Dating sucks, but there IS light at the end of the tunnel

I used to hate dating. I really, really hated dating. To me it was just like a job interview. You spend hours getting ready, not to mention days before prepping for the event. If you are a girl, you get your hair cut, waxed, nails done and sometimes even shop for a new outfit. If you are a guy, you spend hours on the internet trying to find the perfect place to go, make reservations, get your outfit together and clean your car. Along with 500 other things that pop up in between all of this that you have to do for your date.

Then you go on your date. You sweat and stress and try to look cool under the pressure. You attempt to come up with funny things to say. You endeavor to laugh appropriately at your date’s jokes. You are constantly gauging the situation to see if your date thinks you are the most wonderful person alive. After it is all said and done, at the end of the night you have the awkward walk to the door, do I kiss or don’t I kiss, and is this where I ask for another date thought running through your head.

Ick. It is a wonder any of us go on dates. Why do we do it? Well, we are looking for the “one”. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince who is the “one”. I know it is torturous. Dating is not always fun. But falling in love is. Think of the last time you were in love. How great is that feeling? Pretty great, huh. It is what drives us as human beings. It is what many a war has been fought over. It makes great movies, great and great songs, timeless. And love is what that terrible thing “dating” leads to.

Think about it. What stories would you have to tell your kids and grandkids if you didn’t go on a few good and bad dates? You wouldn’t have any. And it is the journey, not the destination that makes life worth living. You just have to learn to start enjoying the journey. It can be fun. Sure, there will still be stress but there doesn’t have to be a dread about dating. You are going on a bunch of interviews but love is definitely not work. It takes work, yes. But it is not that job that we all hate. It is a wonderful thing. You get to experience magic when you fall in love. You get to experience meaning and pure bliss.

Doesn’t all of this love talk sound grand? That is why we all date. We are looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. The person we are meant to be with that will see us through thick and thin. The person who will be our biggest cheerleader. The person who will be on our team. The person who will fight the good fight with us. We need a better half. We as humans need human interaction. And finding a soul mate is the best interaction of them all.

Dating=Love. There is no two ways about it. We have to go on dates to fall in love. And once you find the one that is meant to be yours, you love dating. You can’t wait to get dressed up and go out to eat. You love prepping and getting ready so that they continue to be attracted to you and so that they shower you with compliments. You are giddy and can’t wait for your good night kiss. And this great feeling is all thanks to dating.

You just have to turn your perspective around about dating. Don’t think of it like a chore and don’t bring your baggage from past bad dates or bad relationships to your date. You are starting anew. A clean slate. You are going out with this attractive person and you will start a journey tonight. I cannot tell you where it will lead but I can tell you to enjoy it. You just never know when you will be sitting across from your future soul mate that will take your life in a wonderful new direction.

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