10 Tips for Dating After 40
If you’re over 40 years old and are back in the dating scene, finding a mate will seem a lot harder than it was when you were in your twenties. The good news is that there are nearly 127 million Americans aged 40 and over, and more than a third of this age group is single. So, whether you’re interested in getting remarried or you simply want to date casually and test the waters, follow these 8 tips for dating after 40 to ensure that your dating experiences are healthy, happy, and most importantly, fun!
1. Make Your Intentions Clear from the Start
Are you looking for a fling, companionship, or marriage? Clarify your intentions from the get-go so you don’t end up with someone who isn’t on the same page as you are. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and determine your partner’s intentions early on in the relationship to avoid getting burned later.
2. Go to Reunions
Go to high school and college reunions to meet other singles in your age group. You never know… you may rekindle a romance with your high school sweetheart or discover that you’re absolutely smitten with one of your former band camp buddies!
3. Relax
Don’t look at your potential mate as the solution to all of life’s problems. Throw your expectations out the window and simply enjoy the other person’s company for the time being. Even if you two don’t end up becoming an item, at least you’ll make a new friend out of the experience!
4. Go with Your Gut
Since you’re over 40 years old, you’ve probably heard this important piece of advice numerous times, but I’ll say it again just in case. If there’s a funny feeling in your gut, go with it. A date that makes you feel uncomfortable or doubtful in any way probably isn’t worth your time.
5. Go Online
If you visit bars and singles spots in your town, you’ll quickly realize that the same people are always there. Why not expand your horizons a little by venturing online to meet other singles? A world of potential mates will be at your fingertips. There are many top rated online dating websites that cater specifically to the over 40 crowd, as well as large dating websites that accommodate singles of all stripes. Singles 40 and over are a huge growing demographic in all of the online dating sites. If you don’t want to use an online dating site, you can even sign up for general social networking sites and connect with people who share the same interests. If price is a barrier to entry, you can always search for an online coupon code. You can save a lot of money by using an eharmony promotional code, for example.
6. Don’t Rush It Just Because You’re Over 40
Just because you’re dating after 40 doesn’t mean you should move too quickly. Any worthwhile relationship takes time to build, so don’t feel like you have to rush things to an uncomfortable pace. Contrary to popular belief, your time is not running out! If you’re healthy and fit, you’ve got a long life ahead of you.
7. Singles with Baggage
When you date after 40, it’s likely that most of your potential mates have been through a divorce. Just beware of singles that still seem to be carrying baggage from their previous marriages because you might be mere rebound material for them. The general idea is to take things slow and let them progress naturally.
8. Don’t Ask Your Date How Much Money He Makes (Duh!)
Although it might be tempting to find out how much money your date makes, what he does, and what kind of car he drives, don’t make your date feel like he’s applying for a loan. It’ll upset him, and besides, there’s a lot more you have to consider about a potential mate than his assets.
9. Take full advantage of technology in this day and age
Chances are if you haven’t been on a date in 10-20 years, technology and the way couples communicate have changed drastically. The “over 40 crowd” are heavily active online and use text messages, emails, Twitter and even Facebook to stay in touch with friends and family. If you don’t already have a Facebook or Myspace profile, log on and create one. It’s quick and easy to do and you will only increase your chances at finding someone you are interested (you can even meet someone through Facebook by using their search feature).
10. Go at your own pace
Don’t feel rushed into entering into another relationship. Take your time as there is nothing wrong with being single after 40. Sure, you may spend a few lonely nights by yourself, but when you allow a relationship to mature naturally, they generally last a lot longer than ones that are quickly rushed into for the sake of not being alone.
Do you guys have any other tips for dating after 40?
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