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July is here and if you are reading this….chances are you are still single. You still have time to meet that special someone on eHarmony and share in the fun summertime memories !

To quickly get started on your eHarmony experience, simply fill out a free . Be sure to be as honest as you can in your answers because eHarmony will then match you with people whom you are most compatible with based upon your personality profile results.
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Here is the link for the Free $40 value Personality Profile:
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It is very important you take your time in filling out the eHarmony personality profile. Based upon how you answer the questions, eHarmony will match you up with people whom you are most compatible with. Nobody can see the results of your personality profile, unless you allow them to do so.

The greatest thing about this personality profile (aside from the fact of it being completely free) is that after you are done taking it, eHarmony presents to you a 5 page analysis of your personality. This is a GREAT tool you can use to see how other people view you….and perhaps figure out why you aren’t being successful in your efforts to find that special someone.
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Go for broke. Find your soul mate. Do not settle nor compromise your values. Your soul mate is out there, you just need to find them, and it might take some time. It took my best friend well over a year to find her husband on eHarmony. Within that year as an eHarmony member (and before she met her soon-to-be husband on eHarmony) she seriously dated 2 guys. I remember meeting both of these guys on different occasions and I was amazed that she finally started dating quality guys.
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How to use an eHarmony promotional code:

I have had several people ask me “How do I use an eHarmony promo code”?

It is very simple. The first thing you need to do is take the eHarmony personality profile. There are a few pages of multiple choice questions that you must answer. After you are done, eHarmony then analyzes this information and diagnoses your personality traits based upon the outside academic and internal psychological research that is ongoing. eHarmony spends a lot of money on academic and internal studies of human compatibility. They then take their findings and incorporate it into the eHarmony experience. The goal at eHarmony is to match you with the person whom you are most compatible with and will most likely wind up in a loving, lasting relationship. Unlike the other online dating services which just give you a rinky-dink analysis, eHarmony provides a scientific based matchmaking system that is geared towards success.

After you are done with the personality profile, eHarmony then presents to you their analysis and then shows you the people whom you are most compatible with. You can view your matches for free. It is at this point that you must decide which eHarmony subscription package to join. I tell my readers that in my opinion, the best way to increase your chances at success on eHarmony is to purchase a 6 or 12 month subscription. Why? Simply put: Do you honestly think you are going to find your soulmate in as little as a month? Think of the one person in life whom you will really and truly fall in love with. Let’s call them “the one”. Finding this person in a month is kind of like walking into a Karate studio and expecting to become a black belt in 30 short days. Unless you are Bruce Lee…..chances are you might need to put forth some effort into finding greatness.

Simply copy down (or click the link) of any eHarmony promotional code above that you wish to use and enter it into the box labeled “promo code”. That’s it ! You will be well on your way to enjoying your eHarmony experience !

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entire summer months with them.

To quickly get started on your eHarmony
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and then eHarmony will show you a detailed
analysis of your personality as well as allow
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Here is the link for the Free $40 value Personality Profile:
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Link Expires: 6/30/2009

Take your time in filling out the personality profile. It is critical
that you answer each and every question as honestly as you can.

eHarmony will then show you a detailed personality report based
upon your answers to the personality questions. You will then
be allowed to view your matches for free.
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expiration date of 5/31/09
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The following eharmony promotional code will be
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is no need to enter in an eHarmony promotional code

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In order to use one of these eharmony promotional code, simply
goto eHarmony and fill out a personality profile. This tells the
eHarmony matchmaking system a little bit about your personality.
The system will then match you with people whom you are most
compatible with according to your personality profile.

When you are ready to purchase a membership, choose your
membership length. I would advise choosing a 6 or 12 month
subscription because this gives you a greater chance at finding
the love of your life. Then look for the box that says “eharmony
promo code” and enter in the applicable promo code.

That’s it !
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Some people have found success in choosing a 6 or 12 month
eHarmony subscription over a 1 and 3 month subscription.
Although the cost is higher in the short run…it actually works
out to be cheaper once you think about it. If you use an eHarmony
promotional code you will be saving quite a few dollars on the 6 or
12 month sub. Not to mention that if you are really looking for
a long term relationship, you will be wasting your time after your
1 or 3 month subscription expires. Finding the love of your life
is no different than working out when trying to lose weight. It
is not going to happen overnight. Granted the matches that
eHarmony will send you are of the utmost quality, but you need
to realize that not everyone you have an instantaneous connection
with will result in a long term relationship. It is best you take your
time and really get to know yourself prior to committing to a full time
relationship. That way you can reasonably enter into the relationship
with the assumption that you know that this is the right person for you !

This article is going to teach you how to write a great (not good) email on eHarmony or any other online dating service.

Over the course of any given month, I get about 40-50 emails from people asking me for dating advice. Lately I have been noticing a trend amongst the females in which they are not able to get guys to respond to their emails. For illustration purposes, I am going to use my friend Sally who came to me with the exact same problem last week.

Sally is a very attractive 26 year old. She has a good job and comes from a great family. She is funny and witty and the exact type of girl that any guy would dream of dating. With one exception…

In the past week and a half, she has emailed about 15 different guys and not one has responded to her request for communication. I took a look at her personality profile, then took a look at her emails and found the root cause of the problem. I asked her to write an email to one of her matches, but not send it.

She gave me her permission to cut and paste the email into this post:

“Hi John ! I just got back from Pilates class and I’m tired. Work was just out of hand today…Had 3 meetings and the second one caused me to be late for the third one. Oh well, I shouldn’t complain because for the past 4 years I have been working towards this promotion and I guess it comes with the territory. After work I had exactly 30 minutes to drop my car off at the dealership before Pilates class began. The girl at the rental car place was taking her sweet time and the printer was malfunctioning so by the time I got out of there I was already 15 minutes late to class.

- Sally

Ok, so what we have here on the surface is a seemingly innocuous looking email from Sally to a guy named John. In it, she describes her hectic day and how nobody/nothing was on time. That nice….if “John” was the brand name of a diary that she picked up at Staples instead of a live human being.

When John reads this email, what is he going to think/say? I would consider myself a master linguist and even I would have a hard time responding to that email. Sally gave John nothing to go off of. She basically treated him as if he was her personal diary. This is extremely impersonal and basically says to John:

“Hey, I’m the center of attention here and TMZ and the Paparazzi should be following me around with a t.v. crew and camera to document the most mundane events in my life.” See you at 6:30pm on Fox Channel 11 right after the Simpsons !!

This email is a clear red flag to John that she might be somewhat self absorbed (perhaps a bit shallow) and atrocious at interpersonal communication skills. I have known Sally for almost 10 years and she does not fit into one of those categories. Sally is relatively new to online dating and doesn’t realize that there is an unwritten code of conduct when it comes to writing emails. I pointed this out to her and she told me that she really couldn’t think of anything interesting to say….

Sally met John through eHarmony. I told her that it was inexcusable that she could not think of anything interesting to say to him. Had she been a member of one of the “lower end” online dating services, wherein all you have to go off of is a cheesy picture and a couple of paragraphs of “about me” then I could plausibly understand….but not with eHarmony.

In a nutshell, before you are given the option to freely communicate with your matches on eHarmony, you must first go through something called “guided communication” wherein you have to choose 4 questions to send to your match. eHarmony already gives you the questions (or you can ask your own) and all your match has to do is respond to those questions either in their own words or pre-answers that eHarmony lists.

So before you get to the point where you can freely communicate back and forth in the eHarmony system, you have already gotten to know quite a bit about the other person. There is a ton of information that you can use to compose a very well written, thoughtful email to your matches on eHarmony.

I told Sally that she should have gone back to those Q&A “guided communication” section and pulled a couple of good questions from his answers. She could have asked him to expand upon his love for dining and cooking. She could have asked him where he plans on traveling this year since he told her that he loves to travel internationally. In the end, I took a look at her guided communication with John and created a sample email that she SHOULD have sent him in the first place:

“Hey John ! Well, we finally made it to open communication ! So tell me a bit more about your love for cooking….what’s your favorite cooking style? Mine is Italian. I don’t cook as often as I like to due to my sometimes hectic work schedule, but when I do I love to make the same pasta dishes that my Grandmother brought here from the old country. Any plans on going out of the country this year? I just got back from Hawaii a few months ago (for work). I haven’t been outside the country but am starting to do some research on flights as I would love to go to Italy this summer.

- Sally

The above email was short and sweet, yet to the point. In it, there are many topics of discussion that John can “pull from” to reply back with a great response. Trust me, if a man is into you….and you send him an email that is similar to what I just wrote, he will have no problem composing a great reply.

That email did not give out any irrelevant information about Sally (that would raise a red flag in John’s mind). Sally instead greeted him, picked out two things to further expand upon (that they briefly spoke about via “guided communication”) and then said her goodbye. Sally did not come off as desperate, needy, clingy or gave off any sort of red flags that would send John packing for the hills. It did however give John much information to pull from when he writes his reply back to Sally.

Long emails are fine….just not for the first 3 or 4 times you communicate. Long winded emails are a very good indication of chemistry and attraction, but when you start throwing out irrelevant information from the get-go, you are only scaring people away.

This interview is continued from “Interview with a Cougar, Part 2.“

…we somehow wound up in my bedroom. We were both heavily intoxicated and we wound up having sex. It was honestly the best sex I have had since….I honestly cannot remember when. After a few months of seeing each other (including a 3 some with his 20 year old friend) it kind of fizzled out. It was at this point I had apparently made a name for myself and had several young men in their late teens/early 20’s that were wanting to date me.

ODM: I see….so what exactly was it about 18 and 19 year old guys that did it for you?

Debra: At first it was the excitement of it all….then after a while it was really more about convenience than anything else. Everything was light and breezy….no pressure, no having to stress about going out or dealing with “issues” that most single men my age have. I did not need a man to take care of me financially, so that really only left one particular area that needed to be serviced.

ODM: What did your friends think?

Debra: I hang out with a loosely knit group of 30-40 year old professional women. We used to think of ourselves as the “LA version” of Sex and the City. Having a 19 year old boytoy by my side was just like rocking the latest Prada handbag. It was the one fashion accessory that most women my age could not get because Father Time had not been as kind to them as he was to me. A few of my friends who had sons that were 18 and 19 years old did frown upon it a bit but I paid them no attention. “Jealousy” was the first word that crossed my mind whenever someone said something negative…

ODM: So after the initial excitement died down….when did you start taking interest in seriously dating younger men for a committed relationship?

Debra: I would say probably after the first year or so. I only dated 4 guys in that period of time, and all were brief flings. I was at one of the local bars down in Newport Beach with a group of girlfriends. There was this one young man, impeccably dressed….and he had this air of confidence to himself that is normally found in professional men in their 50’s and 60’s. He was the one who approached me and we spent the entire night together drinking and dancing. He asked for my phone number at the end of the night and I really didn’t give it any second thought. I was not expecting him to call me back. Sure enough a few days later my phone rings and he was asking me out to dinner. One thing led to another and in a few short weeks we were boyfriend girlfriend. During the entire course of that relationship, it became very clear to me that dating younger men was the only way to go. An older man could NOT possibly give me everything this 25 year old had to offer. Great body, hot looks, funny, charming, not jaded, no ex-wife/alimony/child support baggage…..Just a great human being that loved to go out and enjoy life. Isn’t that what we are all looking for?

ODM: Are you still dating him?

Debra: No, it ended after about 8 months for reasons that I would rather not get into. We are still very good friends and I care a lot about him.

ODM: Are you single now?

Debra: Yes.

ODM: Where do you go to find younger men? How do you go about approaching them without it turning into a potentially awkward moment?

Debra: Well, truth be told….there have been no awkward moments when it comes to picking up younger guys. If I’m out at a trendy bar or even at the supermarket I can tell right off the bat that they are into me. If I can compare men to books for a minute…..the “older” men in their 40’s and 50’s are kind of like an advanced Trigonometry math book. Hard as hell to understand their motives/intentions and even harder to force myself to like. Younger men in their late teens/early 20’s are kind of like a Dr. Seuss book. Fun, entertaining and by just looking at the cover of the book, you already know what it’s about. Hop on Pop; Green Eggs and Ham, Thank you Ma’am.

When a 20 year old guy is staring at you from across the way, it is a pretty forgone conclusion that he wants to talk to you. Most guys that age are typically shy and as such I find myself being the one having to initiate conversation and breaking the ice. These same guys have told me that it was so easy to talk to me and that they felt very comfortable from the minute I walked over there and started to chit-chat. They also have told me that it is not the same way when it comes to talking to women their own age.

ODM: Let’s talk about the “S” word for a minute….

Debra: (nervous laugh)

ODM: “Sugar Mommy”. Do you find that most younger guys expect you to pay their way and shower them with gifts and whatnot?

Debra: Honestly? No. Most guys that age are poor, broke college students and are somewhat shy about going out because they feel that they have to pay because they are the guy. I make it a point to let them know from the start that I realize that they are just starting out in life and I have no problem footing the bill most (read: all) of the time. They seem to like it. My last boyfriend was a sophomore in college and was working as a waiter making minimum wage and tips. I think that amounted to a little under $250 a week in take-home. I took him out one weekend to South Coast Plaza (an affluent mall located in Orange County, Ca. – Karen) and bought him $2500.00 worth of new clothes. About half of that was spent on dress clothes. I would also give him $500 a week in cash to spend on food/etc. Life is tough when you are in your early 20’s, going to school and working a crap job. I had the means to support him and I also cared very deeply for him….so why not?

ODM: Where there ever any indications that he was just using you for sex and money?

Debra: Never did that thought occur to me. You can pretty much tell within the first few dates if it is going to turn into a real relationship or just some fling. I’m over the “flings” and am looking for a real relationship.

ODM: Have you ever tried an online dating service?

Debra: I am currently a member of 2 online dating services. There seems to be one in particular that for whatever reason attracts younger men looking to date older women. With online dating, it is very easy to weed out the good ones from the bad ones and at the end of the night I’m not stuck with a $150 bar tab and a hangover the next morning.

ODM: So where do you see yourself in 5-10 years from now?

Debra: In a loving, committed relationship with a man 15-20 years my junior. I realize that society in general is becoming more liberal and accepting than it was 20 years ago. Although, there are still people out there who frown upon my choice of lifestyle. I realize this and as such try to keep my dating preferences a secret as much as I can. At the end of the day and when it is all said and done, all that matters is that you are spending the night with the person that makes you happy the most.

ODM: Do you have any thoughts for young men/older women who are looking to try dating each other?

Debra: Sure.

Younger men: If it is just a sexual fantasy to “hook up” with an older woman, and you have no further intentions in life than that, please let them know from the beginning. Even though we are a bit “older”, we still have feelings. If you are looking for a relationship, be honest and treat us with respect. We have a lot to offer you (more than most women your age) and you will soon come to find out just how rewarding it is to be dating a woman that is older than you.

Cougars: This is it ladies. We have finally come to a point in life where we don’t need a man our age to take care of us financially. We are tired of the b.s. that is sometimes associated with dating men our own age. Be proud of the fact that you are a liberated, strong female and empower yourself in your daily life. When you are dating younger men, realize that even though they are younger, they are still men. There are good apples and there are bad apples. Keep your eyes open, and feet on the ground and when you do finally find that special guy you will find yourself experiencing a richness in life in ways you never thought imaginable.