Online Dating Matches

Online Dating for Middle School Students?

Karen — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:34:50 +0000

A school in Elwood, Indiana started an underage matchmaking service for their 11 year old students. It purports to be a fund raiser for their drama club. Children pay a dollar and they are “matched” with another student.

Call me old fashioned…..but whatever happened to school dances and such?

I consider myself to be pretty well adjusted and extremely open minded. I have seen some pretty crazy stuff on the internets going back to the mid 1990’s, but for some reason, the fact that a middle school is matching 11 year old kids up is a bit disturbing to me.

Shouldn’t children that age be focusing on playing video games and riding their bicycles? Just the other day I was in Target and in line waiting to checkout. I was behind a mother and what appeared to be her 10? year old daughter. The little girl was holding a cell phone, texting someone. When I was 10 years old and I needed to get in contact with someone and I was out in public, I would pop a quarter out of my pocket and try and find the nearest payphone.

Yes, I do realize that children do need cell phones as an extra safety buffer and it’s really convenient for Moms in this day and age. But to me, it seems like the children of late are getting more and more adult privileges and isn’t that in some way ruining their childhood?

I really have nothing more to say on this. I’m having a very rare moment where I’m just speechless.

Go ahead and flame me if you want, but I strongly feel that children should be treated as children. Spare the rod, spoil the child type of stuff. My personal observations are that parents in this day and age are too damn lenient on their children.

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Racial Bias in Online Dating Sites

Karen — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:36:44 +0000

Are you a close-minded bigot?

Most people in life would answer that question with an emphatic NO. But when it comes to online dating and selecting the criteria for your potential dates, do you exclude people outside of your race? If so, why? Some people might say that they aren’t comfortable dating someone outside of their race due to cultural differences, while others would say that they just aren’t physically attracted to people of another race. Still others would give no reason at all.

According to a recent study by UCI (Universiity of Irvine, California) race played a huge factor (for white people) when it came to selecting a potential mate in an online dating site. The study was performed on the Yahoo! Personals online dating website and found the following conclusions:

- White men were more likely to exclude Black women as potential dates, and include women of Hispanic and Asian descent.
- White women were more likely to exclude Asian men as potential dates.
- White men were most often preferred by women of another race.
- White women were less likely to respond to advances from an Asian man, than they would a man of Black or Hispanic ethnicity.
- White men were the overall preference for women of all races.
- Almost 1 out of 2 White women only wanted to date a White man.
- 3 out of 5 White men selected a racial preference and half of those selected an Asian women and only 7% selected a Black woman.

Some of the biases that were found in the study included:

- Asian men are asexual and not masculine enough.
- Black women are bossy
- White women are status-oriented (and “stuck up bitches”)
- Asian women are hyper feminine and sex maniacs in the bedroom

These findings were based upon a survey of 6000 White men and women (ages 18-50) throughout major cities in the United States.

I have been involved with the online dating sites for well over 10 years and have two more (non-scientific) observations that I have seen pop up more than a few times:

- When it comes to selecting a date of the same race, some White people will look to see their potential dates racial preferences. If a White woman lists that she is open to dating a Black man, some White men will look at this as a “deal breaker”.

- If a White male lists his dating preferences as “Whites only” some White women will see them as being close-minded and refuse to communicate with them.

What are your guys experiences like? Are White people being racist or bigoted by selecting to date members of their own race only? What steps could people take to overcome their pre-conceived notions about race and dating? Or despite the fact that we are living in the year 2010, will these dating preferences continue for thousands of years to come? (I’m not just talking about White people with regards to that last question. I’m talking about all people of all races).

Here, I will start: I have a white friend. He is 34 years old. He primarily likes to date blond (White) females. He would rather not date a Black nor Hispanic female, but he finds Indian (from the country India) women to be “extremely sexy” and has dated a few in years prior. Are his views bigoted because he generally only dates White women and would rather not date a Black/Hispanic female but would date a girl from Indian heritage?

About 5 years ago at my last job, I worked with a tall, skinny, fairly attractive Hispanic girl who was born in the US. She told me that she was primarily attracted to White men and was frustrated because whenever she went out to the bars in Hermosa Beach and tried to approach a White guy, she would be shot down almost immediately.

/Discuss

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Why Men Shouldn’t Write Advice Columns

Karen — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:54:35 +0000

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Online Dating Promotional Code

Karen — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:23:15 +0000

If you are looking for eharmony coupons and haven’t found what you are looking for, then try to use an eharmony promotional code instead. Here are the two latest AUTHORIZED eHarmony promotional code for March 2010:

Save sixty percent on a six month subscription:
Enter Code: CJPROMOAAA
Expires 3/31/10

Save seventeen percent on a twelve month subscription:
Enter Code: CJPROMOBBB
Expires 3/31/10

In order to use one of these codes simply copy down the code and enter it into the box when you are paying for your membership. You will have instantly saved the applicable amounts listed above. I have seen a few scammers out there listing “unauthorized” eHarmony codes and I would strongly advise you to not use them for two reasons. The first reason is that eHarmony only authorizes these codes for a specific promotion and are not authorized for use by the general public. I have spoken with eHarmony regarding these codes and they told me that they strongly disapprove of these scammer sites that list them. I read on another site about one girl who claimed she got charged the full amount on her credit card when she attempted to use an unauthorized eharmony code. All of these codes are the same and will give the same exact discount. OnlineDatingMatches has contacted eharmony and they have given us explicit permission to list these authorized codes on our website. You have nothing to fear (read: your credit card getting overcharged) by using one of our authorized codes. We stay on top of the various eHarmony codes because we know how tough it can be in this economy to have to pay extra for something that is not in your monthly budget.

Whenever people tell me that eharmony costs too much, I simply tell them to do two things. First off, GET A PROMO CODE AND USE IT !!! Second, (and this is a head-smacker) think about how many times you go out on dates or out on the weekends every month. On average you can spend up to $100 per outing. Instead of going out on another date with someone you met at a bar, or instead of going out to the bar (and waking up the next day hungover), stay in for the night and spend some time on eHarmony communicating with your matches. Blammo, you just instantly saved enough money to pay for your eHarmony membership.

If you are considering signing up for eHarmony, then you are probably tired of dating the same old losers and are looking for a relationship of quality and substance. This is what separates eharmony from the other online dating sites. Quality. People who are willing to pay a bit more for their subscription to an online dating site are probably a bit more serious about finding a long term lasting relationship that people who sign up for one of the “el cheapo” dating sites (like Plenty of Fish). Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with Plenty of Fish as I have personally used that site in the past, but the site is not set up for people who are looking for long term relationships. Plenty of Fish is kinda like the shotgun effect whereas eharmony targets quality singles looking for love/relationship/soul mates. The other reason eharmony costs a bit more than the other sites is that they spend a lot of money on academic research into human compatibility. They then take the scientific findings and incorporate them into their matcmaking system.

Either way, I wish you luck and hopefully you will find the love of your life (or someone that will quickly turn into that) !

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Pro Tip: Create a Facebook or Linkedin or Myspace Page to Increase Your Chances of Success in an Online Dating Site

Karen — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:22:39 +0000

Here’s a Pro Tip for all you online daters out there: In addition to having multiple, clear pictures of yourself on your online dating profile, consider setting up a Linkedin/Facebook page as well.

I am probably the only person on the face of the planet who does not have a Facebook account. Frankly, I find it to be a complete waste of time. About 6 years ago, I had a Myspace page and found myself logging onto it more than I should at work. I spent on average 1 hour a day messing around with Myspace. Be that as it may, there are millions of other people who don’t share my viewpoints on these social sites and utilize these sites on a daily basis. I read a study that showed that the internet search traffic was being dominated by such sites as Twitter, Facebook (and to some lesser degree, Myspace).

So what does having a Facebook/Linkedin page have to do with increasing your chances of success in your online dating endeavors?

It gives the other person whom you are talking to a chance to get to know you a little better. With privacy as it is in this day and age, anyone can create an online dating profile. While maybe only 1 or 2 people out of 1000 would lie on their profile, people (especially women) are a bit wary of furthering communication with someone who has a limited profile to look at. With a Facebook/Linkedin/etc page up, your potential date might be more apt to agree to meet you in real life (after they can get a brief glimpse into your lifestyle by checking your pages out).

If you are considering going out on a date with someone you met in an online dating site, you probably already know to Google their email address, screen name and any other tidbits of information you can get out of them. Most of the time it will produce nothing more than their eBay feedback or perhaps their likes and dislikes with regards to music and movies. Other times it can produce information that might raise a red flag. A friend of mine met a guy in an online dating site. They chatted via email for about a week then made plans to meet up. Prior to going out on the date with the guy, she plugged his email address into Google: guysemailaddress@gmail.com. Nothing of much interest was found. Then she just took the part of his email address (before the “@gmail.com, which in this example is “guysemailaddress”) and popped it into Google. Apparently this guy was a member of a sex forum and he had made more than a few posts explaining his particular fetishes in life. That was all she needed to cancel the date with the guy and never talk to him again.

It’s a pretty safe bet that your potential date will Google any information they have on you prior to going out on a date. It’s not that they are nosey, but rather you are a stranger and they are only trying to protect themselves (and rightfully so). So give them something to Google about. Create a Facebook page. There are a good percentage of people out there who have a Facebook page and are over the age of 30. Facebook just isn’t for the teeny boppers anymore. If you still find the whole Facebook thing to be a bit much, then create a Linkedin profile. Linkedin is a business networking site, kind of like Facebook, but without all the advertisements/sensationalistic content. Even if your potential date doesn’t know how to Google your personal information (or is a bit new to online dating), you can always send them your Facebook/Linkedin address so they can get to know you a little better. Just be sure that you don’t post any risque pictures or make any questionable comments/posts as that will be visible as well.

There is a growing movement amongst females over the age of 30 who are particularly concerned about online dating safety. If you have nothing to hide, then why not show a little bit more about yourself online? You don’t have to include your life story, but put up a few pictures of your last vacation, add some of your friends on Facebook or make a list of your favorite movies. Anything to show that you are a live human being of interest, and not some scammer/weirdo/pervert who is just out for a one night stand.

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Online Dating Liars: Why they do what they do

Karen — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 00:05:42 +0000

A recent study came out from the University of Kansas that suggested that men who are more apt to tell the truth (25 year old guy making 90k a year?) come from the online dating sites that are geared more towards relationships like eharmony.com and Chemistry.com.

Professor Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas found that out of the 5000 users of an undisclosed online dating site, most responded that they tell the truth in their profiles. The ones who reported that they lied are generally the “people pleaser” types. These types of people can quickly figure out what other people like and use that to their advantage to gain social acceptance and in more extreme cases, manipulate others.

According to the study, men indicated that they were more willing to lie than women were in cases of finance, education and looks. The women who reported that they would be willing to lie, almost always did so about their weight. The same types of people that lied online were also the types that would do it face to face. Professor Hall indicated that for the “high end” online dating sites, people generally tended to lie less because they were anticipating an in person meeting and knew that the lie(s) would come out almost immediately.

Going off of personal experience, I find that people who only have 1 picture of themselves up on their online dating profile (usually taken at a weird or extreme angle) are more apt to be lying about something, or not disclosing the entire truth. Whenever I meet someone new in an online dating site (outside of eHarmony and/or Chemistry.com) I do a 3 step process prior to even considering meeting them for a date in real life:

1. Lengthy email exchange.

In this day and age, we tend to keep our communications short and sweet. With online dating, you have to realize you are getting to know a random stranger. True they may be one a total hottie, but you need to investigate further. I keep my email exchanges to about 4-5 times back and forth.

2. Instant message communication.

If no red flags pop up on the email exchange, I suggest we then take it to Yahoo Instant Messenger or AOL chat. Both chat messengers offer free downloads of their chat services and it costs nothing to use them. Since I work long hours, I usually pick 9pm on a Saturday night to meet up for a chat.

3. Phone call.

Not everyone likes to chit chat over the phone, but a phone call is a MUST prior to meeting someone in real life. If they fooled you via their personality profile, and they fooled you via the email and they fooled you via the instant message…..unless they are a sociopathic crazy, the “phone” will reveal a good deal about what their intentions are. You can tell a lot about a person from the way they talk, and the subtle inflictions in the tone of their voices.

Even after all of the above has been accomplished, and I’m somewhat satisfied I’m not going to be meeting Charles Manson at the local coffee shop for a date….I still keep my guard up for the first few dates.

What about you guys? Have any one of you ever been lied to, or caught one of your potential dates in a lie?

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Medifast Diet Program Information

Karen — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 05:23:35 +0000

I have compiled an FAQ on the Medifast Diet Program.

“Why is an online dating site giving out information about dieting?”

Dieting and dating and looking your best go hand in hand. You have to put your best foot forward when entering into the dating market. Medifast is a doctor approved diet program and does not consist of any of the fads or trick diets out there. It is simply eating the right kinds of food in the right portions. To my knowledge, Medifast is the only diet program out there that allows for the usage of coupon codes and you can find those medifast codes here.

What is the Medifast Diet?

Medifast is a portion-controlled, nutritionally balanced, low-fat, and clinically proven program where you lose faster and more effectively than other diet plans. You eat every 2-3 hours and pick from a variety of meals. The meals come in individual packets that you mix with water and microwave or refrigerate. The meals are quick and easy to make for the person with a busy lifestyle.
What makes the Medifast weight-loss program special?

Medifast is an effective and healthy weight-loss program, especially when you compare it to other diet plans that are out there. You need to think of Medifast as a lifestyle change, not just a way to get the weight off. It’s a portion controlled, low-calorie program that leads to faster weight loss than most other diets. Medifast is special because you can get the quick weight loss that you want in a short amount of time and it’s nutritionally balanced. Medifast has different programs to meet the needs of nursing moms, seniors, teens, and people with diabetes or gout.

What is the Medifast 5 & 1 Plan?

The Medifast 5 & 1 Plan includes 5 nutritionally balanced, portion-controlled Medifast Meals plus one Lean & Green Meal each day. You can always contact a Medifast coach for more information.

What is a Medifast Meal?

A Medifast meal contains protein, vitamins, minerals, fiber, and other nutrients. The Medifast meals that are offered are shakes, soups, stew, chili, oatmeal, scrambled eggs, fruit drinks, iced teas, hot drinks, bars, puddings, brownies, pretzel sticks, and cheese puffs. There are a few Medifast snacks that you are allowed to have once a day if needed that includes soy crisps and crackers.
What is a Lean & Green Meal?

The LEAN portion of the Lean & Green Meal includes 5, 6 or 7 ounce portion of cooked lean protein or meatless protein. The GREEN portion of the Lean & Green Meal includes 3 servings of low- carbohydrates/non-starchy vegetables. Each serving of vegetables will be either 1/2 cup or 1 cup depending on the vegetable(s) you choose; choose any 3 vegetable servings to make up the full Green portion of your Lean & Green Meal.

How much water do I need to drink a day?

You need to drink at least 64 ounces of water a day.

How much does Medifast cost?

Medifast costs about $11/day or you can take advantage of the Variety Packages which will be a little less expensive. Most people find that the price for Medifast is comparable to what they are already spending on food between the grocery store and going out to eat.

What is the average weight loss amount per week?

Most people lose an average weight of up to 2-5 lbs per week with Medifast. Make sure you take measurements and take notice to how your clothes are feeling because the scale is not the only way to check your weight loss. Everyone one is different so individual results may vary. There are many factors that contribute to how much weight you are losing a week that include your starting weight, targeted weight-loss goal, level of exercise, presence of medical conditions, use of medications, accuracy with diet compliance, etc. As with most diets, it is very important that you consult with your physician before starting the program.

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How to Avoid Attracting Men Who Only Want Sex (and Not a Relationship)

Karen — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:05:23 +0000

I just wanted to give a small tip to the women out there who find themselves attracting men who only want sex and not a relationship:

If you are looking for a quality relationship, you have to lower your standards and stop being so shallow.

Now I realize that not all women are like this. There are however a good portion of women out there (online dating sites, anyone?) who would rather date a mindless hunk, than a guy that has a lot of things in common with her and has act together in life. Women like this then wind up complaining to their girlfriends how a good man is hard to find.

The problem here (from a guy’s perspective) is very simple:

You have a “cute” (but not “hot”) looking girl who is trying to date out of her league. Most “hot” guys out there can pretty much get any girl they want….so what makes you think you are so special? Shallowness is a two way street, and once the hunk gets tired of you or a prettier and much skinnier girl comes along…..he’s out the front door in a heartbeat. These types of guys are only after one thing. You might be lucky enough to shackle them down for a few months (even luckier if you make a year) but when he walks out on you for no reason at all, you have just been burned by the game you have been playing.

If a girl is so shallow that she bases her dating choices solely upon looks….then chances are a dead skunk in the middle of the road has a better personality than she does.

So to all the “cute” (but not “Perfect 10″) women out there who are tired of meeting guys who only want sex, LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. This doesn’t mean walk down to your local homeless shelter and start dating. Does the guy HAVE to have a 6 pack? Does he HAVE to have huge muscles? Does your ideal man HAVE to have the perfect body? Chances are an emphatic “no”. Now for women who are in their early 20’s, this may not hold as much weight as it does for women who are in the late 20’s to mid 30’s. If you haven’t noticed lately, by the time you hit 30, your looks aren’t getting any hotter. The older you get, the less successful you will be at playing the “I’m waiting for my Brad Pitt hunk to carry me off on his white horse” game. Chances are that once you hit 35, you will be scrambling to find anything out there that is willing to even look at you.

If you simply cannot get past the way a guy looks, try dating men who are on the same “level” of attractiveness that you are. Then out of those guys, pick the one whom you have the most in common with.

Otherwise, enjoy being a life-time member of the online dating services.

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How to Save Your Relationship if You Have Gained Weight

Karen — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 01:39:40 +0000

I have been dumped. I am not proud of that fact and quite honestly, it makes me very sad. But now in retrospect, I should have seen it coming. In the last four months, I have gained weight. I have put on about 20 lbs. I was very unhappy at work and I ate to soothe my pain. It didn’t work. The heavier I got, the more I ate. I also started checking out of my relationship. Figuring that my boyfriend of five years would always be with me no matter what, I retreated into myself and did not let him in.

I stopped wanting to go out because my clothes did not fit me. I stopped wanting to have sex because I was embarrassed about how I looked with my clothes off. I stopped being happy with myself and with him. I thought everything would get better in time but it did not. I see now that I did all of the wrong things. I am not saying that my boyfriend was right to break up with me but I can objectively look back and take responsibility for my part in letting our relationship crumble.

Obviously, just because you gain weight, your man should not leave. Agreed. One hundred percent, I concur. But, and this is a big one, it is all of the other junk that goes along with the gaining weight, that will take a toll on your relationship that you need to take responsibility for and you need to change or else your guy will be looking elsewhere.

I was at dinner the other night with my girlfriends. We were talking about what women can do if they have gained weight to make sure they keep their man. It is unhealthy to crash diet and expect to lose 20 lbs in a week. So if you have gained weight and you want to stay in your relationship, here are some realistic things that we have come up with that will keep your other half by your side through thick and thin.

-Exercise. Start by exercising. Walk, run, bike, whatever. Just make sure you break a sweat everyday. In fact, invite your sweetie along. Go play basketball with your man. Do a workout video together. Go for a walk in a park and hold his hand. This is a great way to bond and spend quality time together. Not only will this help you to lose weight but it will make you feel better because your body releases endorphins when you are burning calories. So exercise makes you look great and feel great. This is a no brainer.

-Diet. Watch what you eat. Yeah, yeah. I know. No one likes to hear this but you can do it. I’m not talking a drastic crash diet. All you have to do is start eating less and eating healthier. Pick up a loaf of whole grain bread versus white. Make a healthy pizza at home instead of picking up a greasy one from some chain restaurant. Baby steps. It will go along way.

While the whole “diet and exercising” thing is going on….that’s going to take a few weeks, maybe a few months. If you think your relationship is in serious trouble, here are a few ways to keep your boyfriend occupied mentally while you are busy getting your behind in shape (to take his mind off your weight and onto other things):

-Show Appreciation. Make your man feel like the only guy around. Compliment him. Touch him. Tell him how much you appreciate him. It has been proven that a guy does not cheat on someone because he finds a hotter girl. He cheats because he doesn’t feel appreciated. So girls, nip this in the bud right away. Let your man know he is hot, sexy and you are so very lucky to have him.

-Do “the thing”. Every girl out there knows that there is something that your man really wants you to do. Most of the time this involves something in the bedroom. Use your imagination. Think about something he is always begging you for and as Nike says, “Just do it”. It will make his day. Hell, it will probably make his month. Show him that you are the girl that he should stay with because you can give him what he wants. You’ll be irreplaceable.

-Be Happy. No one is happy all of the time but you can be happy 95% of the time. How do you do this? Look on the bright side. Find things that make you happy. People love to be around positive people. Think about when you were first dating. Were you a Negative Nelly? I bet you weren’t. That is the girl that he feel in love with so be that girl again. Show him that you are a happy, fun person that he would be a fool to give up.

-Dress Sexy. I know that sweatpants are comfy. And, you personally, may like granny undies. But I assure you that your man does not. Dress to impress. Dress sexy. The sexier you dress the sexier you will feel. Greet him at the door with thigh highs, heels and nothing else. You will blow his mind. Go out to dinner with him and dress up so that he is proud to show you off. Highlight your assets. Even if you don’t feel sexy, dress like you do. Once you see his eyes bulging out of his head, you will feel your sexy vixen start to come out.

-Don’t Criticize. This one is just common sense. If you have put on some pounds and he is letting it slide, then please do the same to him. Do not give him grief about the dishes he leaves in the sink. Look the other way when he leaves his clothes on the floor. I’m not saying that you have to do this forever but right now is not the time to make him feel bad or give him any reason to want to run away from you. Plus, when you start making him happy, he is going to want to make you happy, too.

-Talk Dirty. A little dirty talking goes a long way. This is really exciting for guys. They feel like they have died and gone to their own heaven. You will instantly be 100 times more attractive to them because you are their fantasy come to life (that they don’t have to pay for). Send dirty texts, leave naughty messages, and trust me, you will be the girl of their dreams.

Some of these tips are just temporary fixes. Kinda like if you break a nail before a date and you run to get the superglue so it will stay on for the night. It is not permanent, but it will do in a pinch. So before you can lose the weight you want to, follow the above tricks.

I hope this advice will help you to stay happy in your relationships and hold onto your man. He will love you, if you love yourself. Make him feel like he is king of your world and he will want to stay put. You have more power than you know. You are beautiful and deserve to be loved. Give and you shall receive. Now go find your man, do “the thing” right now and you can thank me for it afterwards.

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How to Avoid Attracting Men Who Only Want Sex (and Not a Relationship)

eHarmony Free Communication Weekend – Valentines day 2010

Karen — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 06:10:13 +0000

It’s back !!

eHarmony.com – Try for Free Feb.11 – Feb.15

eHarmony is having their free communication weekend from Thursday, February 11 through Monday February, 15th 2010!

No credit card is required to participate in the eHarmony free comm. weekend.

If you have never used eHarmony before, it is very easy to get started. Simply click on the link above and fill out a free $40 value personality profile. You will be asked a series of easy questions about yourself and have to choose 1 of 5 options based on how strongly or not strongly you feel about the question. Take your time as eHarmony will then use this information to match you with other eHarmony members whom you are MOST compatible with. After you are finished eHarmony will then present to you a very detailed analysis of your personality. Other members will not be able to view your personality profile results unless you specifically state that they can. Then eHarmony will show you members whom you are most compatible with and you can freely communicate with them !

After the eHarmony free communication weekend be sure to come back for an eharmony promotional code which can be found here. I would advise you to choose a 6 or 12 month subscription (there are discounted codes listed for 6 and 12 month subs) because it greatly increases your chances at finding the love of your life, or perhaps even your soulmate. The reason being is that trying to find your soulmate in only 3 months is kind of like trying to become a black belt in Karate in the same amount of time. Chances are, it’s not going to happen. Take your time, get to know yourself and exactly what you are looking for in a partner and before you know it you could be in the best relationship of your life !

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Chemistry.com Free Communication Weekend – February 5th-7th 2010

Karen — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 21:52:20 +0000

Free Communication Weekend @ Chemistry.com this weekend!

Chemistry.com is having a free communication weekend starting today (Friday the 5th) through Sunday the 7th.

Never heard of Chemistry.com? They are one of 3 “high end” online dating sites (eharmony.com and Perfectmatch.com being the other two). Chemistry.com is owned and operated by Match.com. Chemistry uses a patented personality profile to match quality singles with other quality singles. Chemistry allows not only for straight people to use their services, but gays and lesbians as well. You can also freely browse the personality profiles and are not limited to talking to the singles that Chemistry matches you up with.

Here’s a hot tip: Prior to this weekend, I spoke with the folks at Chemistry.com and they were generous enough to give my readers (yes you, the person reading this post) a 14 day free trial. After this free communication weekend is over, simply come back here and click the below link for the 14 day free trial. You might need to create a new account (I think you have to register for free with the link below) in order to take advantage of the 14 day free trial. Yes, it’s a little more work, but hell…..it’s a 2 week free subscription !

14 Days Free at Chemistry.com!

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Online Dating Sites Comparison – Which One Is Right For Me?

Karen — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 05:09:23 +0000

Over the past 4 years I have been running OnlineDatingMatches.com I have been asked the following question by many people:

“Which online dating site should I join?”

To which I simply replied: “What are you looking for?”

Each of the major online dating sites out there caters to a specific group of people, generally speaking. Each of the sites also has its pros and cons. Prior to writing this post, I did a little research online. I tried to find a website that basically explained what each online dating site was about, and what kinds of people joined. I found plenty of reviews of the online dating sites, but nobody really said which site is for who. I then asked a few of my readers to share their experiences (both good and bad) and surprisingly enough they were similar to my personal experiences.

Below you will find a general (can’t stress that enough) guideline as to what online dating site you should join, based upon what/whom you are looking for:

eHarmony.com

eHarmony is widely considered a “high end” online dating site. You aren’t going to find many people on eHarmony who are looking for 1 night stands. We have all seen the eHarmony commercials run 24/7, adnauseum. eHarmony is pretty much like what their commercials look like. People coming together, looking for the love of their life or something close. In comparison to the other online dating sites, eHarmony does cost a little bit more money. The way I (and a few other people who have had success on eHarmony) see it, it weeds out those who aren’t seriously looking for love. On the other hand, what if you are looking for love, but just can’t afford it due to the economy/etc. eHarmony offers promotional code which will allow you to save money on your monthly membership.

Chemistry.com:

The “eHarmony alternative”. Chemistry.com is run by Match.com and is another high end online dating site. The basic premise is similar to eHarmony: prior to joining you will need to complete an in-depth questionnaire which will then be used by Chemistry to match you with the person whom you are most compatible with. The main difference between the two is that Chemistry also allows for gays and lesbians to use their service as well. You can also browse profiles, wherein eHarmony you cannot. Is Chemistry.com better than eHarmony or vice versa? I have heard good things and bad things from people who have joined both sites. It’s kinda like comparing a Mercedes Benz to a BMW. The only thing they really have in common is that they cater to people who are looking for the best. Chemistry.com has a 7 day free trial offer for those who are on the fence.

Match.com:

If I could take the wildest party bar in Los Angeles and somehow turn it into a website, I would have created Match.com. Ok, so not everyone on Match.com is a party animal, but that’s the feeling that I get. Match.com is more “light and breezy” than eHarmony and Chemistry. Sure, there are people on Match who are looking to find Mr. or Mrs. Right….just as there are people on Match who are looking for Mr. or Mrs. “Right Now”. I have also noticed that the more skin you show on Match, the more responses you will get. Simply put, Match.com is the quintessential online dating site. It has been around forever and a day (and many people have gotten married who met on Match) and will continue to do so for many years to come. If you aren’t looking for your soulmate and are just looking to date to “see what might happen”, then I would advise you to join Match.com.

Yahoo Personals:

Same as Match.com. With one big caveat: I have met my last 3 girlfriends off of Yahoo Personals. To me (a single 30 year old guy) it seems that the women that I find on Yahoo are a lot less “flakey” than on other sites. The only negative about Yahoo Personals is that they need a new site interface update. The site looks like it hasn’t been updated in a while. But why mess with perfection? Yahoo Personals offers a 7 day free trial to their services, of which is more than enough to browse the profiles and see if something/someone catches your eye.

Plenty of Fish/Singlesnet.com:

The free online dating sites. A step up from picking up chicks on Myspace, a step down from an actual paying online dating site. There really isn’t much I can say about these free online dating sites, other than “you get what you pay for”.

Online Dating Sites Comparison – Which One Is Right For Me? is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Online Dating Discounts February 2010

Karen — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:07:46 +0000

February is well under way….do you have a date for Valentines Day? If not, give one of the online dating sites a shot !

Here are 2 eharmony promotional code that will allow you to save a few dollars on your monthly membership:

Save 60% on a 6 month sub:
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Save 17% on a 12 month sub:
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Don’t forget to check out our dedicated page on eHarmony promotions.

Chemistry.com is having a free communication weekend from Friday February 5th – Sunday February 10th. You will be able to communicate with other Chemistry.com members. Chemistry.com is an alternative to eHarmony. They are considered a “high end” online dating site, wherein the members are serious about finding other quality members. You will need to take a (free) personality quiz (simple “yes/no” answers) so that Chemistry can analyze your personality and match you with members (based on their patented matchmaking system) whom you are compatible with.

If you are big on freebies, then check out the Yahoo! Personals 7 Day FREE Trial offer. Yahoo Personals is not as “serious” as eHarmony or Chemistry.com. Think of Yahoo Personals as more of a “light and breezy” type of place to meet singles. You can freely browse the profiles and choose whom you wish to communicate with.

Online Dating Discounts February 2010 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Medifast Coupons February 2010

Karen — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:14:23 +0000

Be sure to check out our dedicated Medifast coupons page for more Medifast discounts

Here are 2 new Medifast coupons for February 2010:

$50 off $275 order
Click link below and enter code: Feb28G
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$25 off $150 order
Click link below and enter code: Feb28G25
Medifast Official Site

Medifast Coupons February 2010 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Online Dating Profile Pictures – A Case Study

Karen — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:32:13 +0000

The folks over at OKCupid recently came out with a study about profile pictures on online dating sites. They cataloged over 7000 pictures and analyzed them on 3 different subjects: Facial attitude, context of picture and how much skin (was showing). Sure enough some interesting revelations came about. I wanted to share with you guys some highlights of their study and expand upon a few of them.

Facial expression(s): The most obvious (and not so surprising) revelation was that people who smiled in their pictures were more successful in getting responses to their online dating emails than people who didn’t smile. This goes for guys especially. When women see a guy’s picture for the first time on an online dating site, it can be hard at times to really tell what that person looks like. Women tend to want to see if they can pick out the guys personality from the pictures he has of himself. If the photos you have of yourself online look like they were painted by a painter in the Renaissance period (think back to your art school class in college. Remember how paintings of the 1500’s showed people that looked like they were in the last stage of rigor mortis?) then you really are doing yourself a disservice. You want to give yourself every single advantage possible, and chances are if the girl has to choose between you (and your Lurch from the Adams Family pose) and another guy who has a bright cheerful smile on his face….guess who is going to get the email response?

Context of picture: Generally speaking, you want to have at least 5-6 photos of yourself that are clear and easy to view. The study showed that the “Myspace shot” (wherein the person holds their cell phone camera above their head and takes a self-shot) surprisingly works really well for women. On average, they got almost 15 more new contacts every month than women who didn’t have a “Myspace” photo of themselves. Photos of women in bed (surprise, surprise) and outdoorsy type pics garnered the 2nd and 3rd most highly responses. Rounding up the bottom were pictures of girls at a bar, with animals and “doing something interesting”.

Guys don’t want to see pictures of you and 20 of your closets bar slut friends downing another shot of Jose Cuervo at the bar. As my good Pakistani friend who owns a 7-11 once said: “This is not to be good business, my friend”. Same goes for pictures of animals and “doing somthing interesting”. The best way to attract a guy is to have a wide range of photos. The more mysterious, the better. Just don’t go all Emo/Goth in your pics.

Interestingly enough, when it came to the guys and which photos got the most responses the top 3 were: With an animal, Showing muscles and “doing something interesting”. As expected, “drinking” came in second to last.

Showing off some skin: If you are a guy and you got the abs/muscles to show off, by all means do so. Use your strengths to your advantage. Same goes for cleavage shots for the ladies as sex sells. The study showed that with age, the skin shots decrease sharply, which is not so surprising after all. A 19 year old man will do a lot better showing off his body than a 31 year old man. Hrmm….it’s almost as if women around the age of 30 tend to look for something more than a guy with a hot body. The study showed that the kinds of messages (that lead to a successful response) that the cleavage showers got were not directed at the cleavage shots themselves. They cleavage showers who also had a “doing something interesting” photo received more responses because a guy could comment on that photo. An opening email of “Nice tits” from a guy really isn’t going to lead anywhere.

Taking this case study one step further, I would now like to address both women and men with regards to their online dating photos. Here are a few tips (from personal experience as well as anecdotal stories over the years) that can help you achieve a better response ratio on your online dating profile:

Men:

Smile. As in real life, women tend to be a bit cautious on the online dating sites. They don’t know who is a stalker/rapist/crazy person and chances are if your photos give off a creepy aura you won’t get any responses. Light and breezy, bright and cheerful. Don’t upload any pics of you downing a 40oz. of Olde English at a house party. Don’t upload pics of you surrounded by other smiling happy females (“player”). Don’t upload weird or random photos. In short, ask yourself “Why am I uploading this photo and what indication could it give off to a female?” Some women tend to be quick to judgment and a seemingly innocuous photo of you drinking a beer with your buddy on the top of the Palms Hotel Casino in Vegas could set off a whole host of red flags in a girls mind. If you want to be successful in an online dating site, here are 5 good photos that you should have uploaded of yourself:

1. Clear face shot in color. No black and white, no side views.
2. If you got the body and are under 35 years of age: shirtless pic (headless will also work). If you are lacking in the muscle department, try putting on a wife beater. It will accentuate your arms and shoulders.
3. “Doing something interesting”. I am a licensed pilot (for fun). On my picture page, I put an action pic of me doing a pre-flight check on a Cessna airplane. I was crouching under the wing taking a sample of the fuel inside. Head was cocked as if I was intently studying the fuel level. You won’t believe how many responses I got to that photo. If you aren’t a licensed pilot, you can always pay $100 for a “free lesson” and get your buddy to take a picture of you doing the same.
4. Picture of you with an animal. Don’t have a cute fluffy puppy? Go to your local pet store and ask the clerk to take a photo of you holding a puppy. Tell them that “it’s to show my girlfriend in order to convince her to let me get one” or some other b.s. story. Back in the day when I was on another online dating site (yes, I am a “lifer” when it comes to online dating) I had a picture of me and my pitbull. She was half lab so she didn’t look too scary. Again, 1 out of every 2 responses I got included a comment about my puppy.
5. A “head to toe” photo of yourself so women can see what the entire package looks like (not “that” package). Don’t crotch-stuff. That’s just tacky.

Women:

1. Show those ta-ta’s if you got ‘em ! Even if you don’t, show some form of cleavage. The point here is not to have your boobs take up the entire photo, but rather give off a sexy allure, however diminished. Take a very tasteful photo of yourself, and don’t make your cleavage the center piece, but be sure to include them. A tasteful photo showing a very slight cleavage shot can be extremely powerful. Guys won’t think you are just trying to show off your goods, but rather they will see you in a great pic and your cleavage as an afterthought.
2. No weird photos. Unless you are an artsy-fartsy kinda gal and are looking for the same in a guy…..leave the picture of you cupping the stone balls of Michealangelo’s David sculpture on your hard drive. I’m going to have to say that I disagree with the OKC study that shows women with pictures of themselves “doing something interesting” doesn’t get many responses. I have always advised women to put up 1 picture of themselves doing a hobby or interest of theirs. For example: If you are into running/cross training, throw up a pic of you in the last marathon you ran. The reason is simple. If you are looking for a guy with similar interests, what better way to attract him than a photo of you doing the same?
3. No drinky-drinky, smokey-smokey photos. Even though you may be best friends with Snoop Dogg, it probably would be best to not upload the pic of you and him puffing on a Philly Blunt while driving in his ‘64 low-low on the way to the Compton Swap Meet. Unless a guy is specifically looking for a slut….don’t give him any reason to jump to wild conclusions.
4. Myspace shot. Get one up there ASAP. Grab your cell phone, walk into the bathroom, hold it above your head and take a pic. I think the reason why this picture works so well is that it gives off a mysterious amateur type of allure. Since most guys nowadays are familiar with Myspace (and practically live their lives on it), it makes good sense to include a picture of this nature.
5. No animal pictures. More specifically, no “crazy cat lady” pictures. Sure, you may love your Mr. Fluffy-Foo, but guys have a thing about women and cats. This is based on experience, and most of my guy friends have at least 1 story of some crazy chick they dated who had more than 1 cat. Every single girl that I have dated (3 to be exact) that has had more than one cat has turned out to be a complete psychotic bitch. This isn’t a generalization statement, just an old wives tale.

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eHarmony Promotional Code January 2010 to March 2010

Karen — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:31:26 +0000

Here are 2 new eHarmony promotional code for 6 and 12 month subscriptions to eHarmony. Both of these eHarmony codes will work for Canada subscriptions to eHarmony.ca as well.

Save 20% on a 6 month eHarmony subscription
Click below link and enter eHarmony promotional code: CJPROMOAAA
Save 20% on a 6 month subscription at eHarmony! (coupon code: CJPROMOAAA Expiration Date 3/31/10)
Expires: 3/31/10

Save 17% on a 12 month eHarmony subscription
Click below link and enter eHarmony promotional code: CJPROMOBBB
Save 17% on a 12 month subscription at eHarmony! (coupon code: CJPROMOBBB Expiration Date 3/31/10)
Expires: 3/31/10

As always, take your time in filling out an eHarmony personality profile. The information you give eHarmony about yourself will directly reflect the matches that you receive. eHarmony’s system matches your personality with other people in their system whom you are most compatible with. In order to use one of these eHarmony promotional code, simply copy the applicable eHarmony code and then click the link. Fill out your personality profile then in the box labeled “eHarmony coupon” simply cut and paste the code. Instant savings on your 6 or 12 month eHarmony sub !

eHarmony does cost a bit more than other online dating services, but as with anything in life, you get what you pay for. Considering that an average date (with a girl or guy that you really like) costs upwards of $150.00, and considering that you are only getting 1 chance with that person…..it’s better to join eHarmony because you don’t get just one date. You get the chance of meeting a lot of quality singles and going out on a ton of quality dates.

eHarmony Promotional Code January 2010 to March 2010 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Dating Other People While You Are Depressed – It’s a Trap !!

Karen — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:49:45 +0000

Here’s a quick little dating tip for you guys for the New Year: Don’t date while you are mentally depressed.

I’m not talking about a clinical depression, but rather depression in the sense when you are down in a funk and all signs point to a nice little Pity Party going on inside your head. Dating other people requires you to give all of yourself to that person. When you are depressed you are only thinking about yourself. As such you are not able to give 100% of your efforts to getting to know the person you are dating.

You will most likely wind up making matters far worse as the relationship will most likely end and you will be in the same exact spot that you were when you started. Concentrate first on taking care of yourself and fixing whatever it is that needs to be fixed in your mind.

If you absolutely have to date someone your best bet is to take things extremely slow. Let the other person know that you are not mentally ready for a relationship and you need your space and time. If you are lucky enough to pull out of the funk depression while you are still dating them, then you can start to look beyond the casual dating aspect.

Dating Other People While You Are Depressed – It’s a Trap !! is a post from: Online Dating Matches

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eHarmony Free Communication Weekend going on now ! December 30th 2009 – January 3rd 2010

Karen — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 22:07:09 +0000

Who will you be kissing in the New Years?

is now having their famous Free Communication weekend. It starts on December 30th, 2009 and ends on January 3rd, 2010.

You can try out the eHarmony service for free, no credit card required !

I always advise people to give the eHarmony free comm. weekend a shot. You have nothing to lose but the chance to meet that special someone you have always been looking for. One of the best things about the eHarmony free communication weekend is that not only do you get to see what all they hype is about, but you also get a neat personality profile analysis for free. You first need to fill out a questionnaire. You simply need to answer a few questions about yourself so eHarmony can then match you with members whom you are most compatible with according to their patented matchmaking system. Once you are done eHarmony will then show you members whom you are most compatible with and you will be allowed to communicate with them for free. Again, you do not need to enter in a credit card in order to take advantage of the eHarmony free communication weekend.

Good luck and here’s hoping you meet the love of your life in 2010 !!!

eHarmony Free Communication Weekend going on now ! December 30th 2009 – January 3rd 2010 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

eharmony promotional code December 2009

Karen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:30:33 +0000

Here are the latest officially approved eharmony promotional code for December 2009. These codes are the ONLY codes out there on the internet that eHarmony has authorized for use to save money on your monthly membership.

eHarmony 6 Month promotional code savings:

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Expiration: December 31st, 2009 @ 11:59pm

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Renewal: $29.95
Expiration: December 31st, 2009 @ 11:59pm

Free $40 value Personality Profile:
eHarmony – Free Personality Profile

Expiration: December 31st, 2009 @ 11:59pm

As always, I recommend you take your time in filling out the free personality profile. It is a simple set of questions about your personality. eHarmony uses this information to match you up with people in their system whom you are most compatible with. You are doing yourself a disservice if you lie or “stretch the truth” in your answers. Nobody can view the results of your personality profile unless you explicitly allow them. Be yourself.

For your best chance of success on eHarmony, take the highest age range you would normally date and add 5 years. eHarmony is not about looks….yes, looks to matter to some people, but they are just a means of getting your foot in the proverbial door. eHarmony is all about what is on the inside of a person. This is what separates it from all the run of the mill online dating sites out there. eHarmony is all about meeting quality singles who are looking for long term, lasting relationships.

20% off a 6 month subscription !!
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Expiration: December 31st, 2009 @ 11:59pm

Tip: Choose a 6 or 12 month eharmony subscription. Yes, it will cost you a little more, but in the long run you will thank yourself. As with anything else in life that is worth something…..true love takes time. You cannot honestly expect to find the love of your life in 1-3 months? Just like you can’t expect to walk into a Karate studio and become a black belt in 3 months. Get out there and date people and find yourself in the process. Take things slow, do not sleep with any of your dates. Look at this as a road to happiness, and a process of finding the love of your life.

Don’t join eHarmony with the expectation of finding your soul mate within 1 week. True, you will be matched up with other singles whom eHarmony deems you to be most compatible with, but that doesn’t mean each and every person is your soul mate. I have been talking to and working with singles for over 10 years now and have recommended they join eHarmony. I tell them to have realistic expectations and view this as a learning process. Yes, dating sucks. I will be the first one to admit it…..but do it right the first time, and you won’t find yourself in the same spot a few months from now.

Good luck !

Hot tip !!: Check out the Registration
page for news and updates on any eHarmony free communication weekends that may be going on. I get a semi-advance notice email and do my best to try and let you guys know ahead of time….but there are times when the email isn’t sent out or whatever. eHarmony will have their “free communication weekend” listed in plain view. The last eHarmony free comm weekend was in November. At this point in time, I do not have any knowledge of upcoming eH free comm weekends in December….but….as compared to last year at this time, eHarmony has had more free communication weekends in 2009 than they did in 2008 (to the best of my knowledge).

The following eharmony savings will be automatically activated once you click the link. There is no need to enter in an eharmony promotional code. These codes have not changed since November, 2009.

52% off 1 month rate (with 6 month plan) ($186 in Savings)
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1 Month Membership discount:
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eharmony promotional code December 2009 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

A female’s Perspective on Why Women Like Funny Guys

Karen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:07:30 +0000

Relationship and Breakup Counselor JoyW is back with us to give her stream-of-consciousness thoughts on why women are more attracted to funny guys (and why you don’t have to look like Brad Pitt in order to attract hot women)

Why Women Like Funny Guys

Everyone loves to laugh. We all love that guttural response. It feels good to laugh. It has scientifically been proven that laughing can improve your immune system. So go out and rent a comedy. Or you can find yourself a funny mate. That is why one of the top things women are always looking for is a guy that can make her laugh. Women like funny men.

Think about all of the not so cute, but really funny, guys you know that have beautiful girlfriends or wives. It is because laughter makes you feel good. And a guy that can constantly make you feel good by laughing is a guy you want to be with. If you are always laughing, you don’t have time to think about the fact that this guy does not look like Brad Pitt-or anywhere close. And even if you do think about it, you don’t care.

When I am with a guy that I am laughing so hard my sides hurt, I know I am doing well. Laughter can get you through a lot. Looks will fade over the years, but a great sense of humor is something that will last. I have spoken with a lot of happily married couples and almost all of them have said to me that he reason their marriage is working is because they make each other laugh everyday.

So how does a guy get funny? Well, most are just born that way. But you can always brush up on your humor. By watching TV and movies that are comedies, that will help you learn some lessons in timing and how to land a joke (and if you are ballsy enough, you can pull some of their material and use it on a woman-just be prepared, if you get caught, with a great comeback line). Take an improvisation class. An improvisation class will teach you how to give a performance without planning or preparation. Yes, mostly actors do this, but non-actors can learn a lot from a class, too. Improv is a wonderful art form that forces you to be quick on your feet. This can really be helpful on dates. And last, but not least, don’t take yourself too seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself.

Even after all of this, if you still don’t find yourself funny. Ask your friends to help. Ask them truthfully if they find you funny. If not, why. Do they have any suggestions? Are you too serious? Are you worried all of the time about the sky falling? Do you need to lighten up? Make sure you listen and keep an open mind when you have asked your friends for help. They may tell you things you do not want to hear. But this is the only way to learn how you are perceived by others. Thank them and think about what they have said. Do some soul searching and get counseling, if needed, if there are things you are just deeply unhappy about that you cannot let go. But make it a goal to find humor in all situations.

No one likes a grumpy Gus. We like people who are happy and fun and full of laughter. We can all be that way. We can learn to look at the funny side of life. Include people in your life that you find funny. Seek out ways to expand your sense of humor. Make a date to see a comedian (just sit in the back, trust me) and really study why he or she is funny. Learning to laugh, let loose and have fun will service you so very well in your life. Life is short, laugh a lot.

A female’s Perspective on Why Women Like Funny Guys is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Are bars good places to pick up women?

Karen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:03:52 +0000

Bars….a good place to pick up women?

I get asked a lot by my guy friends if they should continue to head to the bars to look for women. I shout, “Definitely”. I know, that some may think, it is not the ideal place to pick up on a girl that you want to bring home to mom but it can be. Bars are there, mostly, as a pick up joint. Yeah, once and awhile a couple will head there to just hang out and secretly relive their single days but for the most part bars are just crawling with single people. You have about a 95% chance (statistics that I made up on the fly) that if a girl is there, she is single. Again, there are exceptions such as a taken girl who is there to hang out with her girls (and again relive her single days) but really, you have a pretty good shot that she is looking for a man.

Who among us has not gone to a bar? So there are normal people that go to bars. It sounds shady to have met your “true love” at Joe’s Pub but why? If we have all been to bars (some of us more than others), then why shouldn’t we look for love here. Yes, there are some people that are just looking to get drunk and hook up (score, if there is a girl there you like and this is her mission) but I’d actually say that those people are the exception, not the rule. We want to find a mate (most of us) and going to a place that is stocked like a fish farm with exactly what we are looking for is a perfect place to look for a soul mate.

I know, I am going to have many a critic over my admiration for bars as the place to find “the one”. But again, why? Because of the alcohol? You’ll say, the spirits are there just to loosen everyone up to hop in the sack and not to just grease a well made match. Well, let’s say you meet a nice girl at a wedding. Don’t most weddings serve liquor? Yep. So there goes that theory. Another critic might say, women wear almost nothing at a bar and yet you are supposed to marry this girl and bring her to your company picnics? Well, how about the beach? If you met a girl on the beach then she would be wearing much less. See, bars get a bad rap, but really they are one of the most ideal places to meet your partner.

I also think a lot more people have met their significant others at a bar but they are just not copping to the fact. They will make up a well played out story to tell their friends and relatives, just so that they do not have to admit they met at a bar. Some people act as if meeting your girlfriend at a bar was like meeting her at a strip club or something. Bars are not such a bad place. But for some reason, they just sound bad. It may not sound like a typical fairytale to admit to meeting your future wife at a bar but it should be. I am standing up for bars everywhere and telling you to belly up to the local pub and go look for love. And when you find your perfect mate, shout it from the rooftop. Let the world know. We can start a revolution.

Ok, I’ll get off my soapbox, but I hope, you get it. You can meet nice, normal women almost anywhere. But nice, normal, single women are almost guaranteed at a place made for singles-a bar. This is a prime spot for you to meet a woman looking for the same thing you are-love. So make sure you are acting like it if you are at the bar looking for your true love. Don’t act like a guy trying to get laid. Act like a gentleman, be sincere and keep your eyes and heart open. You don’t want to miss your Bella (shout out to Twilight fans) while you are just looking for a quick roll in the hay because you think could never find a nice girl at a bar. You never know who you’ll meet, and where. It might just surprise you.

Are bars good places to pick up women? is a post from: Online Dating Matches

The Girlfriend Title

Karen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:03:34 +0000

The “girlfriend” Title

Isn’t it funny how a label can mean so much to someone, especially to women. Most men don’t care what you call them as long as you are putting out. But women, we need a title. We like “girlfriend”, “fiancé” and “wife”. We feel better when we have a title. We feel like we belong. It means something to us. We know that it is hard for men to hand out titles, so when we get one, we feel like it really does mean something. We share it with all of our friends, “I am now “officially” Billy’s girlfriend”!! And we are so proud. It is like a mini-celebration.

I know that it is not the same for guys. I know that giving “the title” means that they are ready to commit but it is not the same for them. They do not need it, like we do. They are not getting high-fives from their friends when they have officially titled their girl. In fact, most of their friends, will give them hell about it because “who wants a girlfriend”, “be single”, “enjoy life”. The guys that are usually saying that are in relationships and are unhappy or single guys that don’t want to lose one of their friends to “the dark side”.

A title can be a good thing, for both parties involved. When you are with the right person and you want to just be with that one person, a title is needed. If you are just hanging out and you can date whomever you please, and visa versa, then you can just call her by her first name when you introduce her. But be aware, as soon as you introduce her like that to another guy, he knows that she is fair game. If you say, “This is my girlfriend, Mary”, then all bets are off. So you get to decide, is she worth holding onto.

Having a girlfriend does have a lot of perks. You have a constant companion. You have someone who understands you. And, you know, when you are having a bad day, she’ll be there for you. The title girlfriend should not be a scary thing. If it is, then you need to re-assess your relationship or yourself.

What makes you not want to hand out a title? Is she not the one? Are you waiting for someone better? If so, you really need to make that quite clear to the other party involved. If you just want a casual relationship (read: friends with benefits), then you need to be fair to her and let her know. But be prepared. She may want more. And if she does and she leaves, how will you feel? Think long and hard about this before you have this talk.

Some guys (and a few, very few, girls) are not into titles. They like to keep things just fun and fancy free. And I think that is fine if both people feel the same way. But if you are just scared of kissing your single life goodbye because you decided to settle down then you need to rent Ghosts of Girlfriends Past. And if you meet the right girl, don’t let her slip away.

Is there an appropriate time for you to hand out the coveted girlfriend title? No. It needs to be when you feel like your relationship has moved on to the next stage and you want to see this girl exclusively. Then you do need to talk to her about being exclusive and see how she feels. If she feels the same, then great, she gets to throw her mini-celebration with her friends and you get a cool chick who is proud to be with you. If she is not ready for that step, and you are, then you may want to think about what you want in the long run. Are you willing to wait? Or do you need to find someone who is heading down the same path you are?

The “girlfriend title” can be a wonderful thing. It is not something to be scared of. It is something to be excited about. It means someone cares as much for you as you do for her. It means you are ready for the next step. So go on out there and give that girl that means so much to you her very own title, your girlfriend.

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eHarmony Free Communication Weekend – November 19th-22nd 2009

Karen — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:19:37 +0000

eHarmony is having their famous free communication weekend. If you have ever wanted to try eHarmony for free (no credit card required), now is your chance. In order to quickly get started, simply fill out a free . In it, you will be asked a series of questions about yourself. Try to answer them as honestly as possible because eHarmony will then analyze your personality and then match you with quality singles in their system whom you are most compatible with. eHarmony spends tens of thousands of dollars every year on academic and scientific research on human compatibility and then incorporates their findings into the system.

Even if you don’t plan on signing up for eHarmony, take the time to fill out the personality profile (it’s more of a “yes/no” type of quiz) and at the end eHarmony presents to you a very detailed analysis of your personality. You can then use this analysis to see how other people might view you….

If you do plan on signing up for eHarmony, don’t forget to use an eHarmony promotional code to save a lot of money on your membership. You can use that money to pay for your first date !

Good luck !

eHarmony Free Communication Weekend – November 19th-22nd 2009 is a post from: Online Dating Matches

Dating sucks, but there is light at the end of the tunnel

Karen — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:32:21 +0000

Dating sucks, but there IS light at the end of the tunnel

I used to hate dating. I really, really hated dating. To me it was just like a job interview. You spend hours getting ready, not to mention days before prepping for the event. If you are a girl, you get your hair cut, waxed, nails done and sometimes even shop for a new outfit. If you are a guy, you spend hours on the internet trying to find the perfect place to go, make reservations, get your outfit together and clean your car. Along with 500 other things that pop up in between all of this that you have to do for your date.

Then you go on your date. You sweat and stress and try to look cool under the pressure. You attempt to come up with funny things to say. You endeavor to laugh appropriately at your date’s jokes. You are constantly gauging the situation to see if your date thinks you are the most wonderful person alive. After it is all said and done, at the end of the night you have the awkward walk to the door, do I kiss or don’t I kiss, and is this where I ask for another date thought running through your head.

Ick. It is a wonder any of us go on dates. Why do we do it? Well, we are looking for the “one”. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince who is the “one”. I know it is torturous. Dating is not always fun. But falling in love is. Think of the last time you were in love. How great is that feeling? Pretty great, huh. It is what drives us as human beings. It is what many a war has been fought over. It makes great movies, great and great songs, timeless. And love is what that terrible thing “dating” leads to.

Think about it. What stories would you have to tell your kids and grandkids if you didn’t go on a few good and bad dates? You wouldn’t have any. And it is the journey, not the destination that makes life worth living. You just have to learn to start enjoying the journey. It can be fun. Sure, there will still be stress but there doesn’t have to be a dread about dating. You are going on a bunch of interviews but love is definitely not work. It takes work, yes. But it is not that job that we all hate. It is a wonderful thing. You get to experience magic when you fall in love. You get to experience meaning and pure bliss.

Doesn’t all of this love talk sound grand? That is why we all date. We are looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. The person we are meant to be with that will see us through thick and thin. The person who will be our biggest cheerleader. The person who will be on our team. The person who will fight the good fight with us. We need a better half. We as humans need human interaction. And finding a soul mate is the best interaction of them all.

Dating=Love. There is no two ways about it. We have to go on dates to fall in love. And once you find the one that is meant to be yours, you love dating. You can’t wait to get dressed up and go out to eat. You love prepping and getting ready so that they continue to be attracted to you and so that they shower you with compliments. You are giddy and can’t wait for your good night kiss. And this great feeling is all thanks to dating.

You just have to turn your perspective around about dating. Don’t think of it like a chore and don’t bring your baggage from past bad dates or bad relationships to your date. You are starting anew. A clean slate. You are going out with this attractive person and you will start a journey tonight. I cannot tell you where it will lead but I can tell you to enjoy it. You just never know when you will be sitting across from your future soul mate that will take your life in a wonderful new direction.

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Hot tip: Go for the 6 or 12 month eHarmony subscription…..you (and your wallet) will be glad that you did. eHarmony is a relationship site. It is not your average run of the mill dating site. As such, like with anything of value in life…..good things take time. I’m not saying that you won’t meet the love of your life in the first month you are a member……but try to keep a realistic approach to things. Quality relationships are hard to come by nowadays, it takes not only a lot of hard work, but the right person as well.

With that being said, do you honestly think you are going to find the love of your life in just a few short weeks? If you were to suddenly decide to want to learn Karate….would you walk into the Karate studio with the expectation of becoming a black belt in only a month? The same goes for a serious relationship. These things take time and throughout the dating process you will undoubtedly learn more about yourself as you experience new things and meet new people.

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10 things that women are confused about men

Karen — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 06:00:57 +0000

There are so many things that make me go hmmm about the opposite sex. Men are definitely a different species. But I’ve compiled a list of my top 10 reasons men make me utterly confused (and insane).

1. Men say they will call. Oh, yes, we have all been there. A man will say he will call me and never does. What? Why bother telling me you will call when you know damn well, you won’t. Just don’t say anything. Or even better tell me you are married, a priest or gay and I’ll never think about you again. Or, at least, I won’t waste my weekend looking to see if you ring me up.

2. Men think jeans, a clean shirt and closed toed shoes are dressing up. Really?? Really?? This is dressing up to you?? Women spend hours getting ready and choosing the perfect outfit and you just throw on a clean shirt (which probably means you have only worn it two times) and some shoes that aren’t sandals. Come on guys. Put a little effort into it. If you do, we’ll reciprocate and put a little effort in the bedroom for you.

3. Men eat a lot and never worry about gaining weight. This astonishes me. The mere fact that you can shove a chili dog, fries and 10 beers down your throat and never moan about it going to your hips is amazing. But it also drives me crazy because we women are always calculating the amount of calories and the exact number of minutes we will have to run on the treadmill to burn it off for every single bite.

4. Men like breasts, a lot. OK, I get this one-sort of. It is definitely built into the DNA code that all men like boobs. But the obsession?? That I don’t get. The constant drooling if a woman has breasts up to her eyeballs. You are men, not animals. Control that a little, ok. It’s fine to lust after our lady humps but please keep it in check.

5. Men like fast cars. This one is really funny to me. Especially since I live in Los Angeles. With the traffic out here, you cannot get above 55 mph, if you are lucky. So why would you buy a car that can go from 0 to 300 mph in 60 seconds. It makes no sense. I guess if you lived in the middle of nowhere and you had lots of open roads then maybe this would be beneficial. But honestly, if you lived out in the middle of nowhere, where are you in a hurry to get to?

6. Men leave laundry, food and anything else piled up for weeks and it never bothers them. Gross. Just gross. Clean up. If you need a maid, hire one. Even better, get off your lazy ass and do it yourself. Put things in their place. Clean the dishes and dust. It really doesn’t take that long. Throw out the trash. Your place will smell better. If you never want to attract another human being then keep living like this but if you are looking for a woman-clean up!!

7. Men want women 10 years (or more) younger than they are. This one just really bugs me. I think some men have a mirror that has a distorted view when they glance at themselves. Kinda like a funhouse mirror but makes them 30 lbs lighter, 10 years younger and sexy enough to catch a hot younger woman’s eye. What’s wrong with women who are your own age? And please, gentlemen, let me tell you, there is only one Hugh Hefner out there and you are not him.

8. Men can watch sports for days, weeks and years and never get bored. A good sports game is fine. I’m all for it. But 12 hours spent locked in the house with buffalo wings and pizza does not make a good Sunday for most women. Do us all a favor. Pick a game, pick a couple, then put the remote down and take us out for a fun day. If you do, you’ll be very happy with our brand of tackle later.

9. Men very rarely talk about their feelings. Ah, that scary word, FEELINGS. It sends men into a state of shock. Your feelings are actually pretty easy. If I stuck your hand under hot water, your hand would feel HOT. If I stuck your hand under cold water, your hand would feel COLD. So if a woman asks you how you feel about her, just state the obvious. Do you like her?? Do you see this going further?? Are you happy with the relationship?? Pretty easy questions and answers. And if the answers are complicated, just tell us why. No need for us to stick your head in the oven to get an answer, right?

10. Men think they are smarter than every woman alive. I could have gone to Yale, have 3 doctorate degrees and be a neurosurgeon and the average Joe will still think that he is smarter than I am. I think it is spelled out somewhere deep in their genetic code that they have to believe that they know more than women. They know everything. And if they don’t, they think that by watching a TV show or asking their neighbor, Bill, how something works automatically makes them an expert on it. Wrong! Yes, there are plenty of smart men out there but please, do every woman a favor by not assuming that you know it all and we don’t. We’ll just let you think you do, if you give us proper credit when we deserve it.

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Should you sleep with a guy on the first date?

Karen — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:55:46 +0000

Should you sleep with a guy on the first date?

If you are thinking of hitting the sheets with a guy right after your first date-don’t! I repeat…This is a bad idea. You know your local bag guy at the corner grocery store better than you know this guy. Even if he has said all of the right things, you do not need to be bedding down with him. If you wait, it’ll be even better after the fourth date or the date after that. I don’t have a steadfast rule on how many dates you need to go on before you do sleep with a guy but it really needs to be at least after a few. Guys like the chase. If you give in right away, where’s the mystery? There isn’t any. And for great sex, you need to have a build up. There’s no build up if you are sleeping with him right away. You just come across as easy. It’s true. Go on; ask some of your guy friends. They’ll tell you the same thing.

A good way to avoid nooky on the first date is to avoid a lot of alcohol. I know, alcohol helps you to relax but too much and you’ll lose your inhibitions and your shirt by the end of night. And no one likes a sloppy drunk. Have just a couple of light drinks and drink water the rest of the night. Your head and you dignity will thank you the next day.

If you are worried about what the guy will say then be prepared with a response if he asks you about it. You can tell him that you are interested in him but you feel like in order for things to move forward, you will need to wait until the time is right. Tell him that you are sure that he can understand that because he has been such a gentleman all night long. If he pressures you, this should send up red flags that this is not the guy that you want to be with. You deserve better!

Sex does not equal love. And girls, just because you sleep with a guy this does not mean he is in love with you. It also does not mean that by sleeping with him, you’ll be able to make him fall in love with you. You are much smarter than that and you need to show him that there is more to you than what is between your legs. Sex, I repeat, does not equal love.

Think of it like this…If you wanted ice cream, right now, and you went out and bought some and ate it, then it would be good. But if you could not have the ice cream, then your desire for it will grow stronger and stronger as the days or weeks go on. And when you finally do taste that Chocolate Chip ice cream that you have been dreaming of it tastes amazing!

I don’t know any guy, worth dating, that doesn’t respect a girl for waiting awhile to sleep with him. It also shows him that you are not sleeping with just any guy that pays for your dinner. You will show him that if he treats you right and you two continue to have a good time together, then and only then, will he get some.

You deserve to value yourself and by “saving” yourself until you feel that the time is right, you will be doing just that. You will be making your relationship with this guy stronger by making him wait. You increase his desire and we all know that increased desire is a good thing. You are his Chocolate Chip ice cream with whip cream and cherries on top. I’m all for a good roll in the hay, just make sure that you are rolling around with the right cowboy.

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How to get motivated in order to exercise

Karen — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:53:50 +0000

Hey Guys,

I’m starting a new series on this site regarding weight loss and exercise. I feel that it is very important for one to have high self esteem prior to entering the dating arena. In this day and age, way too much importance is placed on how people look. Especially women. Far too many people in this day and age are caught up on looks….so much so that the person whom they might be most compatible with would not even get a second look if they aren’t considered “hot”. I have asked relationship and dating advice counselor “Joy” to author a few articles for this site. Her main specialty is helping people get over relationship breakups. As always, check with your Doctor prior to performing any weighloss or exercise routines. In conjunction with exercise, a proper diet is required to lose weight. Some people have had success with the Medifast diet plan. I have compiled a list of medifast coupons that you can use to save money ($50 off, free shipping and a host of other medifast coupon codes).

How to get motivated in order to exercise:

Even with the best intentions, I have found it hard to exercise. Exercise is really not fun for me. But I have learned that I love the feeling that I have after I exercise. The rush of endorphins is wonderful. The feeling of accomplishment is grand. And to top everything off, just knowing that I don’t have to workout any more that day is awesome! So I have decided to use that feeling as my motivation.

I like looking and feeling good. I like being thin. And with my genes, the only way to accomplish that is to watch what I eat and to exercise. Unfortunately, I was not born with a metabolism that no matter what I ate I would stay slim. I have always had to work at it. Fair, no. But at least, I have had lots of good practice over the years of knowing what I have to do to stay at my goal weight. I know if I’m going to splurge on a big meal or a high calorie dessert, I will have to pay with exercise. So back to my new motivation. I am going to use the feeling that I always have after I workout to push me through my dread of working out.

The first time I decided to try it, I had woken up early and had plenty of time before my day got started to pop in an exercise video and get my day off to a good start. I desperately wanted to get on Facebook and play Rollercoaster Kingdom but I decided to practice my new inspiration. I sat on my bed and visualized how I looked and felt after I had a good sweat session. I could almost feel the endorphins rushing in my body and the sense of accomplishment that I always felt when I had finished my exercise. I knew that if I got it out of the way this early that I wouldn’t have to think twice about it later. How great would that be! I would be done. Done with my dreaded exercise and I could have my endorphin rush and pat myself on the back all day long! That was the kick in the pants that I needed.

I got up, popped in my workout DVD and started. I wish I could tell you that I smiled and loved every minute of it. Far from that, believe me. But, like every professional athlete, I kept my eye on the prize. I knew that I would be done soon enough. I knew that I would experience my rush and be extremely proud of myself when I was through. And guess what, I was. I got through and breathed a sigh of relief and knew that I was finished for the day!

What a glorious feeling. To be done and to have the rest of my day to focus on everything else (including, of course, Rollercoaster Kingdom). So I have decided that my experiment worked. I still do not like exercise. But I love the way that I feel afterwards. I love being able to check it off my list of what I need to do. I even get giddy when I am lost in thought and think about what exercise I have to do later and then remember that I am already done. And even though it is probably in my head, I feel a whole new wave of endorphins rush over me and remind me of my accomplishment.

I have learned that I need motivation to exercise. Since I am not one of those people that live to sweat my brains out, I know that I need something to peak my interest. And that, for me, is the feeling of achievement that I get every time I am done. I know that it is a fact of life, in order to stay in shape and to stay healthy, I have to exercise. I have to spend time pushing my body to the limit. It is the ugly truth. But I am willing to reconcile with it, as long as I look good in my jeans and feel good on the inside. Exercise and I will never be good friends but as long as we are playing on the same team, fighting for the same goal, I will continue to invite it in and begrudgingly enjoy its company.

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eharmony promotional code October 2009

Karen — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:00:49 +0000

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Even if you don’t plan on signing up for eHarmony, take your time to honestly and accurately fill out the personality profile. After you are finished, you will then be presented with a very detailed analysis of your personality which you can use to see how others view you. Sometimes asking your family and friends to give their honest opinion about you (“Why can’t I find a boyfriend/girlfriend?”) won’t elicit a very honest response.

After you are done reading through your analysis, eHarmony then shows you the members whom you are most compatible with and have the highest chance of success with, all for free.

eHarmony spends tens of thousands of dollars on academic and scientific research every month and incorporates their findings into their personality profile. This isn’t some cheap parlor trick….you are getting the best of the best here, so take advantage of it !

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True the matches that eHarmony will be bringing you are probably some of the best you have ever experienced in your life, but do you think every single one of them will be your soul mate? Especially if you haven’t dated a long time, I would not advise jumping right into a relationship off the bat. Take some time and let things happen naturally.

Think back to why you are joining eHarmony…..you are looking for QUALITY. Good things take time. You can’t expect to walk into a Karate class and become and expert in just one short month…..why would you expect anything less from your search for the perfect mate?

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Your best chance at success on eHarmony results directly from how much effort you put into it. Like anything else in life, good things take time. eHarmony is responsible for hundreds of marriages every year (and tens of thousands since their beginning) so bide your time. My advice to people who are just starting eharmony (besides taking advantage of the eharmony promotional code) is to take some time to get to know yourself. The best way this can be accomplished is to just get out there and date people. You will learn a lot about who you are, and exactly what you are looking for once you get into the swing of things.

These 6 and 12 month eHarmony subs are without a doubt the best way to join the site. I have received several emails from people asking me “why”. It’s simple, you can’t rush a good thing. eHarmony knows this and as such offers a 6 and 12 month discount on their subscriptions. If you are seriously looking for the love of your life, or a serious relationship, or something in between, you can’t expect to find it in just 1-3 months. It’s like anything else in this world that is worth having….good things take time. You wouldn’t walk into a karate studio and expect to become a black belt in 3 months, would you?

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How to quickly lose a few pounds prior to going out on your first date

Karen — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:30:18 +0000

How to Lose Weight Before a Date

If you don’t have the time nor energy to embark on the latest diet fad, or (gasp) exercise, one way to quickly lose a few pounds in a couple of days is to go on the Medifast diet. Lately I have been hearing from many different women who are on the “yo yo” diet with Medifast. It works like this: They have an important function or date coming up and need to lose 5-10 pounds quickly. They don’t have the time to exercise and “eating right” is out of the question. They buy 2 weeks worth of Medifast food in advance, then within the first week (generally speaking) they have lost at least 5 pounds, not including water weight gain. I’m not advising anyone to try this diet as I personally have no experience with it….just passing along the latest “fad” to hit the yo-yo dieters out there. If you decide to try this diet, I have found a few medifast coupons that you can use to save money. There is a coupon for free medifast, $50 off and a free shipping coupon as well.

We have all been there. Your Match profile pics look way better than you do when you roll out of bed in the morning. And I know all of my friends’ pictures are taken at a really good angle so that it makes them look at least 10 lbs lighter. But what happens when you are supposed to meet hotguy69 from eHarmony in 7 days and you have 10 lbs to lose. Well, let me tell you girls some tricks from the trade. First, I have to warn you that you cannot lose 10 lbs in just one week and you should not. It is very dangerous to lose more than 1-3 lbs in a week but you can definitely make yourself appear to be 10 lbs lighter with these great tips:

Exercise

Yes, the age old cure for fat, exercise. It will make your muscles pop. Your body needs a few good sweat sessions. During this week, try to get in at least 3-4 aerobic activities each lasting approximately one hour. It can be anything from running to swimming to biking or anything else, as long as you break a sweat. The upside about exercise is that it will make you feel sexier. And look leaner. Exercise is every girl’s best friend and is not a four letter word.

Cut out salt and bad carbohydrates

If you want to look leaner, cut out the things that will make you bloated. These include simple carbohydrates such as bread, potatoes, white rice, pasta and pizza and salty fares. I know these are the good things in life but in order to fit into your cute outfit you need to cut them out this week. Instead, eat complex carbohydrates such as: brown rice, whole wheat bread, fruits, and grilled food. Think about foods you consider healthy and that is what you should be eating.

Drink lots of water and green tea

Water is always the best thing you can put into your body. It is what makes up 70 percent of every human body, anyways. Water also helps you beat the bloat, believe it or not. When you drink water, your body releases stored up liquid that is causing you to be bloated. Try to drink at least 6-8 glasses of water a day. Green tea is another wonderful liquid to be drinking. It has scientifically been proven to help you lose weight. It also has a lot of other wonderful properties that are extremely beneficial to you. So drink up. The recommended amount is 3 cups per day. So cheers to green tea.

Cut out the soda

Soda, even diet soda, has carbonation in it. This causes bloating in the stomach and causes your clothing to not fit. You want to cut out all sodas or carbonated beverages at least a few days before your big date. See above and drink water or green tea instead.

Do not starve yourself

I repeat, do not starve yourself. This is a sure fired way for you to hit McDonalds and Burger King after your date. You will be famished if you do not eat properly the whole week prior to your date. Stick to the basics. Eat lots of fruit, veggies, good proteins (like grilled chicken, fish, tofu, etc.) and complex carbohydrates (see above). You do not need to gain three additional pounds after the date because you went on a huge binge.

Spanx

Drum roll, please, Spanx. If you have not heard of them you are really missing out! These, ladies, are a godsend. You will want to own a pair, or more! Oprah sings their praises. She loves spanx. Spanx are body shaping undergarments designed to give the wearer a slim and shapely appearance. It basically sucks you in, in all of the right places. These and other knockoff brands you can find at any of the major department stores or even Walmart. Just find one that works perfectly under your outfit and voilà you are 10 lbs lighter!! Love it!!

Clothes

This is the cherry on the top. After you have done all of your good work then you finish it off with a great slimming outfit. If you are a pear shape or apple shape, you should probably wear a dress to minimize your hips and butt. I would stay away from pants but if you must then go with a cute pair of bootcut jeans that fit you really well and a long flowing top. Black is always a good color because it is slimming. Big belts also draw attention to your slim waist and away from your bottom half. Dangly earrings are also great because they bring attention to your face. Showing a little bit of cleavage (not too much, you don’t want to look like you are giving the goods away) is always fabulous, too.

So there you have it. Try out these tricks to looking slimmer and see how it goes. The more time you have the better. But no stress, life is too short. Good luck with your date and remember that you are there to have a great time with a hot guy and there is no time to worry about the last few pounds you need to drop. Believe me, he is not thinking about that at all.

Bonus tip: Do not try this without consulting your doctor first…..but back in high school, when the guys on the wrestling team wanted to lose a few pounds very quickly in order to meet their target weight for the upcoming match….I remember seeing them dressing up in layers of hoodie hooded sweatshirts and about 3-4 pairs of sweatpants. They then went for a jog or did some other strenuous physical activity. Again, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR FIRST IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT DOING THIS.

How to quickly lose a few pounds prior to going out on your first date is a post from: Online Dating Matches

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