to listen more than she speaks, this could be a sign that she isn’t being challenged enough.

Play hard to get….

Example (and true story): I met this smoking hot Polish girl a few years back. 5′10 blond/blue perfect body. In short, she was waaaay out of my league. Whatevers. I’m a “what you see is what you get” type of guy, so it really didn’t bother me. So on our second date, we went out to a club. Being the lush wino that I am, I set my sights on getting plastered in the first 15 minutes. Not because I was nervous…but dammit, I wanted to drink ! When I’m that drunk my fat mouth and quick wit start doing their own thing.  It was enough to say that at that particular point in time, a shit I gave not. I knew this girl was a little bit out of my league and I honestly didn’t care. I was out to have fun with a smoking hot chick that night, period.

As the night drew on she invited me out on the dance floor. I got out there and started doing my thing. There were several other cute girls on the dance floor and I couldn’t help but stare at their breasts and rub up against their asses. The girls seemed to reciprocate so it was all good. The next thing I know the girl that I was with was physically pulling me away from the other girls so I would be dancing with her. This happened about 3-4 times before she finally dragged me off the dance floor and sat down in my lap on a barstool.

Needless to say, she became my girlfriend a few days later.

Psychologically speaking, what happened here was that I was dating a girl with semi-low self esteem. I don’t think she fully realized her value “on the market” and as such the act of me dancing with other girls whom she deemed “cuter than her” was enough to trigger a predatory response. Not all women are like that….but a good portion of them have low self esteem. Want to potentially get to first base that night? Make yourself less available by talking to other women. Don’t be a dick about it, do it with style/class and a smile on your face so that she doesn’t think you are being an ass on purpose. Your goal is to make her think that she is going to lose you to another girl who is cuter than her (in her mind).  It’s kinda like playing a fish on the line….give it enough line and it will swim away.  Pull hard and tight on the line and it will most likely break.   You need to find the perfect balance so that she is thinking to herself:

“God, why does every guy I talk to always go for the girls who are cuter than I am?”

Throw in a few shots of vodka into her head….and you kind Sir, will be knee deep in the good stuff that night or at the very least get her phone number.

There are many “self help” websites out there that show you little tricks on how to pick up women. I’m going to skip over all of that stuff assuming that you either already know it (common sense) or aren’t buying into it. The little story that I just related is just one of many ways to “set the hook” and get the girl’s full undivided attention.

It’s 2am. The bar is closing and you are getting tired. If you are like most guys, the first words out of your mouth to that cute chick you have been talking to all night are probably somewhere along the lines of: “Hey, so why don’t we continue this conversation over at my place” or the ever-popular “Can I have your number”.

NO, NYET, NEIN, NAUGHT, NO !!

If you aren’t 100% certain that she will do what you ask….why set yourself up for failure?

For that entire 2-3 hours that you were talking to her, you should have been mentally and subconsciously laying the ground work for either

a. Taking her back to your place
b. Getting her phone number

If you find yourself talking to a girl you met at a bar for more than 30 minutes, you should have enough information about her to give her a reason to want to see you again. Did you have anything in common?

Save the whales?
Keen on Jesus?
Release the hounds?

There has to be at least some common ground you guys found during that conversation. Take said common ground and subtly use it to get her back to your place or her telephone number. I can think of a million reasons to ask a girl for her number.  You should have gotten her number prior to the night ending. That way the pressure is off and your aren’t (in a drunken stupor) trying to figure out how to get her back to your place after last call.

Good luck, fellas ! dcvt2yexs8

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So since one of my favorite holidays is coming, I got to thinking about costumes. Every year, women everywhere start to workout a bit harder and eat a little less just so they can fit into their “sexy fill-in-the-blank” costume. And I got to thinking, which costumes are the sexiest. Now, mind you, there is a fine line between sexy and slutty. You want to show enough skin so that men are definitely drooling but not too much that someone offers you a hundred dollar bill to go with them into the backroom. So what are the best sexy Halloween costumes? Well, here is my list:

1. Sexy Little Red Riding Hood – What man could resist a little lost woman in a hot red outfit looking for her grandmother and turned on by wolves. No one. This is a surefire way to get men everywhere wishing they were lost in a forest with you and playing Mr. Sexy Wolf.

2. Sexy Alice in Wonderland - Oh, Alice. This is essence of what men think about when they think of pure and sweet and so sexy. They will want to hit the sheets with you just to see if you are like little Alice or more like a queen of hearts in the bedroom. This costume is sure to turn any man mad with delight!

3. Sexy Witch – It is Halloween after all. So what is Halloween without a sexy witch? It is like Christmas without Santa Claus. You are the star on Halloween night. Just don’t forget your broom to beat off any unwelcome guests.

4. Sexy Devil -Ah, the devil. Every reason a man wants to be bad. You can make a good boy turn to the dark side with this costume. It screams HOT-literally. You will be like a billboard that reads “Go on be, naughty.”

5. Sexy Cat Woman – The Black Leather Goddess. It conjures up great memories of Halle Berry that every man still has locked in his head. You get to be a badass with a whip and that, is purrrrrfect.

6. Sexy Cheerleader – This is a costume sure to please. What man hasn’t had a cheerleader fantasy? Come on. It has everything rolled up into one. The idea of sports, sex and a hot cheerleader. Include a cold beer and a man has definitely died and gone to heaven. Goooo Cheerleaders!!

7. Sexy Prep School Girl – Yes, the cute plaid skirt. School memories have sent men reeling for ages over the thought of this outfit. Then there are the wonderful memories of Britney hitting us one more time in it. You will move to the head of the class in this Halloween costume.

8. Sexy Little Bo Peep – Poor Little Bo Peep. She lost her sheep. Now what’s a girl to do? She needs to find a studly Sheep Farmer to go find them. And while he’s at it he will probably run into Sexy Little Miss Muffet. Where that goes from there is anyone’s guess…

9. Sexy Officer – No one likes to see the Law Enforcement come a knockin’ unless you are playing a sexy female cop in a very small costume. Then the guys will all beg to be handcuffed and put away by you. Make sure to read them their rights first and use force if necessary.

10. Sexy Nurse- Every man you meet will suddenly have a sore throat when you are doing your rounds. Watch out for their blood pressure when they see you in this costume. And for every good nurse out there, there is always some sexy doctor who is willing to give you a checkup, too.

If not listed, what’s your favorite sexy Halloween costume to wear at a party?

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Generally speaking, in life you don’t get many wake up calls. I would like to respectfully give you a little wake up call:

Today is the beginning of September. In 4 short months December (and all of the holiday seasons) will be upon us. If you were single this time of year last year, think back to how miserable it was to be “flying solo” during the holiday seasons.

With that being said, now is a great time to put yourself out there and start dating. Chances are that you will meet someone very special and be spending the holiday season with them. How great would that be ?? !!

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In other words, if you aren’t as truthful as you possibly can be in filling out the personality profile, then you are setting yourself up for failure. eHarmony’s matchmaking system is one of the best out there, but you need to give it the right information in order for it to properly match you with the person(s) whom you are MOST compatible with.

By default, other people are not allowed to see the results of your personality profile. You can change this by going into the settings and clicking the “allow others to view my personality profile”.

Even if you don’t plan on becoming a member of eHarmony, take 15 minutes out of your busy schedule to try this out. After you are done, eHarmony then presents to you a detailed analysis of your personality. This is a great tool for being able to view yourself as how other people could potentially view you. Do you really know yourself?
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My advice to you is simple. Since you are paying for a subscription, why settle for the first person that comes along? Go for broke !! Take your time, go out on as many dates as you possibly can, meet as many new people as you possibly can. In doing so you will not only get a good idea of the type of person that you are looking for, but you will also accomplish something else: Getting to know yourself. Dating is a wonderful learning process in which we not only get to know other people, but we also get to know ourselves.

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Dating site: Compatible Partners
Inception: 2009
Registered Members: 1 million
Daily marriages: Unknown
Types of members: Gay and Lesbian people looking for meaningful relationships
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Pricing:

Initial cost: Free to the first 10,000 members (over)

Between: $19.95 and $59.95

For returning members (who have let their subscription lapse)
Compatible Partners sometimes offers special discounts and promotions.
Certain subscriptions may offer a discounted renewal rate. The compatible
Partners Review is based upon my eharmony review since both websites use the same basic underlying frame work as well as utilize the same patented eHarmony personality profile.

Best Features:

Without a doubt, the best feature Compatible Partners has going for it is the patented matchmaking system that powers the eHarmony online dating service. Nothing has been changed whatsoever. Pretty much…if you are gay or lesbian, you are getting the same high level of matchmaking that the eHarmony users are….but at a fraction of a price.

The price for Compatible partners is extremely competitive (some cases cheaper) that most other gay and lesbian dating sites out there.

Much like eHarmony, Compatible Partners is not a “let’s hookup” type of website. Save your money and go somewhere else if that is what you are looking for. The people who sign up for Compatible Partners are looking for long term, lasting relationships.

Worst Feature:

Back in 2007, a lawsuit was filed against eHarmony claiming that they discriminated against Gays and Lesbians because they did not have a feature to match men with men and women with women. The lawsuit was settled and eHarmony responded by creating Compatible Partners. I did some research (as well as spoke to several people “on the inside” over at eHarmony) about this and found that the corporate culture of eHarmony is not about discrimination at all. eHarmony is not an “anti-gay” establishment. eHarmony only performs research on straight heterosexual couples and incorporates those findings into their matchmaking system. The Compatible Partners system is based off the eHarmony matchmaking system which in turn was based on scientific research on HUMAN compatibility.

Here’s my question: How many of the people that were interviewed for the original human compatibility studies (that form the foundation of the eHarmony/Compatible Partners matchmaking system) were actually bisexual or gay/lesbians still in the closet (and didn’t tell the people interviewing them)?

Human beings are human beings are human beings.

Intro:

Compatible Partners was started in July 2009 to cater to gays and lesbians who are looking for long term, lasting relationships. There was much controversy surrounding eHarmony’s decision to start Compatible Partners, but new member registrations are growing exponentially every single month. The word is quickly getting out that gays and lesbians finally have an online dating site that caters to those who are searching for long term, lasting relationships.

Compatible Partners Review:

Compatible Partners uses the exact same format as eHarmony. Most online dating sites require you to create a profile (of which can be a royal pain). Most people are hard pressed to come up with 1000 words “about themselves”. Then you have to browse through page after page after page of singles. When you do find someone, how do you know that you are compatible with them? Compatible Partners saw this and came up with a much better way of matching people.

Compatible Partners takes all of the guesswork out of this by incorporating their patented matchmaking system into the matchmaking process.

When first signing up for Compatible Partners, you are asked to fill out their personality profile questionnaire. This questionnaire takes anywhere from 30-45 minutes to complete and at the end, it analyzes your personality and gives you back a very in depth and detailed report about yourself. Compatible Partners then takes your results and matches you with other available singles in their system whom you are most compatible with.

This level of involvement required by Compatible Partners serves two purposes:

1. It weeds out the people whom are not serious about dating. Guys and girls that are looking for one night stands are very unlikely to sign up.

2. It gives Compatible Partners a clear picture of your personality so that they can match you with other Compatible Partners members whom you are most compatible with.

After the initial personality profile is out of the way, navigating through the site is a breeze. You can view your matches, view your personality report and change or modify your account settings. You are not allowed to freely communicate with your matches right away. Instead, you go through a process called “guided communication” in which you ask each other questions back and forth and answer them. You can select from a “canned” list of questions or ask your own. This serves a dual purpose:

1. Most people don’t know what exactly to say to break the ice. This takes all the guesswork out of what to say, and when you finally reach “open communication” stage, you will have a ton of stuff to talk about.

2. It allows for the important questions to be asked early on, which will tell you right away if you wish to continue communication with the other person.

There are five steps to the Compatible Partners guided communication process:

1. Read Your Match’s “About Me” Information
In this step, you look at your matches “about me” information.
They might tell you what hobbies they like, or any other information
that you can use to spark up a conversation.

2. Send 1st Questions
You start off by sending 5 questions to your match. They in turn
answer those questions. You can select from suggested questions
given by Compatible Partners or make up your own.

3. Exchange 10 “Must Haves” and 10 “Can’t Stands”
You check off 10 boxes of “must haves” in another person and
“can’t stands” in another person. Simple as that. Don’t like smokers?
Check the “Can’t Stand” smoking box.

4. Send 2nd Questions
Going back to step #1, you are allowed to send
(and receive) 5 more questions.

5. Open Communication

This is the final stage of the matchmaking process and you are allowed to communicate freely with your match. If you have made it this far, chances are this might be a match made in heaven ! My advice to you is to take things slowly and don’t rush !! Get to know your match and take everything you have learned about them in the guided communication process and use it to spark a really good conversation.

Final thoughts:

Compatible Partners is built on the same successful framework that powers eHarmony. No matter what your opinion, the fact remains that the eHarmony matchmaking system works. It was ultimately designed for human compatibility. Saying that “it isn’t for gays and lesbians” is kinda like saying “Oh hey, those new tires you bought for your car weren’t SPECIFICALLY made for your Honda Accord”….even though the bolts all line up. So why would there be any surprise when you install the tires and they work as advertised?

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Read the below paragraph. If it sounds like something you would do, it’s probably in your best interests to pay close attention to the rest of this short article.

Close your eyes and think back to the last time you were at a bar on a Friday or Saturday night with a group of your guy friends. After the first couple rounds of drinks and your buddies started mixing and mingling with the lovely females that surrounded you, did you notice yourself starting to glance around the bar (perhaps nervously) looking to make eye contact with a cute chick in the high hopes she would reciprocate? When you made said eye contact, did she wink slyly at you, make the “come here, you big stud” motion with her finger or did she glance away withoutsomuch as even a smile?

As the night drew on, did you find yourself standing (or sitting) in the corner of the bar by yourself….grasping the bottle of beer in your hand and nervously sipping it…to the point where you started to notice how much you were drinking?

When you finally got enough liquid courage inside you and figured “it’s now or never” and walked over to a girl….did you actually know what the hell you were talking about when you were trying to spit some game to her? Was the (nervous) laughter that was coming out of her and her friends mouths laughing with you, or AT you?

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Here is the secret on how to talk to women if you are nervous or shy:

Practice, practice, practice. You can search the interenets far and wide and will not come up with better advice. Practice makes perfect, young padowan.
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Let’s analyze the above bar scene and see just what you did wrong that night:

1. You went out to a bar, knowing full well that you are shy/nervous and “not too good at talking to the ladies”. You set yourself up for failure the second you walked out your front door with even the slightest hope that you would meet a girl that night.

2. You let your buddies leave you at the bar (to go talk to the women) by yourself. Women can smell desperation a mile away and even if some chick was looking for a pity f#@% that night, the sight of you by yourself…..looking like a deer caught in the headlights was cause enough to make her rethink her original plans of going home alone back to someone named B.O.B.

3. As you struck out alone you decided to get even drunker to mask your nervousness….not fully realized that it exacerbated it by about 150%.
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To save yourself from future failure, I would advise you to do the following:

When you go out to bars with your buddies, take some time to relax and realize that you probably aren’t going to get a girls number that night. Once you have the “anything goes” mental attitude, the battle is halfway won. This relaxed mindstate allows you to be you, and if by chance a female does strike up a conversation with you, you won’t be as nervous as you would have if you were expecting it.

Going back to my original statement: Practice, practice, practice. Here are 3 easy ways to get practice in talking to women:

1. Goto local coffee shops and pick a seat and sit. Don’t bring your laptop, don’t bring a book. Just park your ass in a chair and sit. Force yourself to sit even if it feels uncomfortable. If you are lucky, a girl might sit down next to you, but I wouldn’t expect it. If someone does strike up a conversation with you, go with the flow. The point of this exercise is to force yourself to stay in situations that you might deem “uncomfortable” or “awkward” due to the fact that you are surrounded by strangers and have no idea who might come by to talk to you. It is critically important that you de-program the “wall flower” out of your subconscious prior to moving on to step #2.

2. After a week or two of the coffee shop (or any public place) you are probably a bit more relaxed now being in public in social situations. Good, but you’ve got a long way to go. Join an online dating site. I would advise Match.com or Yahoo Personals. The reason being is that both dating sites are more casual than some of the higher end online dating sites (like eHarmony). Create a profile, using clear pictureS (plural) of yourself. When it comes time to write the “about me” part, just be honest. Now, start browsing your ass off at the females on the personals site and send at least 50 emails. Do it canned style. We are going for quantity, not quality here. Chances are that at least 1 female will write you back. It is now your mission to get her phone number and start chatting your little ass off over the phone.

Do this repeatedly with as many women as you can, then set up a few dates. After a while you will start noticing your confidence building ….so much so….that you don’t even think twice when it comes time to talking to a girl you have never met before in public. It is just second nature.

I used to work for a very small company that showed guys how to overcome shyness in public and give them the tools and abilities they needed to talk to women in real life. I used the exact same methods/techniques in real life for my clients. For the entire 1 month program, we charged $1500.00. Every single guy (about 40 of them) that I worked with came out a confident, new man.

So pretty much I just gave you a $1500 crash course in how to talk to women if you are shy or nervous. For free. It will take you about a month (give or take) to develop the necessary skills to be good enough to stand on your own when it comes time to talking to women. Feel free to leave a comment or question below and I will respond within a few hours (give or take).

I don’t know what else to do/say to help you out…? Does shock treatment work best for you?

Have you considered dating men, perhaps?

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If you or someone you know is always saying “I’m tired of being single” but doing nothing about it…..join an online dating site. Pick anyone.
If you think it costs too much, simply cut back on other things in your personal life. Don’t go out to lunch (when you are at work) on Fridays.
Instead pack a lunch.

Make it a point to send no less than 3 emails a day for 2 weeks straight. Playing the odds game, sooner or later you will meet someone you click with. Right now the online dating sites are experiencing a tremendous upswing in new members. This is partly due to the economy (NY Times had a recent article about how the online dating sites are experiencing huge membership levels due to the economy) and partly due to the fact that the weather is getting a bit colder and those that are single are starting to realize they had better get on the proverbial ball if they want to meet someone in time for the upcoming holiday season. Nothing sucks more than to be by yourself on the holidays (trust me, I know).

If you are looking for a specific online dating site, check out the reviews in the right hand corner. Each site that has online dating has their own particular strengths and weaknesses. One this is for sure….your chances at finding someone are almost 25 times greater with online dating than it is by going out to the bars or hoping for a chance encounter out in public.

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Hey Ladies !  My name is Matt and I was asked by the owner of this site to come on here and confess my sins:

I am currently cheating on my girlfriend of 4 years, and to be quite honest I have no intention of stopping.  The reason(s) I am cheating are many and varied.   I didn’t agree to come on here to be crucified by a bunch of jilted women.   If that’s the only thing you can say about me, take it somewhere else as you won’t be telling me anything I haven’t already heard.

It is my intention to explain to you how I have been able to get away with cheating on my girlfriend over the past 6 months.  A quasi penance from a mildly guilty conscious, if you will. For the remainder of this article, you will be taken inside my head as I go about my daily routine while trying to cover my tracks so my girlfriend doesn’t find out.

Here is some background information for reference:  I am 30 years old and have a college degree.  I am currently employed and make decent (not great) money for a guy my age.  I live with my 31 year old girlfriend of 4 years.  She has her college degree as well and works full time.  I have been cheating on her for the past 6 months with a 22 year old girl (Kelly) I work with.   At first I was paranoid about getting caught, but as the months flew by it’s gotten so easy that I honestly don’t give it a second thought.  Oh, and Kelly has no idea I have a girlfriend.

-  Rise and shine !

It’s 9am on Saturday morning as I roll out of bed next to my still sleeping girlfriend.   Last night I told her that I was going to go out and watch a movie with my buddies (and they were instructed to cover for me, should she call).  In reality I was having sex with Kelly at her apartment.   As I am making my way towards the bathroom, I quickly scoop up the shirt/pants/underwear I went out in last night and drop them in the clothes hamper.  Have you ladies ever found one of those “static cling” freshener sheets inside your laundry hamper?  That’s a great way to automatically get rid of any scents that should not be on your boyfriends clothes.  The greatest part is that if you happen to find it, you probably won’t think twice as it kinda sorta makes sense that you found one in your laundry hamper…

I grab a washcloth and bar of soap and immediately wash my hands, neck, face and “below the waist”.  That gets rid of any incriminating odors right off the bat.  I buy manly smelling bar soap that has a hint of a musky scent to it.  It is great for covering up scents that should not be on my body.   Any brand will do, but I find the best manly smelling soap comes from the .99 cent store.  It is so god-awful smelling that I could get sprayed by a ravenous pack of skunks and still come out smelling like a rose.

I look at myself shirtless  and do a quick once-over in front of the mirror to check for any bruises or nail marks that I might have gotten the night before.   All good !   I finish up in the bathroom and crawl back into bed ready to sleep in for a few more hours.   James Bond is my bitch.

-  The Best Defense is a Great Offense.

Like most guys, I watch a lot of football games on t.v.   The football teams that win more often than not have a great offense.  I try to apply that theory intelligently when it comes time to getting in fights with my girlfriend.   During the first 2-3 years of our relationship, my girlfriend repeatedly accused me of cheating on her whenever we got into a fight.  The funny thing is that I didn’t start cheating on my girlfriend until 6 months ago.  (Put that in your pipe and smoke it, Freud).

Even though I am good at covering my tracks…there are times when I swear she knows I am up to no good.  It is around those times that I intentionally pick fights with her and make cheating accusations.

Example:   A few months ago I accidentally feel asleep at Kelley’s house on a weeknight.   Woke up the next morning to my cell phone ringing at 6am.  It was my girlfriend, wondering where in the hell I was and why wasn’t I home getting ready for work.  I told her I got too drunk to drive last night while playing pool over at Chris’s house.  It got late and I forgot to call her.  Told her I was on my way home.  After she hung up, she immediately called my friend Chris and asked to speak to me.   Chris told her that I had just pulled out of his driveway in a bloody rush to come home.   All of my guy friends know what to say and when to say it.  It’s part of the “guy code”.

So the next day was Saturday and we were at Target shopping for misc. stuff.   She still didn’t quite believe my story and that entire morning I was being given the cold shoulder.  So while we were in line waiting to check out in Target, I noticed a good looking teenage kid who was working the cash register.  Luckily the line was shorter than the one we were in so I told her to move into that lane.   As I was getting my credit card out to pay, the good looking cashier kid started to make small talk with my girlfriend.   That’s all the ammo I needed.

On our way back to my car, I purposely accused her of flirting with the good looking kid and we fought for a good portion of the morning.  Needless to say, the heat was off.   Phew.

-  Bro’s Before Hoes.

Speaking of friends….you can forget about asking your boyfriends guy friends if he is cheating on you.  That’s like walking up to a parrot and asking it to recite the Gettysburg Address. It can’t be done.   My guy friends have a prepared script of answers and know how to stick to it.   Best of all, if you do start questioning your boyfriends friends about him cheating on you….how soon do you want to bet it will be before they run and tell him?

-  American Beauty.

When I first met my girlfriend, I had the body of any given average guy out there.  Not too fat, not too skinny.  So did my girlfriend.  When I met Kelly (5′8 blonde/blue 36C, perfectly flat stomach) it was lust at first sight.   Kelly only seemed to date guys that were big, buff and had arms like cannons.  Lucky for me she thought I had a great personality and was “really cute”.    After the first night I saw her naked, I realized I had better hit up the gym and hit it up fast.  I started working out 3-4 times a week hoping to get my 6pac and chest and arms buffed out before the end of summer.   My girlfriend was all for it and even suggested which protein supplements I should take.   Win-win situation !

-  Secret Agent Man

Text messages, emails and cell phones can leave a very incriminating trail.  So what’s a cheating boyfriend to do?  Cover Your Ass.   Since I work with Kelly, it doesn’t make any sense to text message/email or call her on the phone.  I simply come into work and occasionally bump into her in the hallway or break room.  Our coworkers have no idea as we treat each other like anyone else in the office.  Whenever it comes time for a booty call later that night, she simply walks over to my desk and places a unopened soda can on top of my inbox and vice versa.  If for whatever reason said booty call cannot take place, the soda is simply returned to her desk.

What about the weekends/holidays/random horny times when you aren’t at work ?

For the past 6 months I have been getting phone calls from a collection agency looking for a dude by the name of “Bob”.  My name is Matt !!   Sometimes my girlfriend picks up my cell phone when it is ringing from a blocked number.  The professionally sounding girl on the other end of the line identifies herself as “Shaniqua, from XYZ collection agency” and goes on a little spiel about how “not paying your bills can adversely affect your credit“.     Sometimes, I call that number back and tell them to “take me off your calling list or I will report you to the FTC”. Those are the times when I don’t go to Kelly’s house for sex.   Read in between the lines if that doesn’t make sense.

I’m going to give you ladies a free tip.  I cover my ass pretty good, but I’m sure there are guys out there who don’t.  Perform a Google search on your boyfriends email address, chat screen names and any identifiable piece of information about him you can think of.   Chances are if he went online to the car forums that he belongs to and posted a topic about how “I’m so over my current relationship” and asked for advice…..Google will have caught it in all its glory for you to read in the search results.  Google is very powerful and you should learn how to perform advanced searches.  You would be surprised what you can find with a little due diligence.  If you are certain that he is cheating on you via his home computer, perform a search engine query for the term “keylogger”.  When the FBI kicks down your front door, you didn’t get the idea from me.

Cell phone/Credit card bills (in print and online):  All of my passwords on my computer are changed once a month.  My emails/etc are locked down tighter than Fort Knox.  Cell phone bills?  I checked the “do not receive paper bills” for my AT&T wireless bill.  My iPhone has a “lock” feature to it where a 4 digit passcode must be entered prior to unlocking the phone.  Again, all ways of covering my tracks.

-  The-Low-Ride-er-is-a-Little-Higher…

Sometimes Kelly and I go out together on the town.  Yes it is very risky, but hell…when the words “I can has cheezburgerz?” come out my mouth at 2am on a Friday night, I’m having myself a cheezburger.  Kelly is 5′8 tall and weighs about 110 pounds.   My girflriend is 5′2 tall and weigh a little more.   So every time Kelly gets into my passenger seat, she has to move the seat back a bit and adjust the headrest etc.   I drive a 8 year old Audi and it has programmable seats so all I need to do is just push a little button and the seat goes back to the normal position.

I also ask my girlfriend to help me keep my car clean.  That means she cannot leave her shit in my backseat, including but not limited to:  Hairbrushes, purses, chick cd’s, anything that would give any indication that another female had been in my car.   I swear, most women have never heard the phrase:  A man’s car is his castle.

- Sign Sign Everywhere a Sign…

Women are adept at picking up “signs”.  Any slight deviation from the norm and their little ears perk up like cute little bunny rabbits, sharp forked tounges ready at the draw to nag us men to insanity.    With that being said, I keep my routines/schedules/etc to-a-“T”.   I make sure to let her know exactly when I’m going out, who I’m going out with and how long I will be gone for.  This takes all of the guesswork out of it for her.   Think back to when a certain dimwit was in office…whenever public opinion about him went down, the “terror alert” mysteriously went up.   Same goes for me.  Whenever I feel that my girlfriend might suspect something, I force-feed her pre-packaged information to let her know that I’m being the best possible boyfriend that I can be.   Halo over my head !   (pitchfork behind my back).

That’s pretty much about it.   The point I’m trying to make here is that if your boyfriend is determined enough, he will get away with whatever he wants.   If you suspect your boyfriend of cheating, it can be very hard if not impossible to prove such things.  You ladies cheat just as much as us guys do….and I’m sure more than a few of you get away with it right under your boyfriends nose.

- Matt K.

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- edit by Karen:  Matt sent me this article 2 weeks ago.   Good thing I waited until today to post it.  Apparently there has been an update in his situation.  Read on:

…I was busted last week.   My (now ex) girlfriend apparently had one of her guy friends that I didn’t know follow me out one night.  Told her I was going to Chris’s house when in reality I was making a beeline to Kelly’s apartment.   I don’t know the exact details, but from the bits and pieces that I garnered, he started following me 1 block from where I live.  When I got to Kelly’s house, he took a picture of my car and of me at her front doorstep.   This is where it gets a bit strange…..apparently he went into her backyard (she lives in a duplex apartment) and through the windows took a few more photos of me and Kelly getting it on.  I was confronted by my girlfriend last week and busted out with the “3 D” defense…you know:  Deny, Deny, Deny.   After about an hour of putting me on the hotspot, I thought I had gotten away with it….until her guy friend showed up at our front door with pictures in hand.

Just goes to show you that no matter how good and how determined you think you are….chances are that someone better and more determined (in his case, his girlfriend) will come along and expose you for the cheating scumbag that you are.    – Karen

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What about those times when you get a girls number and call her and she never calls back? This type of situation has more to do with the short period of time you spent talking to her and getting her number. In other words, your game. These types of situations are much harder to figure out why she wasn’t interested (or gave you the same phone number that the last 3 girls gave you: 555-1212) because of the short period of time that you spent talking to her. I am going off the assumption that you are spending anywhere from 5 minutes to less than an hour in your conversation with this new girl.

The aim for this article is to take a look at the first impressions a female gets from a guy she just met and examine the reasons as to why she declined to continue communication further. There are thousands of situations in real life that you could encounter a female. For this article, I’m going to pretend you are in line at a local store….be it the video store, CVS, bank, wherever. You are standing in a semi long line and there is a cute female right in front of you. So cute, that you feel the need to talk to her in an attempt to get her number. A good portion of the men out there don’t have the balls to at least try to talk to a female in that situation, so consider yourself 2 steps ahead of the game if you have made the decision to give it a shot and talk to her:

1. Lack of physical attraction

This one is a no-brainer. Simply put, you really had nothing to say to her that caught (and held) her interest and your physical looks aren’t attractive enough to her in order for her to overlook the fact that you are yet another horny guy looking to score some tail. Best advice: Join a gym, brush your teeth, buy better clothes….do something that compliments your looks.

2. Cute as a puppy, dumb as a rock

On the other side of the token, we have guys that could probably put someone like Brad Pitt to shame in the looks department…..but they tend to lack the cranial capacity to carry on an intelligent conversation. Guys like this generally don’t have a hard time picking up women. Sooner or later they will encounter a girl that is superficial enough to overlook the fact that he considers “Hop on Pop” a literary classic.

3. Creepy looking pervert guy

When women are out in public, they tend to have their defenses turned on. Especially if they are attractive. They are so used to guys staring at them that they tend to ignore it with a thinly veiled sense of hostility. If you find yourself staring at a female while in line, and she notices you….and doesn’t smile….there’s a good chance that she has already judged you as some creepy guy. Best thing to do is not make eye contact (don’t even think of giving her body the once-over with your eyes) and treat her like you would treat any other female that you weren’t attracted to. That way when you do open your mouth to speak, you have a clean slate.

4. Desperate Dan

Guys that are desperate REEK of desperation whether they know it or not. Subconsciously they are so desperate that their actions mirror their thoughts without them realizing it at all. Women are highly sensitive creatures and can smell desperation a mile away. Believe me when I tell you, it is a total turnoff. If on the day you are in line about to talk to a girl….ask yourself “am I feeling desperate today?” If so, save yourself some heartbreak and look the other way.

5. Can’t close the deal

So you finally found the balls to approach a female out in public. You got her attention and the first words that come out of your mouth are: “Sooo, I see you like the Tampax brand of tampons.” (The song “Shot Down in Flames” by AC/DC is going through my head right now…)

You need to step up your game in these types of situations. “What in the hell can I say to break the ice with a cute girl who is in line in front of me at the local drugstore buying tampons?” Good question. I can’t give you a right or wrong answer. This all depends on who you are as a person. Let your personality do the talking and if it clicks, you got yourself a phone number. If I were a guy in the same exact situation, I would think twice about talking to girl in line at a drugstore buying tampons. She might be a bit embarrassed in the first place (because you are talking to her while she is holding a box of tampons). If you absolutely have to talk to her, try your best to ignore what she is holding in her hands and instead make a comment like:

“Man these cashiers are sure slow today” or something that effect. Observational humor is probably your only recourse in a situation like this.

There are many more reasons why she didn’t give you her number. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she isn’t into men…..maybe she just had a bad day and doesn’t want to deal with guys talking to her. My only advice to you guys is to play the numbers game and sooner or later you will meet the right female. Just don’t take it too personally when she gives you a dirty look and starts looking around for store security.

Top 5 Reasons Women Aren’t Interested In You is a post from: Online Dating Matches

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“These things happen”.

There really isn’t much you can do when meeting the parents for the first time of your significant other. Either they like you, or they don’t. First impressions are hard to shake off and even harder to change once someone has judged you in their mind. Keep in mind that they are only trying to figure out if you are the right person for their little Johnny or Susie and will most likely have you under the proverbial microscope the entire time. You can’t change who you are, so instead try to tread lightly when meeting your boyfriend or girlfriends parents for the first time. I have compiled a few suggestions that you should keep in mind when meeting the parents of your significant other. Just because the first “meet and greet” went off without a hitch, doesn’t mean you are off the hook. Depending on each person, it could take months for their parents to accept you (if they are really judgmental). Best thing to do is keep a smile on your face and try to avoid doing anyone of the following faux pauxs:

I’m only listing 5 items this time. Everything else would be a waste of your time in reading this article. I could go on and on about “how to dress”, “what to say”, “proper dinner manners” etc, but I’m sure you already have that down pat. My intentions for this article are to help you with a few curveballs that might be thrown your way:

1. Discussing politics.

This reminds me of the time when a friend of mine was invited out to dinner with the parents of his new girlfriend. Over the course of conversation, the topic of the troubled economy was brought up and he took a few swipes at former President Bush. In his mind, it was a “safe bet”, since everyone he knew hated Bush and thought he was the Anti-Christ. Well, it turned out that her parents were HUGE Bush supporters….and after a few (well meaning) verbal pot-shots, the dinner became very uncomfortable.

2. Foul language/thinly veiled racism.

Just because his/her Dad is the re-incarnation of Ralph Kramden, doesn’t mean you need to follow suit in order to impress him. Even one small off-color joke overheard by a distant relative at whatever function you are attending can come back to haunt you. People talk. Relatives gossip. Keep your “F-You’s” and “those damn….” to yourself at the dinner table and beyond. Even if you don’t have one biased belief in your entire body….just one relative (cousin/brother/sister) who happens to overhear something you say, can take it out of context and really screw you over. Save the cusswords and off-color jokes for your friends/bar.

3. I’m not a Lawyer, but I play one on the internet !

Whatever you do, do not lie in order to impress his/her dad or mom. This is not a job interview, you can’t get away with stretching the truth a little bit. These people will be involved in your life the entire time you are dating their son/daughter and people have really good memories. People aren’t stupid and can tell the difference between “being nervous” and “trying too hard to impress”. The former is forgivable and quite natural, the latter might lead them to believe you have some to hide.

4. When in doubt, shut your fat mouth.

Ever heard the saying “Give a man enough rope and he will hang himself” ? Same goes for meeting the parents of your new boyfriend or girlfriend. If by chance his/her dad served in Army as an interrogator and you find yourself getting the third degree, just go with the flow. If you don’t know the answer to a question they are asking you, just tell them that you “aren’t sure”. Tis better to be thought of as a fool, than to open your mouth and confirm it.

5. Sisters/brothers/cousins/aunts/uncles are all watching you….and making mental notes.

Just because her dad slapped you on the shoulder and called you “Son” in the first 10 minutes you meet him, doesn’t mean you are off the hook. If you are at a family function (especially one that is serving alcohol), keep in mind that the entire family is watching you. Even if they don’t act like it, trust me….your words and actions can come back to haunt you. Keep this in mind when you are talking to Uncle Tony and he starts telling you stories of “how much pot” he used to smoke back in college. Now is NOT the time to brag about the 10′ bong you and your buddies bought the other day. (a similar situation happened to me, although it didn’t involve pot. I met her Uncle at a family function and he started bragging about how many bar fights he got into “back in the day”. I related a few stories of my own in the spirit of the conversation. About a week later my girlfriend asked me “so how many fights have you been in”. Doh !)

Keep in mind that if her parents want to find out more information about you, they will. The first place they might start (in this day and age) is the internet. Ever “Googled yourself” ? Check and double-check your Myspace and Facebook pages and clean them up a bit. I have never heard of a parent hiring a private detective, but that doesn’t mean that their parents don’t have friends in high (or low) places that can get more information about you. I’m not just speaking to the potheads and Billy-Bad-Asses out there….ever go out on a night on the town with your girlfriends and a picture might have been taken of you kissing your girlfriends boobs? Gee, wonder where that picture is now? The point here is try to do some reputation management and get your ducks in a row prior to meeting your new boyfriend or girlfriends parents.

How to impress your new boyfriend/girlfriends parents is a post from: Online Dating Matches

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Go for broke. Find your soul mate. Do not settle nor compromise your values. Your soul mate is out there, you just need to find them, and it might take some time. It took my best friend well over a year to find her husband on eHarmony. Within that year as an eHarmony member (and before she met her soon-to-be husband on eHarmony) she seriously dated 2 guys. I remember meeting both of these guys on different occasions and I was amazed that she finally started dating quality guys.
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It is very simple. The first thing you need to do is take the eHarmony personality profile. There are a few pages of multiple choice questions that you must answer. After you are done, eHarmony then analyzes this information and diagnoses your personality traits based upon the outside academic and internal psychological research that is ongoing. eHarmony spends a lot of money on academic and internal studies of human compatibility. They then take their findings and incorporate it into the eHarmony experience. The goal at eHarmony is to match you with the person whom you are most compatible with and will most likely wind up in a loving, lasting relationship. Unlike the other online dating services which just give you a rinky-dink analysis, eHarmony provides a scientific based matchmaking system that is geared towards success.

After you are done with the personality profile, eHarmony then presents to you their analysis and then shows you the people whom you are most compatible with. You can view your matches for free. It is at this point that you must decide which eHarmony subscription package to join. I tell my readers that in my opinion, the best way to increase your chances at success on eHarmony is to purchase a 6 or 12 month subscription. Why? Simply put: Do you honestly think you are going to find your soulmate in as little as a month? Think of the one person in life whom you will really and truly fall in love with. Let’s call them “the one”. Finding this person in a month is kind of like walking into a Karate studio and expecting to become a black belt in 30 short days. Unless you are Bruce Lee…..chances are you might need to put forth some effort into finding greatness.

Simply copy down (or click the link) of any eHarmony promotional code above that you wish to use and enter it into the box labeled “promo code”. That’s it ! You will be well on your way to enjoying your eHarmony experience !

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Once you have selected which membership you want to sign up for, simply copy down the eharmony code you wish to use, then enter it into the box. Instant savings !

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“What are the disadvantages of being single?”

Well, there really is no right or wrong answer to this question. Some people simply enjoy the single life….free from having to check in, can go wherever they want and do whatever they want. Other people are resigned to the single life because they simply cannot find someone that they are willing to date. Whatever category you fall into, there are however some clear disadvantages to being single.

1. Holidays
Come Christmas time (or whatever Holiday you celebrate) statistics have shown that people flock to the online dating sites in droves. It is human nature to want to spend time with others and coming from personal experience, there is nothing worse than having to spend the holidays alone and single. If we take this one step further….take any given Friday night. Most people would rather spend time with that special someone than they would moping around the house by themselves. If you are single during any holiday or event outside of work, chances are you are flying solo for the time being.

2. No sex/physical contact
Unless you are into hooking up with random people (of which I don’t advise)…..chances are that if you are a female, your best friend on any given night is a guy by the name of B.O.B. Chances are that if you are a guy, well you get the idea…

3. Flying solo
Ever go out as a “third wheel” with some friends? Sucks, doesn’t it? Especially when the couple you are with are holding hands and getting intimate. In fact, no matter where you go or what you do you are still by yourself, unless you bring a friend along.  Even if your friends try to be mindful of the fact that you are single, awkward moments can and will occur.

4. No financial support
I’m not advocating relying upon your boyfriend/girlfriend for financial support, but in a pinch, they can come in very handy. A friend of mine lost his job and had to move out of the apartment he was living in. Unemployment ran out in a matter of a few weeks and if it wasn’t for his girlfriend who offered to let him move in with her, he would be out on the street.

5. Happiness
Studies have shown that human beings are most happy when involved in some sort of a relationship. I cannot quantify exactly what percentage of the population this holds true for, but from personal experience I can tell you that every single person that I know has been somewhat of a miserable wreck while they are single. After they meet that special someone, it’s not hard to notice the instant change in their personalities and demeanor. I used to work for a 60 year old single man. He was the VP of the company and had a successful career. There was only one small problem…..this guy was the most miserable bastard I have ever known in my life. The grimace on his face in the morning could melt through 5″ thick steel plates. He signed up for an online dating service (eHarmony) and after a few weeks met a beautiful young lady, 10 years his junior.

Then it started….

Mr. Hyde became Dr. Jeckle right in front of my own two eyes. My office was right next door to his, and every morning at 8am he would call his girlfriend as she was just waking up. The conversation went something as follows:

“Hello lovey dovey, how are you beautiful, I miss you !!”
I can’t wait to see my little sweet-tums tonight !!
No you hang up first….No, I’m not going to hang up first,
YOU hang up first….”

(ok, this is a clear advantage to being single…..your co-workers don’t have to listen to the sappy lovey dovey chit chat over the telephone).

They have been dating now for 3 years and are set to get married in August. The miserable SOB wretch of a VP that I used to work for… is now one of the nicest, kindest people I have ever known in my life.   All because of a woman…

He later admitted to me that for the 5 years that he was single, he felt completely miserable and out of touch with reality. It wasn’t until he met his girlfriend that he actually realized how much more life has to offer.   His particular situation was made even more complicated because he was divorced.   Instead of getting back out there, he chose to shut himself off from the “real world” and concentrate solely on work.    Divorced people are especially susceptible to this kind of behavior and if you happen to know one, I would advise you to try to help them get back into the dating scene when they feel they are ready.

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Ladies:

I recently emailed Karen and asked her to allow me to give you a few tips on how to tell if a guy is or isn’t into you. I decided to write this article because I have run into a bit of a challenge in my dating life:

I would meet a girl, go out on a date or two with her, then suddenly realize that I was not interested in dating her anymore. Being that I am a guy…it was kind of hard to tell her that “Hey look, it’s just not working out for me, you’re a swell gal and will make some lucky fellow very happy”. I would try to drop little hints here and there, and for most girls that would be enough. With other girls….I don’t think I could give them a clue even if I were to rub them down with horny-clue-musk, put them in a field full of horny clues in the middle of clue mating season.

So to save me an countless other guys out there the headache and heartache of having to spell it out in plain English for you….here are 10 signs that a guy just isn’t into you.

1. Missed Connection

Think back to the last guy you dated for more than a few weeks. Did you find yourself talking to him on the phone much? Send more than a few text messages back and forth during the daytime? How quickly were your attempts at getting a hold of him reciprocated? Chances are he answered your texts or phone calls within a few minutes of you calling or texting, or at least freely gave you a reason as to why it took him a while to get back to you. When I’m not into a girl, my cell phone mysteriously does not get text messages from her and her phone calls tend to go straight to voice mail. Emails? Whoopsie, that stupid spam folder is acting up again.

2. Busy as a Beaver

“Gee Susie, I would love to hang out with you and your drunken slutty friends at the local bar tonight…..but I have been meaning to re-arrange my sock drawer now for ages. My socks have invaded the homeland of my underwear and my cowboy hat (you know, the real small one with certain “size issues”) has decided that my socks harbor weapons of mass destruction and are about to invade the drawer up on top. As you can see it’s a real Wild Wild West scenario going on here…

What am I doing tomorrow night? Uhhh…Need to go help Grandma dust her living room.”

In all seriousness, whenever I’m fed up with a girl I just met, I suddenly become super busy. I think 2-3 moves ahead so if she calls me out on anything, I always have a logical explanation as to why I’m busy. I would assume most guys out there are like that as well.

3. Me, Me, Me.

Whenever I’m just not feeling a girl, I tend to mentally check out. Like quicker than leaving a Best Western motel that smells like stale hookers and dead cockroaches. When I’m mentally checked out of the conversation/relationship, my thoughts and actions naturally turn to the most important thing in life: Me.
If she starts talking to me, I subconsciously steer the topic of conversation towards me. I quit trying to learn more about her and instead use her as a crutch for all of my issues/problems. Can’t beat free psychiatry while downing a pint or two at the local bar.

4. How YOU doin’ ?

If we are out in public and you notice me checking out other females….you can think to yourself one of two things:

1. “He’s a no good dog of a man.”
2. “Hrmm….Let’s see here….he is out on a date with me, but he is checking out other women. By George, I think I’ve got it ! He’s not into me !”

Oh how I wish #2 was the answer that was chosen more often.

5. Why can’t we be friends! Why can’t we be friends? Why can’t we be friends ??!!! @*#*$!!!

You know who you remind me of? My sister. I think you two would get along juuuust great. You sure are a swell friend. Knock, knock. Who’s there? (in a whispered voice: “your best friend”).

7. My own private strip club.

True story: (names and dates have been changed to protect my neck and legs, of which I have grown fondly attached to. Honestly, I think she was partially related to the mob and the last thing I want is for her to read this, get pissed and put a hit out on me).

So I was dating this chick who grew up in Antarctica. I liked her as a friend, but was having a very hard time getting her to understand that “friends” is the level where it needed to stay. So we decided to go on a nature hike one day…she wore a low cut shirt and some short shorts that day and the entire time she was brushing up against me. Even though I’m a guy, and even though most guys like me are clueless…I think it was a safe bet that she was trying to come onto me. So as we are finishing up our hike on our way back to the car she made the following random comment:

“My bra that I just bought is making my boobs pop out of my shirt”.

to which I replied (without skipping a beat):

“Did you save the receipt?”

8. You love me? I blehblahblah you too…

You see, it’s not that I’m incapable of expressing my emotions as a guy, but rather I am incapable of expressing emotions towards a girl that I’m not into. I tend to keep an active emotional distance from women that I’m not into and if you so much as dip your pinky toe over that line….it creates for a somewhat awkward situation.

9. Any Port in a Storm.

I will admit it. I have sometimes just stayed with a girl longer than I wanted to because the sex was so great (or I was in a real dry spell). A good way to tell that if a guy isn’t into you is to look at how often he wants sex and what happens after the sex. If he only calls you at 3am on a Friday night, drunk off his ass….and then leaves 20 minutes later, chances are he just isn’t into you. If he continually steers the topic of conversation towards the wants and needs of his ding-a-ling, chances are he just isn’t into you for anything else other than sex. At this point, you have 1 of 2 options. Dump the jerk faster than a bad habit, or continue to fool yourself thinking that sex will make him love you. (it never does from a guys point of view).

10. Survivor Man.

When it comes to females that I’m just not into, I try my hardest to not let them know where I live. Meeting my friends and family? Fugghedaboutit. Simply put: Let’s keep an amicable distance between us because I do not want you in my personal life.

There you have it. 10 signs that you can use to determine whether or not a guy is into you. Guys are not complicated and usually your first instinct is the right instinct. Don’t fool yourself, or waste any time/money/emotions on the guy. Move on and be the better person….

Even if you manage to change the guys mind, it will most likely be only for a while and even then you are just setting yourself up for future heartbreak. Just remember that you cannot fit a square peg into a round hole. If it wasn’t meant to work, then it wasn’t meant to work.

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Take your time in filling out the personality profile. It is critical
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eHarmony matchmaking system a little bit about your personality.
The system will then match you with people whom you are most
compatible with according to your personality profile.

When you are ready to purchase a membership, choose your
membership length. I would advise choosing a 6 or 12 month
subscription because this gives you a greater chance at finding
the love of your life. Then look for the box that says “eharmony
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Some people have found success in choosing a 6 or 12 month
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Although the cost is higher in the short run…it actually works
out to be cheaper once you think about it. If you use an eHarmony
promotional code you will be saving quite a few dollars on the 6 or
12 month sub. Not to mention that if you are really looking for
a long term relationship, you will be wasting your time after your
1 or 3 month subscription expires. Finding the love of your life
is no different than working out when trying to lose weight. It
is not going to happen overnight. Granted the matches that
eHarmony will send you are of the utmost quality, but you need
to realize that not everyone you have an instantaneous connection
with will result in a long term relationship. It is best you take your
time and really get to know yourself prior to committing to a full time
relationship. That way you can reasonably enter into the relationship
with the assumption that you know that this is the right person for you !

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Over the course of any given month, I get about 40-50 emails from people asking me for dating advice. Lately I have been noticing a trend amongst the females in which they are not able to get guys to respond to their emails. For illustration purposes, I am going to use my friend Sally who came to me with the exact same problem last week.

Sally is a very attractive 26 year old. She has a good job and comes from a great family. She is funny and witty and the exact type of girl that any guy would dream of dating. With one exception…

In the past week and a half, she has emailed about 15 different guys and not one has responded to her request for communication. I took a look at her personality profile, then took a look at her emails and found the root cause of the problem. I asked her to write an email to one of her matches, but not send it.

She gave me her permission to cut and paste the email into this post:

“Hi John ! I just got back from Pilates class and I’m tired. Work was just out of hand today…Had 3 meetings and the second one caused me to be late for the third one. Oh well, I shouldn’t complain because for the past 4 years I have been working towards this promotion and I guess it comes with the territory. After work I had exactly 30 minutes to drop my car off at the dealership before Pilates class began. The girl at the rental car place was taking her sweet time and the printer was malfunctioning so by the time I got out of there I was already 15 minutes late to class.

I guess this is just one of those days for me !

Well, hope you had a great day and ttyl !”

- Sally

Ok, so what we have here on the surface is a seemingly innocuous looking email from Sally to a guy named John. In it, she describes her hectic day and how nobody/nothing was on time. That nice….if “John” was the brand name of a diary that she picked up at Staples instead of a live human being.

When John reads this email, what is he going to think/say? I would consider myself a master linguist and even I would have a hard time responding to that email. Sally gave John nothing to go off of. She basically treated him as if he was her personal diary. This is extremely impersonal and basically says to John:

“Hey, I’m the center of attention here and TMZ and the Paparazzi should be following me around with a t.v. crew and camera to document the most mundane events in my life.” See you at 6:30pm on Fox Channel 11 right after the Simpsons !!

This email is a clear red flag to John that she might be somewhat self absorbed (perhaps a bit shallow) and atrocious at interpersonal communication skills. I have known Sally for almost 10 years and she does not fit into one of those categories. Sally is relatively new to online dating and doesn’t realize that there is an unwritten code of conduct when it comes to writing emails. I pointed this out to her and she told me that she really couldn’t think of anything interesting to say….

Sally met John through eHarmony. I told her that it was inexcusable that she could not think of anything interesting to say to him. Had she been a member of one of the “lower end” online dating services, wherein all you have to go off of is a cheesy picture and a couple of paragraphs of “about me” then I could plausibly understand….but not with eHarmony.

In a nutshell, before you are given the option to freely communicate with your matches on eHarmony, you must first go through something called “guided communication” wherein you have to choose 4 questions to send to your match. eHarmony already gives you the questions (or you can ask your own) and all your match has to do is respond to those questions either in their own words or pre-answers that eHarmony lists.

So before you get to the point where you can freely communicate back and forth in the eHarmony system, you have already gotten to know quite a bit about the other person. There is a ton of information that you can use to compose a very well written, thoughtful email to your matches on eHarmony.

I told Sally that she should have gone back to those Q&A “guided communication” section and pulled a couple of good questions from his answers. She could have asked him to expand upon his love for dining and cooking. She could have asked him where he plans on traveling this year since he told her that he loves to travel internationally. In the end, I took a look at her guided communication with John and created a sample email that she SHOULD have sent him in the first place:

“Hey John ! Well, we finally made it to open communication ! So tell me a bit more about your love for cooking….what’s your favorite cooking style? Mine is Italian. I don’t cook as often as I like to due to my sometimes hectic work schedule, but when I do I love to make the same pasta dishes that my Grandmother brought here from the old country. Any plans on going out of the country this year? I just got back from Hawaii a few months ago (for work). I haven’t been outside the country but am starting to do some research on flights as I would love to go to Italy this summer.

Anyways, hope you had a great day and talk to you soon !”

- Sally

The above email was short and sweet, yet to the point. In it, there are many topics of discussion that John can “pull from” to reply back with a great response. Trust me, if a man is into you….and you send him an email that is similar to what I just wrote, he will have no problem composing a great reply.

That email did not give out any irrelevant information about Sally (that would raise a red flag in John’s mind). Sally instead greeted him, picked out two things to further expand upon (that they briefly spoke about via “guided communication”) and then said her goodbye. Sally did not come off as desperate, needy, clingy or gave off any sort of red flags that would send John packing for the hills. It did however give John much information to pull from when he writes his reply back to Sally.

Long emails are fine….just not for the first 3 or 4 times you communicate. Long winded emails are a very good indication of chemistry and attraction, but when you start throwing out irrelevant information from the get-go, you are only scaring people away.

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…we somehow wound up in my bedroom. We were both heavily intoxicated and we wound up having sex. It was honestly the best sex I have had since….I honestly cannot remember when. After a few months of seeing each other (including a 3 some with his 20 year old friend) it kind of fizzled out. It was at this point I had apparently made a name for myself and had several young men in their late teens/early 20’s that were wanting to date me.

ODM: I see….so what exactly was it about 18 and 19 year old guys that did it for you?

Debra: At first it was the excitement of it all….then after a while it was really more about convenience than anything else. Everything was light and breezy….no pressure, no having to stress about going out or dealing with “issues” that most single men my age have. I did not need a man to take care of me financially, so that really only left one particular area that needed to be serviced.

ODM: What did your friends think?

Debra: I hang out with a loosely knit group of 30-40 year old professional women. We used to think of ourselves as the “LA version” of Sex and the City. Having a 19 year old boytoy by my side was just like rocking the latest Prada handbag. It was the one fashion accessory that most women my age could not get because Father Time had not been as kind to them as he was to me. A few of my friends who had sons that were 18 and 19 years old did frown upon it a bit but I paid them no attention. “Jealousy” was the first word that crossed my mind whenever someone said something negative…

ODM: So after the initial excitement died down….when did you start taking interest in seriously dating younger men for a committed relationship?

Debra: I would say probably after the first year or so. I only dated 4 guys in that period of time, and all were brief flings. I was at one of the local bars down in Newport Beach with a group of girlfriends. There was this one young man, impeccably dressed….and he had this air of confidence to himself that is normally found in professional men in their 50’s and 60’s. He was the one who approached me and we spent the entire night together drinking and dancing. He asked for my phone number at the end of the night and I really didn’t give it any second thought. I was not expecting him to call me back. Sure enough a few days later my phone rings and he was asking me out to dinner. One thing led to another and in a few short weeks we were boyfriend girlfriend. During the entire course of that relationship, it became very clear to me that dating younger men was the only way to go. An older man could NOT possibly give me everything this 25 year old had to offer. Great body, hot looks, funny, charming, not jaded, no ex-wife/alimony/child support baggage…..Just a great human being that loved to go out and enjoy life. Isn’t that what we are all looking for?

ODM: Are you still dating him?

Debra: No, it ended after about 8 months for reasons that I would rather not get into. We are still very good friends and I care a lot about him.

ODM: Are you single now?

Debra: Yes.

ODM: Where do you go to find younger men? How do you go about approaching them without it turning into a potentially awkward moment?

Debra: Well, truth be told….there have been no awkward moments when it comes to picking up younger guys. If I’m out at a trendy bar or even at the supermarket I can tell right off the bat that they are into me. If I can compare men to books for a minute…..the “older” men in their 40’s and 50’s are kind of like an advanced Trigonometry math book. Hard as hell to understand their motives/intentions and even harder to force myself to like. Younger men in their late teens/early 20’s are kind of like a Dr. Seuss book. Fun, entertaining and by just looking at the cover of the book, you already know what it’s about. Hop on Pop; Green Eggs and Ham, Thank you Ma’am.

When a 20 year old guy is staring at you from across the way, it is a pretty forgone conclusion that he wants to talk to you. Most guys that age are typically shy and as such I find myself being the one having to initiate conversation and breaking the ice. These same guys have told me that it was so easy to talk to me and that they felt very comfortable from the minute I walked over there and started to chit-chat. They also have told me that it is not the same way when it comes to talking to women their own age.

ODM: Let’s talk about the “S” word for a minute….

Debra: (nervous laugh)

ODM: “Sugar Mommy”. Do you find that most younger guys expect you to pay their way and shower them with gifts and whatnot?

Debra: Honestly? No. Most guys that age are poor, broke college students and are somewhat shy about going out because they feel that they have to pay because they are the guy. I make it a point to let them know from the start that I realize that they are just starting out in life and I have no problem footing the bill most (read: all) of the time. They seem to like it. My last boyfriend was a sophomore in college and was working as a waiter making minimum wage and tips. I think that amounted to a little under $250 a week in take-home. I took him out one weekend to South Coast Plaza (an affluent mall located in Orange County, Ca. – Karen) and bought him $2500.00 worth of new clothes. About half of that was spent on dress clothes. I would also give him $500 a week in cash to spend on food/etc. Life is tough when you are in your early 20’s, going to school and working a crap job. I had the means to support him and I also cared very deeply for him….so why not?

ODM: Where there ever any indications that he was just using you for sex and money?

Debra: Never did that thought occur to me. You can pretty much tell within the first few dates if it is going to turn into a real relationship or just some fling. I’m over the “flings” and am looking for a real relationship.

ODM: Have you ever tried an online dating service?

Debra: I am currently a member of 2 online dating services. There seems to be one in particular that for whatever reason attracts younger men looking to date older women. With online dating, it is very easy to weed out the good ones from the bad ones and at the end of the night I’m not stuck with a $150 bar tab and a hangover the next morning.

ODM: So where do you see yourself in 5-10 years from now?

Debra: In a loving, committed relationship with a man 15-20 years my junior. I realize that society in general is becoming more liberal and accepting than it was 20 years ago. Although, there are still people out there who frown upon my choice of lifestyle. I realize this and as such try to keep my dating preferences a secret as much as I can. At the end of the day and when it is all said and done, all that matters is that you are spending the night with the person that makes you happy the most.

ODM: Do you have any thoughts for young men/older women who are looking to try dating each other?

Debra: Sure.

Younger men: If it is just a sexual fantasy to “hook up” with an older woman, and you have no further intentions in life than that, please let them know from the beginning. Even though we are a bit “older”, we still have feelings. If you are looking for a relationship, be honest and treat us with respect. We have a lot to offer you (more than most women your age) and you will soon come to find out just how rewarding it is to be dating a woman that is older than you.

Cougars: This is it ladies. We have finally come to a point in life where we don’t need a man our age to take care of us financially. We are tired of the b.s. that is sometimes associated with dating men our own age. Be proud of the fact that you are a liberated, strong female and empower yourself in your daily life. When you are dating younger men, realize that even though they are younger, they are still men. There are good apples and there are bad apples. Keep your eyes open, and feet on the ground and when you do finally find that special guy you will find yourself experiencing a richness in life in ways you never thought imaginable.

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In the past few weeks I have gotten more than a few
emails requesting that I post the entire interview. The interview
is quite long and thorough, so I have broken it up into 2 parts.
The first part (the part below) is an introduction. You will get
to know the “cougar” and her background story. The second
part picks up where the first part left off.

(I am using false names for the various people mentioned in this
story to protect their identity.)

ODM: Hello Debra, thank you for taking the
time to sit down and chat with me.

Debra: Hello Karen.

ODM: So let’s get right into it. Why don’t you
start off by telling our readers a little bit about yourself?

Debra: Well, I am a 47 years old and have been
divorced now for a little over 8 years. I have 2 teenage daughters
(18 and 19) and live in what I would consider a middle class
neighborhood. I received my M.B.A. from a local University,
although I put my career on hold to raise my family. I now sell real
estate here in Southern California.

ODM: Would you consider yourself a “successful
female”?

Debra: Lol, yes I guess you can say so. It took a
lot of hard work to get to where I am at right now in life and my
ex-husband was of little to no help. Once the divorce was final,
I set out to reclaim the life I had envisioned I would have, prior
to getting married.

ODM: So tell me a bit more about your dating
experiences after your divorce.

Debra: Like most females who find themselves
thrust back into the dating scene after a long marriage, I had
somewhat of a hard time meeting what I would consider “the right guy”.
I did the bar scene, went out on a few atrocious blind dates set up by
well meaning friends and none of those really panned out.

It was funny…the same type of guys that I dated prior to getting
married were just not doing it for me anymore. I got tired of hearing
the same old stories from guys my age….they either talked nonstop
about their divorce or their kids. Older guys also seemed to be a bit
jaded on dating as well as their schedules were unnecessarily complicated
with child custody time issues, ex wives and long hours at the office.

ODM: So is this when you decided to start dating
younger men?

Debra: I never really saw it as a conscious choice to
start dating younger men. The majority of the guys I dated after my
divorce were in their mid-to-late 40’s. I even went out with a few 60
year olds. It seemed as if each and every one of these guys were stuck
in a time warp. They pretty much listened to the same type of music,
dressed the same way and lived the same boring lifestyle. They seemed
to go on and on about their ex’s and their divorce, or I would have to sit
through an hour long presentation about their illustrious careers and how
great they were.

I was on a mission to find myself, to regain my individuality. This was not
going to be accomplished by sitting home on a Saturday night or going out
on yet another boring dinner date only to be taken back to his place and
have to “wait a few” before the Viagra starts kicking in.

ODM: Did the physical characteristics of “older”
men in their 40’s turn you off?

Debra: Honestly? Yes. A big fat beer belly and hair
where there should not be any hair just wasn’t doing it for me. Not to
mention most men over 40 tend to let themselves go physically. They
don’t take the time to work out like younger men do. After the divorce,
I found myself needing more physical contact from a man than ever before.

ODM: Tell me about your first experience with
dating a younger man.

Debra: You are going to change my name on here?

ODM: I will change it prior to publishing this interview.

Debra: About 2 years ago my 18 year old daughter
was planning on going to a party with some of her college friends.
The parents of the person having the party were out of town.
This would be the first party that she attended (to my knowledge)
in college. If the kids nowadays are anything like how we were
back in the 70’s….I knew there would be alcohol and quite possibly
drugs at the party. I suggested that she have a small get-together
at our house instead. That way I could at least cut out the drugs
part of the equation. I knew that the teenagers would find a way
to get drunk so I made the decision to allow alcohol at the party,
provided that everyone who was drinking would spend the night.
I know I am going to get some flak for allowing this…but I would rather have
the kids drinking at my place and sleeping it off on my couch than getting
into a car and driving drunk. This way, I could also monitor alcohol
consumption of the teenagers.

The night went off considerably well, no major incidents. There were
about 15 college students in total that showed up. I spent a good
portion of the night playing hostess and even joined the kids at the
table for a game of poker. I don’t quite remember the rest of the
details, but there was this 18 year old named Brian (name changed – Karen)
who was the life of the party. He was being a bit flirtatious with all the
girls (including myself) and I think I might have reciprocated here and
there. As the night drew on, one thing led to another and we somehow
wound up…

I have split this interview into 2 posts. The entire interview
is well over 2500 words and as such is kind of hard to read in one
long post. Click below to continue to the third and final part of
Interview with a Cougar.

Interview with a Cougar, Part 3

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I recently interviewed a female that most guys in their
20’s refer to as a “Cougar”. In case you aren’t
familiar, a “Cougar” is a female that is in her 40’s and
generally looks very good for her age and typically dates
men in their 20’s.

During the interview, I tried to figure out why a female
in her 40’s would be attracted towards a younger man.
It seemed as if the topic of “sex” was a recurring theme.
Duh !!

Here are 5 reasons (according to a self-admitted Cougar)
as to why men in their 20’s should date a female in her 40’s:

1. 40-50 year old men just can’t f#@% us good enough

Face it. Most guys in their 40’s and 50’s just can’t lay pipe
like they used to. These things happen. Some guys try to
make up for it by popping a few Viagra pills….ok, you got
the car started….but how long can the little engine
that could, keep it up? As some guys get older, their
stamina gets weaker. Pretty soon…..what once used to be
the Mighty Casey Jones, barreling down the train tracks, 8 track
player blasting in the wind, is now nothing more than a miniature
train ride at a local country fair. Atchison, Topeka and the
Santa Fe, you are not.

2. That “one thing” that your 20 year old girlfriend does…

…is nothing compared to what 30 some-odd years of experience
in the bed can do for you. That “one thing” that your 20-something
girlfriend performs so well in bed is nothing more than a cheap card
trick to a 40 year old female. Child’s play….not even worthy of
being featured on “stupid human tricks” on David Letterman.

3. Sugar mommy, anyone?

Allow me to propose two scenarios:

1. It’s Friday night and your 20 year old girlfriend wants to be
taken out on a night out on the town. Dinner….dancing…drinks
maybe even a late night stop at a local bar and grill for a snack.
Guess who is going to foot the bill? You and your $12 an hour
college job.

2. It’s Friday night and the hot 40 year old woman that you have
been dating/talking to wants to go out. She picks you up in her
car, then proceeds to take you out for dinner and dancing and
whatever else. Guess who is going to foot the bill?
Guess who will also slip a $100 bill in your pocket so that you can
buy lunch/etc while you are attending college courses next week?

Women in their 20’s: Causing men to go flat ass broke for centuries.

I rest my financial case.

4. No Strings Attached !!

Generally speaking, a cougar isn’t going to be calling you
10 times a day….asking you “how your day is coming along”.
They aren’t going to send you text message after text message
bothering you on an almost hourly basis. 40 year old women
aren’t going to follow you out when you go drinking with your
buddies and they won’t get pissed if you are seen talking to
a random female at the bar.

All a 40 year old female asks is that you be at her house and
in her bed when you say you will be.

Is that too much to ask?

5. You’ll be the envy of your friends.

Most guys nowadays talk about wanting to hook up with
that hot “MILF”. In fact, if you really want to score some
points with your buddies, find another guy in your circle
of immediate friends who you don’t particularly care for.
Make sure his mom is single (I don’t condone cheating btw)
and hook up with her. Nothing says “Screw you, dude” better
than you and his Mom walking down to the kitchen together
at 7am while he is sitting at the breakfast table eating a box
of Captain Crunch. Talk about a “Kodak Moment”…..

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The reason I am posting this is because it is currently
Saturday night and (yet again) I am sitting home. Alone.
No date on the horizon. Hopefully, this little list of
quotes about being single will find some other soul out
there on the internet who is sitting home alone. Some
of these quotes are from famous people, others are just
quotes that were passed along to me. Still others I made
up as I went along. You’d be surprised what a few glasses
of wine does for inspiration…

So before you get any further depressed….just realize
that you aren’t alone. MILLIONS of singles are sitting
home alone tonight. Maybe even your future soulmate
or next boyfriend or girlfriend will be reading this list
at the same time you are….?

1. “I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” - Wendy Liebman

2. “Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.” - Sex in the City

3. “Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday
night.” - Woody Allen

4. “Being single isn’t bad. What is bad is giving up hope on finding
that someone special.” – Anonymous

5. “To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already
three parts dead.” – Bertrand Russell

6. “Don’t keep a man guessing too long – he’s sure to find the answer
somewhere else.” - Mae West

7. “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” - Billy Crystal

8. “I’m too shy to express my sexual needs except over the phone to people I don’t know.” - Garry Shandling

9. “Don’t cry for a man who’s left you, the next one may fall for your smile.”
- Mae West

10. “Live to love, not love to live.” - Anonymous

11. “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle

12. “Being single is not the end of the world. What is the end of the
world is when you stop trying to find your next boyfriend/girlfriend/soulmate.” - Anthony D.

13. “Watching your daughter being collected by her date feels like handing over a million dollar Stradivarius to a gorilla.” - Jim Bishop

14. “Save a boyfriend for a rainy day – and another, in case it doesn’t rain.” - Mae West

15. “It takes half the amount of time you dated someone to get over them.” - Sex and the City

16. “Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand.”
- Anonymous

17. “Love is two minds without a single thought.” - Phillip Barry

18. “I don’t like to be labeled as lonely just because I am alone.” - Delta Burke

19. “I think, therefore I’m single.” - Liz Winston

20. “A woman needs a man like a fish needs bicycle”
- Anonymous

21. “Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them.” - Sex in the City

22. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. You are the guy who’ll decide where to go.” – Dr. Seuss

23. “He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.” - Lao Tzu

24. “A man needs a woman….well, a man needs a woman.” - Anonymous

25. “As a body everyone is single, as a soul never.” – Hermann Hesse

26. “I’m happily single.” - Paula Abdul

27. “About age 30 most women think about having children, most men think about dating them.” - Judy Carter

28. “There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 500SL.” – Lynn Lavner

29. “Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake whole relationships.” - Sharon Stone

30. “Ah, yes, Divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.” - Robin Williams

31. “Instead of getting married again, I’m going to find a woman I don’t like and just give her a house.” - Rod Stewart

32. “Do you believe in computer dating?”
“Only if the computers really love each other.” - Groucho Marx

33. One good thing about Internet dating: you’re guaranteed to click with whomever you meet. - Anonymous

34. My mom always complains about my lack of a boyfriend. Well, next time she asks, I’m going to tell her I’m dating two different guys : Mr. Duracell and Mr. Energizer. - Michelle Landry

35. “A man on a date wonders if he’ll get lucky. The woman already knows.”
- Monica Piper

36. “You aren’t the only one sitting home alone on a Saturday night. Wonder if
your future boyfriend/girlfriend is doing the same thing you are…” - Me

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“Because I don’t know what to say to to women when I first
meet them”.

Over the course of my professional career, I have noticed this
“phenomena” in many males. They instantly freeze up around
a pretty girl they are attracted to, their minds go blank and they
can’t think of anything to say.

I want you to take a minute to stop and think back to the past 30
days of your life. How many times were you out in public, at work
or at a social function and saw a girl that you were attracted to?
Did you walk over there and try to strike up a conversation or did
you find yourself staring at the girl from afar multiple times….to the
point that she noticed the staring and when you both made eye
contact, she gave you a dirty look because she thought you were
creepy….and then most likely you took this personally as if there
was something wrong with you, only adding to your low self-confidence
and lack of self esteem.

This is the #1 reason as to why guys set themselves up for failure
and start on a downward spiral towards low self esteem when it
comes to talking to women.

There really isn’t a set formula for what to say to a girl you just met.
You have to understand that when you first approach a girl, she is
most likely going to be as uncomfortable as you are. She was not
expecting you to walk over and start picking her up. This is another
critical area where most guys fail…..they walk up to a girl with the
specific intention of picking her up. Even if they don’t ramble off
cheesy pickup lines, the girl can still sense that they are just out
to get a number. In some cases like a bar or a club, this might be
perfectly normal, but in normal everyday situations it needs to be
tackled from a different approach.

The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath, and relax
your mind. If you aren’t feeling comfortable with yourself then
it will show up on the outside. Then you need to realize that
your only intention is to get the girl to talk to you. That’s it.
Then approach her with a smile on your face (not a creepy smile)
and simply say “Hi”.

Here are 5 tips on how to talk to women for the first time:

1. Breaking the ice
My cousin from Australia was in town and we went over
to Starbucks for a coffee one night. The barista that was
working was this really cute (early 20’s) blonde girl that
always had this really bad look on her face….the kind of
look that would make most guys think twice about walking
up to her and striking up a conversation.

As we were waiting for her to make our drinks, my cousin
saw that she looked stressed/whatever and simply asked
her “How is your day going?”. That was all it took. The
nasty look on her face disappeared and was immediately
replaced with smile. They talked for about 15 minutes
(while I was waiting impatiently) and at the end he got
her number.

2. Keep the topic of conversation to “about her”
Most people love talking about themselves. If you are having
a hard time finding things to talk about to a girl, simply ask
her questions that pertain to herself. Most women will take
the ball and run with it. All you have to do is listen and
she will subconsciously give you even more topics to talk about.
Simple as that.

3. Be yourself
Unless you are an actor chances are that you aren’t good at
fooling other people into thinking you are anybody else other
than yourself. Same goes for women. Don’t try to come
off as a suave smooth talker. Don’t try to show off for her,
or pretend that you are someone you are not. Women
have this ability to pick up on the small things that just don’t
seem right to them…..including a guy pretending to be someone
he is not. The only person that you are fooling is yourself.

4. Stay relaxed
This is probably one of the hardest things for guys to do. Even
though it might now show up on the outside (physical) if you
don’t stay relaxed it will manifest itself in your tone of voice
or other subconscious instances. I tell people who have this
issue to try to take 5-10 minutes every night and meditate.
Close your eyes and just let yourself relax and breathe deep.
Over the course of a month you will begin to realize a much
more calmer demeanor. I am not a meditation expert, so
I advise people to start off by buying a book or two on the
subject. “Meditation for Dummies” (I have no idea if this
book actually exists) would be a great start.

5. Tone of voice and speech.
Even though some guys are shy by nature, some of them
are very good at covering it up…..except when it comes to
the tone of their voice. This is a dead giveaway to women
that you are nervous/bullshitting/don’t know what you are
talking about. Practice your speech by talking to random
people on a daily basis and when it comes time to talk to
a girl, focus on speaking slowly and clearly. Don’t worry,
you won’t come off as a “mentally slow” person.

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After a few days he told me that he should have seen the warning
signs as they were really evident. He was just so in love with her
that he refused to pay attention to what the rest of his friends
have been trying to tell him all along.

So this post is dedicated to my bro and the cheating ho that used
him for the past 9 months of his life. Hopefully this will help some
other guy out there see the writing on the wall before it is too late.

CAVEAT: This is just a general guide. There are so many variables
out there in life that you should NOT take this guide to heart. Just
because your girlfriend gets a phone call from a strange guy you don’t
know does not necessarily mean she is setting up a booty call for later
that night. What if that phone call was her boss from work asking her
to email him the TPS reports she didn’t finish the day before?

1. Things just don’t add up.
When you are in love with someone, or at the very least infatuated,
you tend to overlook logic because you are swept up in emotion.
I read somewhere that scientists have likened the human mental
emotion of “love” to that of being drunk. If you have ever been in
love you know how powerful of a feeling it is. With that being said,
you need to keep one foot on the ground and eyes and ears open
at all times, even if you trust her implicitly. This is just good common
sense.

Let me put it another way:

If I walked up to your girlfriend right this minute and told her that if she
would dump you and never speak to you again, I would give her 1 million
dollars in small, unmarked bills. Honestly. Do you really and truly think
she would stay with you?

What if Brad Pitt (or whoever the latest Hollywood Heartthrob is nowadays)
met your chick in a bar and started hitting on her…..and asked her back to
your place? Guess who’s getting laid that night.

These are some very extreme examples, but it just goes to show that you cannot
implicitly and blindly trust someone to the point where you have your head up
your ass all of the time.

2. Checking out other guys in public
Ok, #1 pretty much summed it all up. You need to keep your eyes open
at all times. The remainder of these “signs” are a few traits that my buddy
noticed in his ex girlfriend. On more than one occasion when they were
both out in public, he noticed her checking out other guys…..not a sly
“checkout” like most women are able to do (and get away with) but rather
she was catching the eyes of the guy she was looking at and holding the
gaze.

3. Mysterious cell phone calls
I’m probably going to get in a boatload of trouble for saying this….but
do you know every single guy/phone number that is on your girlfriend’s
cell phone? Yes, you should respect the privacy of the one you are
with ….blah blah blah……morals…..blah blah blah…..trust. Ok, are
we off our moral soapbox now? If you start to suspect anything, her
cell phone is one of the first places you can look. I would not advise
going this route unless you have mounting evidence that she is cheating
on you. This is the best way to confirm that suspicion. Check with
an attorney before you do it though…

4. Emails/Twitter/instant messenger/text messages
In this day and age there are so many ways to stay in contact with someone.
She could have joined an adult online dating service looking for love or she
actually could be a member of an online dating service. Without going on her
computer and going into her account, there really is no way of finding out.
What you can do, is take the first part of her email address and pop it into
Google and see what comes up.

eg: If her email address is “PinkFuzzyBunny82828@gmail.com” then take the
“PinkFuzzyBunny82828″ part and run a Google search. Believe it or not, most
people re-use the same email address/screen name over and over again when
signing up for new online services. Think about how many online accounts she
must have…..Her Myspace account, her Facebook account, her twitter account.
And so on and so forth. Google is your friend. Learn how to use the various
operators when performing a Google search. It is a VERY powerful tool if used
correctly.

5. Her friends
Women cannot keep a secret if they were rubbed down with super secret musk,
put in the middle of a field with a bunch of other horny no-secret tellers in the
middle of no-secret-telling mating season. I’m not trying to come off as sexist here,
but every single girl I have ever know could not keep from telling her girlfriends
whatever I told her. So use this to your advantage. If your girl is cheating on
you, one of the first people to know are usually her friends (or her sister). Learn
how to use social engineering to your advantage. Run a Google
search to find out just how to do it. The next time you are out with her friends,
chose your words carefully and you might get one of them to slip up.

If you aren’t currently on medication for a mental disorder and you still
got a funny feeling that “something just ‘aint right” with your girlfriend,
chances are you are right. Do what you need to do in order to confirm/deny
your suspicions so you can make a rational, intelligent decision as to
what to do next (DUMP HER). However, just because you think your
girl is screwing around on you does NOT give you the right to violate
her privacy and do illegal stuff. Be smart about how you go about
finding out the information that you are seeking.

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